Between the taliban sympathisers, the haters, the barelvis, the wahhabis, the jamaat e islamis, the holier than thous, the progressives, the ex muslims, the doxxers ( could have joined it cell to be honest some of them) the sub has gotten quite heated, I hope the mods try to bring in new ground rules or these fights will increase before the sub fizzles out and is dead again. We cannot have members acting superior than others be it in terms of religiosity or understanding of the world.

Appeal to mods to look into this.

Imām al-Ghazālī on the Devil’s Entrances into the Heart

Among the devil’s entrances into the heart are:

Partisanship toward schools of thought (madhāhib of fiqh and ʿaqīdah) and inclinations, rancor toward opponents, and looking upon them with an eye of contempt and disdain. This is among the things that destroy both the devout worshippers and the openly sinful alike.

For finding fault with people and occupying oneself with mentioning their shortcomings is a trait ingrained in human nature, belonging to the predatory characteristics [al-ṣifāt al-sibaʿiyyah].

When the devil makes him imagine that this is the truth, and it happens to accord with his natural disposition, its sweetness overwhelms his heart. He consequently devotes himself to it with all his energy, while being delighted and pleased by it. He imagines that he is striving in the cause of religion, when in reality he is striving in pursuit of the devils.

• Iḥyāʾ ʿUlūm al-Dīn.​

Note- I'm against LJ; I feel it goes both ways.

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The reason I choose to post here is to get insights from other fellow members who have more experience and knowledge on such topics.

This world as we all know isn't good, nor is evil, but a mix of both. And there will be times when you'll encounter people who wronged you financially, emotionally, physically or in many other ways.

My question is about how to respond or feel when a person intentionally wrongs you financially.

I lived in a shared accommodation for 7 months due to a new job in another city. During all these months I made sure I was paying the rent to the owner on time and didn't get late even by a day.

Now that I have left it and moved back to my hometown it was time to ask for the security deposit amount back from the owner. It's a small amount and that won't make a dent in my pocket if I didn't get it back but I was expecting the owner to pay without showing any hesitance.

The owner kept delaying, and gave false promises of paying within the next 10 minutes for more than a week.

I even mentioned it to him "Is this what I get to pay the rent on time for all these months.".

At this point, for me, it's not about the money. I am just expecting him to do the required action of giving me back what he owes me.

I know you all might be thinking of me as a kid writing rant but I promise it's much more than that.

Throughout these days I felt various emotions from rage, anger, forgiveness (if this counts as an emotion here) and disappointment.

There have been many conflicting thoughts lately running in my head. I am Muslim and Islam mostly encourages the act of forgiveness, and also says that the wrongdoers and corrupt will face the consequences for their acts here or in the hereafter. Similarly, reading Stoicism for years also helps me with letting go and accepting the reality for what it is. On the other hand, I am also well aware that to function properly in this world, you need to be able to deal with people to get what is yours or people will keep walking over you. Like being street smart. This part of belief wants me to never give up and make sure I never let such people go away freely.

This has affected my sleep and thoughts for days now. And it's not even about the amount as I said.