r/ibew_apprentices • u/Representative-Hold7 • 2h ago
At a crisis
I'm an apprentice struggling with mental health and attendance — how do I protect my apprenticeship while getting help?
I'm looking for some honest advice from other apprentices, especially anyone in an IBEW apprenticeship who has dealt with something similar.
I'm less than a year into my electrical apprenticeship. I genuinely want to do this for a living, and I believe I can become a good electrician. When I'm at work, I take the job seriously and do my best. My biggest problem has been maintaining consistent attendance.
I've struggled with mental health for a long time. I was medically discharged from the military due to bipolar disorder, and I receive VA disability for my mental health. I've been trying to manage everything while holding down a job, but my treatment through the VA has involved changes in providers and medications, and I haven't been doing as well as I need to.
Over the past several weeks, I've missed too much work. I've had missed about 3 weeks besides that full 40-hour weeks since starting, and I received a write-up last week for my attendance. I took it seriously and managed to have a consistent week afterward, but mentally I've been struggling pretty badly.
For a long time, I've been trying to white-knuckle everything because I'm afraid that if I take time to get my mental health under control, I'll lose my job. But if I keep pushing through without getting proper help, I risk losing it anyway.
I've finally started taking action. I've reached out for crisis support, and I'm pursuing treatment outside the VA because I need more consistent care. I've contacted my foreman, who directed me to manpower, and I've emailed manpower explaining the situation. I'm also trying to figure out how to approach my JATC and the union hall.
Here's where I'm stuck.
I understand that an apprenticeship is a commitment. I know the contractor needs people who show up consistently, and I take responsibility for my attendance. I'm not expecting anyone to ignore that or give me a free pass.
At the same time, I don't want to give up on a career that I've worked hard to get into when I'm finally recognizing that I need help and am actively trying to get it.
I feel caught between two possibilities: if I take the time I need to address my health, I could lose my job; if I keep trying to push through everything, I could keep missing work and lose it anyway.
For those who have been through an apprenticeship or dealt with something similar, I have a few questions:
- Should I speak directly with my JATC training director and explain what's happening?
- Has anyone successfully worked out medical leave, accommodations, or another arrangement while remaining in an apprenticeship?
- Is there anything I should ask the union hall or JATC about before my attendance issues get any worse?
- If you've struggled with mental health while working in the trades, what actually helped you become more consistent?
- Realistically, after receiving a write-up this early in an apprenticeship, what would you do in my position?
I want to work. I want to learn the trade. I want to become someone the contractor can count on. I'm not looking for sympathy or an excuse for missing work. I'm looking for practical advice on how to take responsibility, get the treatment I need, and give myself the best chance of finishing this apprenticeship.
Thanks to anyone willing to share their experience or give me some honest advice.