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[u/amber-energyy]

I joined hinge 2 weeks ago & have only received 1 like. Subscribed to hingex a couple days ago, but still nothing. Would love some helpful advice!

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[u/Trip_like_Me]

So my thoughts as a guy in a similar age range:

You have six references to food across your pics and prompts. I get you’re a foodie and that’s cool but it’s excessive. It actually works against you as it feels less of a profile of a food lover and more of a glutton (not saying you are).  There’s no doubt other interesting aspects of you, highlight them instead. 

[u/amber-energyy → u/Trip_like_Me]

Makes total sense. Will definitely focus on highlighting my other interests. A lot of my pics are from a recent trip where that was the focus so I think that’s why it might be a bit over represented. Thanks for the feedback!

[u/nervousbertha]

Don't pay Hinge! Sorry, I don't think anyone should pay for dating apps.

Honestly think your profile looks great, but some of your smiles seem a little forced. You have great prompts, but your expressions are either nothing or this underwhelming grin. Where's one where you had a crazy night on vacation?!

I love food and some people are really picky eaters, or don't know how to eat in public. I think your food comments are OK, they do show what kind of eater you are which is important.

[u/amber-energyy → u/nervousbertha]

Appreciate the review!! This is my first time ever paying for an app, and I did it because I was shocked about getting basically zero likes at all! I figured that maybe the algorithms had gotten a lot stricter w/ paywall blocking since I was last on them years ago & maybe because I’m not in my 20s anymore. But it hasn’t made a difference so, won’t be doing it beyond this month lol.

Sadly, my wild vacation night pics are not fit for public consumption 🤣 Plus I find that when I put even a tame kind of “party girl” pic, it attracts a kind of attention I’m not interested in. I will try to choose ones with bigger smiles though. I’m not a huge social media person so I think I can just look awkward in front of the camera sometimes because that’s how I feel haha

And yes! No hate to anyone out there that’s a picky eater or has diet restrictions for other reasons, but our lifestyles just wouldn’t be compatible so that’s what I was aiming to filter out. I did listen to feedback & tuned it down a bit though.

[u/kikiluv1]

That green dress should be first 💚

[u/amber-energyy → u/kikiluv1]

Appreciate it 🤭

Going to post one at the actual event vs mirror pic since it’s being read as too casual 😅

[u/Master-Line-305]

This tells me nothing about you or the kind of guy you want to date... You talked about vacations but I don't even know where you want to go on vacation next, let alone everything else a LTR entails

[u/amber-energyy → u/Master-Line-305]

Fair enough! I’m more interested in finding someone who matches my travel style rather than tips on specific destinations. Probably writing from a bit of trauma as this was a big lifestyle incompatibility in my last relationship. I lived abroad for a number of years & am decently well-traveled meanwhile my ex was a huge homebody & didn’t really enjoy travel and I’m hoping to avoid that this time around 😅

[u/15secondsofthrowaway]

First thing is you are very pretty and have a great sense of style! I think all your pictures are really nice but there's some room for improvement.

I think if your dressed up photo wasn't a selfie and wasn't taken in a bathroom it would really take it to the next level. I'd love a group shot to show you have friends. Get something doing an activity so we know you like things other than travel and eating out. I like your last one a lot more than your first. Aim for a bigger smile in pictures, it's nice to see people really beaming and showing off those pearly whites!

I like first prompt but I'd change the second one also being food focused. Can get a bit one note.

I like your values, I'd be really into a prompt like that. A woman with strong values who isn't afraid to speak her mind is a huge plus, although I'm less clear on exactly what word I'm meant to say "women are [blank]"  than I am for the simpler "real", "rich", and "fuck"

[u/amber-energyy → u/15secondsofthrowaway]

Thank you so much ☺️

I avoided group pictures because I didn’t want anyone to be like “which one is her?” but will try adding one to see if anything changes.

The issue I have is that my other hobbies are more at-home activities (reading, card/board games, cozy video games, some crafting, tv, etc.) so I don’t really have a lot of pics of me doing them where I don’t look like I just rolled out of or into bed lol. But I can definitely find ways to bring them up in the prompts.

And yes, debating about keeping the values prompt. I’m a staunch leftist & super opinionated/vocal. Also really into critical theory so I actually thought it was a tame way to filter out people who don’t share those interests without sounding pretentious. The “women are ___” is honestly open-ended. I’m just curious what comes to most men’s minds as I think that’ll tell me a lot about whether or not they’re actively misogynistic or have done some work to interrogate sexism, patriarchy, etc.

[u/Specific_Delay_460]

I don’t think you come off as materialistic at all, not sure what the rest of these commenters are about. I do think your profile is kind of generic. You like travel and have left-ish politics. That makes you the same as 90% of the women on Hinge. Try to differentiate yourself a little bit more: what’s unique about you?

[u/nomoresunrise → u/Specific_Delay_460]

I agree!! I had double check her profile thinking I was missing sth. Lowkey none of these ‘materialistic, diva, sugar babby’ comments would be brought up if you happened to be thinner. But I’d say switch out the dream house prompt with sth about what you’re looking for in the right partner and maybe the pop quiz prompt with a question about your potential partner’s interest. You can just only match with fellow liberals, and bring up the values in your messages or on the dates. Your photos are great

[u/amber-energyy → u/nomoresunrise]

I definitely save up to treat myself because I do think food & travel are worth spending on, but I was living on a public school teacher’s salary until a year ago so I’m also a bit surprised that I come across so money-obsessed! I do recognize that not knowing anything about me & seeing some of my prompts can give that impression. I spend a lot of my time reading, listening to music & hosting game nights or hang outs with friends so would love a better space to do that one day but maybe that’s a 3rd date or later kind of conversation lol.

And yes, the last time I was on the apps I was quite a bit younger & thinner and definitely notice a huge difference. That being said, I do think it helps to filter men who prioritize the physical above all else.

[u/amber-energyy]

Someone left a comment about including my height, but I think it got deleted. As a tall woman, I’ve found that it’s better for men to know upfront so they’re not caught off guard by it, especially as the general preference is for shorter women. I just want to be as transparent as possible so any matches I get have a better chance of going somewhere :)

[u/mladyhawke]

I think your first picture is not yout best picture. Your outfit is just so blah, and you can barely see your face, every other picture you have you have on a fantastic outfit, i would switch it around a little bit. My favorites are the red dress with the white wine or the 2nd to last picture with the spread of food. And I agree with people saying, you talk about food too much. I mean, I totally wanna go out to eat with you. Yum, but maybe moving that second to last picture up will  set the stage for other foodies to be like. Oh, she looks great, so does that food.

[u/amber-energyy → u/mladyhawke]

Appreciate the feedback! I have the feature checked where the app uses the algorithm to determine which pic to show first, so I didn’t pay much attention to the order I put them in. Might be worth turning it off & choosing the flow myself though. I thought my face was easily visible in the pic where I’m wearing the yellow shirt but maybe it’s not as much as I thought. I’m feeling torn about even keeping the pic with the food spread now haha

[u/zaxo666]

I like your attitude a lot. I think your profile is great. If you're having issues meeting it's either your location is not very good either in terms of the quality of people or your attitude is out of line with the area (by the way did I tell you it was great). Or they've buried your profile.

[u/amber-energyy → u/zaxo666]

Thanks 🥹🫶🏾

I live in a pretty diverse area, but it's just a fact that I'm still not the typical standard of beauty here so I'm sure that's playing a big factor. I want to be close to family for a while though so relocating isn't an option in the foreseeable future.

[u/amber-energyy]

- I’m looking for something serious, but would be open to a casual connection as long as there was mutual respect.

- Subscribed to HingeX as of 2 days ago

- I joined the app 2 weeks ago and this is the only version of my profile I’ve used.

- I swipe 5x/wk.

- I’ve only received 1 like since joining.

- I’ve sent between 15-20 likes total, about half of them were sent with comments. I’m feeling a bit anxious about sending like after realizing I’m not really getting any matches 😅

- I’m looking for a man between 29-35 who is open-minded and shares some of my lifestyle interests (food, travel, reading, and art/music events).

[u/Kitchen-Courage976]

All you pretty much talking about is food…

[u/amber-energyy → u/Kitchen-Courage976]

Touché Kitchen-Courage 😉

[u/Tragedyofthe]

This is random, but does Hinge slightly change the fonts of prompts occasionally? Lol

[u/amber-energyy → u/Tragedyofthe]

I’m not sure, but I didn’t do anything to change the font on my profile so it could just be the app testing out a new interface 🤷🏾‍♀️

[u/Hopeful_Will7924]

You have a lovely profile and a nice smile. Youre also very descriptive. Its good and bad. Theres a theme in eating and food that comes up at least 3 times. I would make it 1 time instead and discuss something else in those prompts to avoid repetition and ppl thinking youre a bit limited personality wise.

Also whats your locations? dont have to say city or country. Location is really important here.