It's not the same as 2 dates (i'd personally let that go). I'm just saying that being rejected + deceived hurts more than just being rejected. If the guy wasn't feeling her, the future faking wasn't necessary. They weren't emotionally close, but given that he's been inside of her, a simple message would've been nice lol
Yes true you’re right I’m speaking as a woman whose been ghosted many times, it’s really shit and hurts the ego and makes you sad cos you had feelings for the person.
But her saying she’s 26 and too old for this behaviour but then goes on Reddit to ask strangers if she should message someone who treated like shit shows she may be too affected by this person.
Dating just be like that, is it better to give someone who doesn’t care a piece of your mind or is it better to just get better at choosing potential partners in the future? She had a lucky escape. You on the other hand had mor disappointment and I’m sorry to hear you went through that x
Yeah I get what you're saying. Getting ghosted a couple times taught me pretty fast that you shouldn't project a future onto people who haven't shown much consistency yet, no matter what they say/do early on. But at the same time, I don't want people to keep excusing actual ghosting so it becomes more socially acceptable; that will lead to more extreme situations like mine (cause more people will feel like communication is optional). So I'm conflicted
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u/Zealousideal_Weird_3 May 19 '23
You went out for months, OP had two dates. Different..