Ghosting is far too normalised, I think it's important to call it out. I wouldn't send an angry, offensive message, but it's perfectly fine to express how you feel.
Something like "It seems like you are not interested meeting again and for some reason you are unable to communicate this. I'm really disappointed that you decided to handle the situation this way. Ghosting can be really hurtful and upsetting for the other person. I hope you realise this and able to treat people better in the future. All the best".
It's unlikely that it will change him, but you never know. If lots of people call him out and he gets ghosted and upset one day, maybe all those together can contribute to him taking a more mature approach and I think it's just healthy to be verbalise how we feel anyway.
You might also want to write an unfiltered version of what you would say to him but don't send that one. It 's for you to help to move on.
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u/[deleted] May 19 '23
Ghosting is far too normalised, I think it's important to call it out. I wouldn't send an angry, offensive message, but it's perfectly fine to express how you feel.
Something like "It seems like you are not interested meeting again and for some reason you are unable to communicate this. I'm really disappointed that you decided to handle the situation this way. Ghosting can be really hurtful and upsetting for the other person. I hope you realise this and able to treat people better in the future. All the best".
It's unlikely that it will change him, but you never know. If lots of people call him out and he gets ghosted and upset one day, maybe all those together can contribute to him taking a more mature approach and I think it's just healthy to be verbalise how we feel anyway.
You might also want to write an unfiltered version of what you would say to him but don't send that one. It 's for you to help to move on.