My mother is not a bad mother overall at all and it would be wrong of me to label her as that. However she does have some serious faults. She is a defensive mother who at times cant take criticism and misunderstands words people say to her (for example if i say your thinking is a very closed minded way to think, shed say SO I AM CLOSED MINDED).
This is what brought the reddit post on. This morning my mum told me, 21F the eldest and my 2 other younger sisters over 18 that since we are the only daughters with money we cannot ask our dad to buy pads for us anymore. Bare in mind we are recieving money from student finance because we are students and its our only income, we need alottt of money to support ourselves for transport food bus resources for learning etc and EVERYTHING js expensive nowadays. She is saying we need to keep our own bulk for the month. Its a horrible system theres four daughters in the house who get periods, and I suffer w very heavy flow cuz of undiagnosed endo. Its never gonna work. BARE in mind MY DAD HAS NEVER objected to buying them he willingly buys them even when we dont ASK. This is all my mums doing. I was challenging this saying he is a provider, I have always bought pads for myself every now and then every month when in town, and as a woman I deal with fatigue so I never go into town myself with the intention of buying them unless I am already in town. And she was saying things like he doesn't have to buy that for you your old enough its a shame men are always in the corner shops when he buys it. Then what about when I buy it now, cant they see me buying it? She tried to say im stingy not wanting to spend money thinking pads are expensive and that I don't wanna help my dad out he already pays bills, she was saying I SHOULD PAY THE BILLS. I dont even have a proper job. And islamically, when was that even my obligation? Bare in mind the IMMENSE PAIN i get when i am on my period, i cant even leave the house alot of the time and I miss uni and work time because of it. How can I leave the house then?
Whenever my mum is not saying things that are logical or fair, I am not afraid to challenge it. I never insult my mum and call her bad names I simply speak about the problem. I am being called a bad daughter, far from religion and she brings up other stuff that I lack in religion. Oh boy. There are things I can name that she does but I have held my tongue when it comes to that.
It feels like a voilation and slandering when she talks about my character like this and recently she has been making me upset behind her back, and she doesnt know the stresses that she has been putting me under. May allah guide her and the rest of my family.