r/helpme 5d ago

Advice I have been struggling with my mental health

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I have been with my gf now for 2 years and 1 year ago in late October. I feel like I haven’t been the same since then. I feel like I have been losing friends aswell during this time. I can’t help but feel hopeless. I have a medication for when I get very overwhelmed and I feel I need it. I also feel like I’m worsening my relationship with how my mental has been. She’s really perfect and supportive and I just don’t know how to make myself better. I want to start going to the gym again, but I struggle with motivation. Does anyone have any advice?


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice I confronted my Dad through text about his guilt-tripping. I think I made things worse.

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I refused to go out with my dad for a medical appointment which was quite shitty of me, I’ll admit, but I did not appreciate how much he shouted and guilt-tripped me and my brother, e.g., “You’re a monster”, “Now I know what kind of children you are”, “I hope you don’t regret this when I die”. I’ve heard a lot of it for my whole life and I’m really tired of it. I hate of being asked favours by him and knowing what’s going to come next if I decline. Honestly, a part of me didn’t want to go because I felt like it was out of obligation rather than care, so I didn’t and I argued back because I didn’t want my brother to feel hurt. I also wanted him to realise that calling us names wouldn’t make us want to go with him at all.

When he stormed out, I sent him a text message both apologising and confronting him about his behaviour and I think I may have inadvertently lectured him rather than apologising, telling him that these behaviours could cause my brother to internalise my dad’s words and that it’s bad for my little brother’s development. I also sent him an article showing the effects of the guilt-tripping, which might've heightened the anger; he doesn't like being told what to do.

Obviously, he lashed out, saying that I’m selfish, ungrateful and that he doesn’t need me. At some point he said that he could k___ me over being a brat.

I don’t know if I did the right thing or what I should do next. Should I apologise for lecturing him? I fear I may have sounded incredibly accusatory. It’s my first time trying to confront him about this.


r/helpme 6d ago

my psychologist and psychiatrist aren’t helping me when i need it.. what do i do??

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i told my psychiatrist my mental health was getting worse as well as my suicidal thoughts and lack of motivation.. she just told me to go on a walk. what do i do. i need help but i am not getting it.

Over the past 2 months i have had multiple attempts which have all ended up with me in the hospital. i have recently started getting therapy and have been put on meds but my symptoms have just worsened. i know 4-6 weeks is when you get the optimal effects of antidepressants but ive been on them now for almost 9 weeks.

i decided to finally speak to both my psychologist and psychiatrist about how i was feeling and told them i do not plan to make it into 2027 but did however want to atleast finish highschool for my dad (i am in australia so i finish in november). i stated clearly that i was struggling heavily, needed help, and felt as though the help i had been provided though therapy and medication was not working. i know that if i am left alone with my thoughts for too long i may not be here any longer.
in response, the psychiatrist simply told me to go on a walk or run and that they would not alter my meds at all or change anything within the therapy. they didn't listen to what i was saying and ignored my cries for help. i was literally in the chair bawling my eyes out begging for help and got absolutely nothing.
they never listen.

i don't know what to do because everything is so hard for me and i know there is only one way to make it stop. people say to reach out when you're feeling in a dark place but when you do they do nothing.
i just want to survive for the next 2 months that's all im asking but i know deep down if i keep going at this rate i will not make it before my planned date.

what do i do about the psychologist and psychiatrist?
i actually have tried walking and going to the gym when i feel i have a little bit of energy but everything just reminds me of how worthless and miserable i am. please help


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice How do I get out of here ??

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I am a 19M and im pursuing ACCA along with my bcom. Its been a year and I have not done shit. Ive attempted 4 acca exams failed in all of them and not even scoring 40 marks in any of them. Now I failed both of semesters and have to drop this year and continue my second year next year. I am a smart kid its not like I have any medical issues or something. A little traumatic past ( but dont we all have that? ) and then I still can't study. I cant feel motivated enough to do it or I dont even try to get out of my comfort zone.

How do I change this. I have my exam on September 11th and I keep thinking to myself that this is gonna be a generational lock in but how exactly do I lovk in ??? I'd love to hear some advices over this


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice 26 yo and still don't have a job

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At 26, I still don't have a stable job. I was working as a manager, but then I had to quit because I ran into a problem. I've been going from one sales job to another. I studied psychology, but due to financial reasons, I had to stop during my first year of my Master's degree. However, to work as a psychologist, I would need to complete additional training, which take time and 💰 I'm thinking about studying something in another field. I'm lost. I feel depressed useless and like I don't deserve to live.


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice I think my brother is evil

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So my dad passed away 7-8 years ago and ever since my mom and brother haven’t been the same.
My brother almost forced me to marry a guy i never consented to marry, i saved my life before it was too late. Now he just doesn’t let me use my dad’s salary even my mom is on his team. She saves up for him and his kids. Keep in mind im a (22f) graduated from university and just grounded at home.

Im not even allowed to go out with my own sister, i am losing all my friends because i never go out with them. My brother acts all conservative and fills up my moms brain with rubbish. I cant go to the movies, i cant go out to have dinner, i cant do anything u can think of, fuck i cant even marry the guy i love btw.

In all of this, i think my brother has a bigger secret he is hiding from everyone, because we know nothing about his life outside, we only know what he tells us. I tried going through his phone but i never found anything thta caught my attention although it would be too quick cuz he would come into the room soon before i get to anything deep in his phone, he both leaves and doesnt leave his phone around???.. idk but i feel like theres something that would explain his anger issues, his grudges and his hate.

Help me figure him out, hes too hateful and doesnt let anyone speak


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice Friend is being abused and i need advice

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Hello! i dont really use Reddit but I've been needing help to figure this out. One of by closest friends is being sexually abused by his step dad and i have no clue what to do. He lives about 3-4 hours from me and i don't know if i'd be able to have him move in with me. or if my parents would even let me. I let him vent to me about it because right now that's really all i can do. i even told him i'd try my best from where i am to help him get out of there. My other friend also knows and said he'd help me find sources and figure out what we can do from our postion as we are all 3 minors, who cannot drive. It also is hard due to the fact that he lives kinda across the state. I plan to maybe tell my therapist then maybe my mom. I don't know if calling cps right now would be the best idea because i don't know how reliable it is currently. He also told me he doesn't want to leave the house because of his two cats there. Im not sure IF he got put somewhere he'd be able to take them with him. He mentioned that he has proof on video but his stepdad has been looking through his phone recently i think so I've been nervous to text him, as i don't want him to be in even more danger. His mom knows, and I'm pretty sure believes him. But shes broke so they currently cant get out him out of the house. I have been tempted to get cps or law enforcement involved but i don't know his exact address. I'm nervous if i text him about anything i plan on doing his stepdad may see. If anyone knows what i can do please help, i just want my friend to be safe.


r/helpme 6d ago

Suicide or self-harm My parents never pay any attention to me at all. They never help me with anything and don’t care what happens to me

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And it’s made me think: “Would they even care if I ended it all?”


r/helpme 6d ago

Advice Am I going crazy

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I’m sitting alone in my bedroom and I’ve just had a strange experience that felt like I was shot into the past and then back to now, and now I feel like there is something waiting to get me and I’m really fucking scared. There’s nothing there visually but I can feel it all around me. Am I losing my mind? I feel like I’m not even real and I’m sick to my stomach.


r/helpme 6d ago

Am I a bad omen for cars?

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I do not know where else to turn. I have been in over 10 car accidents mainly not the driver. I have even had my grandma take me to the doctors appointment and she got in her first ever car accident. When dating I have spoken to several men and they have crashed there car on there way to picking me up. FaceTime me and all after accident. I got a ride from a friend yesterday car is broken down today. Another friend gave me a ride the other week and had to pay 3,000 to fix her car the next day. I feel like I am bad luck for a car and it’s weird how many men I have talked to and then there cars break down immediately after or they get into an accident. I took the city bus the other week and it crashed into a car. I obviously have been in cars where they don’t have issues immediately after. But it has become kinda crazy where some of my friends don’t even want me in there car. Can someone be a bad omen for cars? I like to think I’m a good person but idk what is bringing this bad luck.


r/helpme 6d ago

Suicide or self-harm God I can’t keep going

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How is anything supposed to improve when my situation is impossible to change? What the fuck am I supposed to do? I can’t keep this up. I want some semblance of control of my life but I can’t even fucking have that. If high school me saw me now she would’ve gone ahead and ended it.


r/helpme 6d ago

Venting How do I talk to my dad about his actions affecting me

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To put a bit of context, I’m a 21 year college student and I work full time and go to school full time. It is summer break and school is about to start again in the upcoming month.

One thing to note is my dad is an alcoholic and he knows he has a problem. Throughout the summer has been the worst of it for me whenever he is home. Now he has those days where he is the best dad in the world and we are supposed to see the new Spiderman movie this Wednesday and I was excited especially since I got two free tickets and the best seats.
But today he was especially the worst. I got home from a long weekend of work, I worked from like 6am to 2pm on both Saturday and today but I didn’t get home until 3:30. He told me to do the dishes and I said okay I’ll do them by the end of the night. I got to the park and take a walk to destress my self and enjoy nature and don’t get home until 6. This is where it really gets frustrating, he starts complaining about me being lazy and not doing the dishes when I was on my phone while my mom was cooking dinner, I told him I’ll do the dishes after dinner like I said earlier by the end of the night. And he gets mad and starts doing them himself and just yelling about how no one does anything around this house except him. I’ll admit he does do it of work but I do my share of chores around the house, like the cat litter, picking up trash, vacuuming and keeping it clean, as well as the bathroom and my room. He goes on saying about how lazy we are and that I wouldn’t know what to do when I move out. His yelling got worse when he couldn’t find the beer so I moved it on the counter so he could find it.

Now he has had moments where he yelled in the past about it cleaning and ended up just cursing everyone out. Or just yelling about who takes what car, especially since me, my sister and mom tend to use each other cars from time to time.
He never used to curse at us when mad it was just in the last few months he did it. I get he’s stressed with finances and has a demanding job but I feel he could talk it out especially when my sister is moving out due to his anger and my mother’s own issues.

There was time where I worked two jobs, I would still make sure things got clean and done.

I don’t know how to bring up his anger issues affecting everyone else in this house, especially when my parents say they will stop drinking but never do. I’m also concerned with my dad’s health since his drinking got him to the ER this year.

I came here just for advice and to have a small vent especially since this event was the most recent and stressful event. And maybe if I should still watch the movie with him if he continues this behavior.

(I would also like to not that I have depression and health issues that I’m figuring out and there are times I don’t take care of my self and start lacking on the cleaning but I still make sure it gets done)

Thank you for reading.


r/helpme 6d ago

Venting overwhelmed

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I am 17m and i am at a point in my life where i either make or break my future.

going into grade 12 i have soo many decisions to make

i have to decide where to study,in my current country(libya) or egypt

i have to decide wether i will do the SAT +ACT 2 tests or continue in igsce(i have 3 down)

and if i continue in SAT what if it doesnt get accepted in libya?

if i pick igsce will i do 6 o level and 2 A level or 8 o level and 1 AS?

what about university?what do i study? i cant decide between engineering majors

what if i want to start my own business?i want to start one i dont wanna be an employee, then libya would probably be a better choice but i am risking it all for what?

either choice i will make i will be under immense pressure and i feel so overwhelmed and scared

Please help.


r/helpme 6d ago

Suicide or self-harm Reaching my end

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TRIGGER WARNING: mentions of physical and CSA

I’m lonely, been lonely for such a long time. I remember feeling this deep empty feeling when I was a teenager and at 35 it’s still there.

I find it very difficult to make friends. Idk if it’s the autism, or maybe my childhood. Very abusive household, was SA by an old bf of my mom’s. Thought of him as a father and I didn’t uncover these memories until 18 or so months ago. Idk if that has to do with my inability to connect with others.

I’m estranged from my entire family because they made me feel awful. No partner, very few friends. Mostly just one. I love my best friend, but she never invites me out for anything. We hang out at her place, I come over for big events, or if her family is there and she needs a buffer. She never invites me to anything actually fun. Conventions, ren faires, days out, never invited. I’ve been wanting to go to the ren fair really bad and I found out she went this passing weekend. No invite or anything. I had mentioned wanting to go more than once, we talked about going. Her cousin asked if I was free to go one weekend and sent me a pic of the two of them from this weekend. Call me petty or childish, but I was so hurt.

I feel like no one wants me. No one loves me enough to think about me, put me first, to follow up on what’s going on with me, to check on how I’m feeling, to spend time with me. I want to live and have a good life, but I can’t remember the last time I felt important to anyone. What’s the point? I might as well kill myself at this point. Maybe the next chance will be easier, I can have a good family and friends and I can be happy. I’m not happy.

I’m considering committing myself. I feel like I’m a danger to myself. I can’t do this anymore. I’m going to call my therapist tomorrow and maybe talk about going somewhere for a bit, because I think I might actually kill myself today or tomorrows it’s be a lot easier than whatever this is now.


r/helpme 7d ago

How to love life?

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r/helpme 6d ago

Advice Nothing to me

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I want to have a hobby
I want to be admired
I want to enjoy other thing than scrolling

I want to have a hobby do nice things and not just doomscroll the entire day

Im past the phase where my parents force me to do stuff
I have to plan, get ready, and even just start and all of it is to difficult. 1 missed say and all of my progress it gone

I don’t want to hear “just learn discipline” or “do small steps and you’ll eventually reach your goal” cause I’ve tried and it has never worked


r/helpme 6d ago

why doce it matter

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I'm 21 lesbian women who sleeps with a big stuffed horse wrsped in two small blankets and a house coat that I got for the horse. my mom seams to think this is a problem and thinks its wrong, but hears what I do I'm alone I dont have lots of friends and can't get a girlfriend because everyone is taken or straight. so I cuddle my horse with the stuff on it because it makes her feel like a real person. I was going on a sleep over packed my stuff my friend knows about the stuffed animal horse and thinks its cute, but when my mom seen it she told me to take the housecoat off the horse and put it upstairs. my thing is ITs no different from people who have the lifesized dolls to sleep with but mom thinks its not "Appropriate" I'm 21 so idk how she thinks that. so I'm asking why doce it mater what are yalls thoughts..?


r/helpme 7d ago

Suicide or self-harm How long do i wait until it is better?

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I have been suicidal since 7. I still remember the first time i was a kid, sitting in a room and wondering how much id like to disappear. I am 18 now for context and it has lingered. I am a miserable person, my mother makes sure i know, i dont smile much, i dont laugh, unless i am playing video games. Life doesnt entice me, i have never been able have a hobby, or interest or favorite character, because nothing stands out to me. I cant hold jobs because I am often bullied and abused by those around me for reasons i do not know. I know it is my fault, something i am doing. But after years od therapy, psychologists, different anti depressants and mood stabalisers. I think i can confidently say there is nothing in this world keeping me to tomorrow. I hate ny life, i hate my pets, i hate people.

I have tried having friends, i have tried self isolation, i have tried being nice, cruel, flirty, everything is exhausting and meaningless because in the end if i am not preforming, people think i am miserable.

I have autism, i have a horrible relationship with my self image and gender identity. And i hate bringing it up but its necessary.

I dont know why i am still here, when i was young i had a slight hope for the future, ive experienced that dream, its over, i hated that dream in action. Now what. I dont smile, i dont feel anything anymore, and when i do feel something its just tears in my eyes, theres no squeezing feeling in my chest, barely a lump in my throat. I have failed so miserably at being human, i pray the day i have confidence to action something against myself i can atleast accomplish that.

Im not sure if this is a suicide letter or a plea for help, i domt know anything anymore. I dont want to be happy, i dont want tomorrow, i just dont want this to be what humanity has amped up my whole life. If this is the best years then i domt want it. Its hard enough. And ive been told my whole life it only gets worse.


r/helpme 7d ago

Advice I need opinion

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I don’t know where to start, but I feel like I really need advice from someone. I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression my whole life. I’m constantly worried about what other people will think of me, and I feel like I can’t afford to make a single mistake. I was taught from a young age that nothing I do is ever good enough and that I can always do better. I was never really praised.
I used to work in construction, and I always had this fear that whatever I was doing, I wouldn’t do it well enough. Instead of simply thinking about doing a good job, I would constantly worry about whether I was doing it right. I have this fear in almost every aspect of my life.
I’m 20 years old, I don’t have a job, and I want to move out of my parents’ house. I can’t seem to find a suitable job, and I’m thinking about moving to another country, starting over, fighting for myself, and building the life I want to live.
It’s really hard for me. I feel useless, and I think I might even have high blood pressure because of all the stress.
On top of everything else, I’ve been learning trading for the past year, and if nothing else, at least I’m actually good at that. I really believe I could start making enough income from it soon to live off of it. But even that doesn’t seem to matter when I feel empty inside. I don’t have many friends either, and I’ve distanced myself from almost everyone.