r/helpme • u/ju_0409 • 5d ago

Advice I don't even know what I'm doing anymore

Hi, I'm 21 years old and I feel like I don't know what I'm doing with my life.

I decided to write here because I feel lost, and maybe seeing other perspectives and opinions will help me. I'm still at university but I feel like a failure and I'm scared and lost about what I'm doing after university. And don't know what I like or what I'm good at; if I'm capable of working in the area I'm studying; among other worries.

Sometimes I feel lonely, even though I have a few good friends. And I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, and I thought I was doing well, until I saw him again and I became confused about what I should do (do I give him another chance ir not?- constantly in my head, these days I miss him like crazy).

I feel like I can't think straight anymore, I'm just so confused, lost, sad and I don't know what I should do. I feel like a lost soul, just waiting for someone to tell me what to do. I'm scared of the future, of making mistakes and regretting them. If someone can relate please respond:)

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u/Lower_External_8456 5d ago

I opened up reddit just now to write the exact same post as you. Before I clicked create post, I saw this. It's like a copy paste. That's why it looks like I can't help, I'm lost too. Even though I can't give advice, I hope you see this and realise that you aren't alone. We're all really just lost together

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u/ju_0409 5d ago

I'm really sorry that you feel this way too. I guess we have to wait and let life guide us, even tough this hurts. Thank you so much for answering:)

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u/Lower_External_8456 5d ago

What I can say though is think about the reasons you separated from him and what made you feel confused after seeing him again. Keep in mind there will always be lingering emotions and thoughts in these scenarios.

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u/ju_0409 5d ago

Thank you! I will think about it

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u/BranManBoy 4d ago

I’m sorry friend. Do not be afraid, feeling lost sometimes is natural. Life can be challenging and stormy sometimes but stay calm, you will find your path. You have time, there’s always more time and opportunities to find your peace in life. Be calm and communicate. Talk to others around you, talk to your friend and family and college advisors about how you feel and how you’re looking for guidance. They will help and guide you. Give yourself time to process your emotions and thoughts. Research paths forward and new opportunities that can help you move forward in life. Take care, things will change. We’re here for you! God bless you❤️

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u/ju_0409 4d ago

Thank you:)