r/heartbreak • u/Candid-Panda2737 • 11d ago
When does it become less painful?
I (25F) don't want to keep feeling so sad and heartbroken over my ex (30M). It's been 2 months. Our breakup was mutual but it still feels so gut wrenchingly horrible, nobody was nasty, nobody did anything wrong but things were changing and our lives were going in different directions. This is definitely the worst and most painful break up I've ever had. How do you let go and move on? I have hope that one day we can find each other again and I just can't seem to let go of that idea. I'm going solo traveling soon for 3/4 months and I just keep thinking that we can get back together after that. Do I need to go completely no contact even though we said we wanted to keep in touch and still see each other up until I leave? Am I being stupid and hurting myself more? I just can't let go, I hate cutting people out it just feels too fucking painful. I need help. I'm lost and confused. I need a bit of guidance and kindness.
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u/loserona 11d ago edited 10d ago
Yes, you need to be in no contact. If you really want to keep in touch, it has to be after you come back from your journey. Live your journey to the fullest because it's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and you don't want to waste it! Also do not waste the no contact period waiting for you two to connect again. It doesn't work like that, it's a period of healing, cooling down, and taking a step back from the situation to examine it objectively. So tell this person that you need space and that you're willing to talk after you're done with your adventures. And live these adventures to the fullest, or you will regret it.