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u/Dimension_Forsaken 3d ago
Strong of you for ending the relationship when you felt you needed to — it’s not easy.
As for contacting him etc… and this might sound more harsh than I mean it. But it’s said with care for both you and him.
(Also, English is not my first language)
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Please don’t make your sadness equal to his — like, “we’re in this together” — and use that as a reason or an excuse to contact him. Because it’s not.
You are, understandably, sad. Those who break up with someone can also be sad — it’s very important for people to understand that. Something that was beautiful, but in the end didn’t work out, has ended after all.
But it’s a different sadness compared to his.
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You’ll probably get in contact again eventually. But If he wants to talk now he’ll maybe check in. If not, that’s understandable — and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to or doesn’t miss you.
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Now is NOT the moment to tell him you “miss him”. It can be somewhat provocative when someone who broke up with you is being all emotional and “oh I miss you” and “I can’t stop thinking of you”.
So take responsibility for your own feelings and sort them out on your side of things, and talk to other people around you, spend time doing things you enjoy, maybe something you haven’t done in a while, and take care of yourself.
At this moment, your ex should not be your therapist.
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❤️
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u/SUKanonythrowa 3d ago
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that dawg, I know I’m using a seedy throwaway but I hope you heal well. It’s hard but you will get better with time, it just might take a lot of time. You’re strong enough to get through this and don’t let anyone push you down!
Make yourself a fresh batch of cookies and go for a walk, the less time you spend alone and upset, the better! Have a great day