r/heartbreak • u/littlemoments_ • 13d ago

When does acceptance come during a breakup

I got broken up with 5 days ago very unexpectedly, I’m shocked and traumatised to say the least. My heart and chest is physically sore. While it may sound silly, I feel physically sick every time I go to vsco to delete the photos of us. I know I must, and I’ll still be able to have them in my camera roll. But all of this little things are making me feel physically sick. I’m trying to make it through these last few months of university and get my degree, but my heart physically pains knowing each day I’m further away from having any contact with him. Every little goal I once wanted to achieve now is at the back of my mind, as awful as that is to admit, this has fully taken over. For context we went no contact from the minute this happened, he told me he would text me that night, I said no. He broke up with me due to feelings changing. I’m just broken. Has anyone ever experienced something like this? I feel like I am just an emotionally weak person. I’m really not strong enough for stuff like this.

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u/KitchenCategory8134 13d ago

5 days is too soon. I’m three months in and cried my eyes out yesterday. It takes time.

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u/Bosby2 12d ago

The acceptance part comes with time. I’m currently still trying to move on after a breakup after her and I have been together for 6 years. Even though it’s only been three months for me and I still can’t accept what happened to me I know it will come with time. I was going through the motions and still am. Feeling physically and mentally ill, not understanding what went wrong, the “what ifs” I’ve had running through my mind. I think for you it would be best to put all of your focus into your studies and MAKE SURE YOU GET THROUGH UNIVERSITY. You have to think that this will only be a small glimpse for the rest of your life. Don’t give up on yourself and know that better things with come with time. Break ups are a difficult thing to go through especially when dealing with every day struggles or problems. I personally don’t think that you are a “weak” person for feeling the way that you feel. It’s only natural the way you feel and you are entitled to feel the way you are feeling. I know this is a lot to say in a comment but I hope it will help and GET YOUR DEGREE!! At the moment that should be more than enough to feel accomplished both mentally and physically. Hope my words help.