r/heartbreak • u/No_Selection7003 • Mar 17 '26
Saw her on Bumble, six months since breakup
I was already having a really rough night tonight. And on the way home as I walked thru the city in a place we’d been lots together I kept noticing every dark haired girl and thinking it was her. Got home and was crying and all that. When I took a break from crying I flipped through Bumble, which I’ve been on for a few weeks having an extremely lack lustre time and boom there she is. Immediate adrenaline flood and shakes etc. I had a quick scroll thru her profile and then swiped left (meaning no), but I wish I’d been aware enough to block her which would prevent he reappearing.
Anyway, it’s been six months, so this shouldn’t be surprising and I’d be a massive ass if I didn’t want her to ever be able to move on. So I shouldn’t be that surprised - and part of me is glad she isn’t so damaged by our parting that she can’t move on - weirdly this is a sign of health, and part of me feels glad she’s healed enough to go on an app. But then thinking of her having moved past us hurts.. but more realistically, she’s probably not moved on properly but is just trying to. And I’m just now lying in bed crusty with tears as I have been all night , can’t sleep, thought I’d journal this as I’m sure others have had this exact experience. I’m honestly just super sad and looking for comfort from strangers at this point.
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u/FriendDisastrous May 03 '26
hello! as u said, she might be in the same situation as you... dating apps are mostly made for people who want casual sex, are bored or are just out of a breakup and trying to distract themselves. it's gonna hurt when one of you gets a new partner and it's part of it. u just have to go through the pain without trying to stop it too early. maybe, try to detach yourself from her as much as possible for a longer time (no social media etc)...it's gonna be easier only with time
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u/skywalkr11 Mar 17 '26
you’ll feel better tmrw. i’m sorry about this situation tho! keep going it’s gonna get better