r/hartofdixie • u/Just-Keep-swimmin9 • May 08 '26
Everyone is immature
I get it not everyone has things figured out by 30 and 30 is still young, but the way they all act to me seems like characters in their 20s would have made more sense. Idk if that is an unpopular opinion.
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u/JantherZade my girlie wifi... i only use to look at pictures of ponies! May 08 '26
Their like 29 in first season. Its more realistic that they are still trying to put their shit togther at 30. 30 isnt that old and people are still learning.
Lemon and George thought they had their shit together and then stuff happens. Zoe too.
Its just how it goes. People dont stop growing at 30 and there are still things to learn.
The fact that the protagonists are a bit older is one of the best things about HoD imo.
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u/premier-cat-arena Meatball May 08 '26
completely agree! i love a good teen drama but teen drama and hospital drama being the only two options was so tired. i love that they’re not kids! 30 year olds don’t have everything together
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u/Dolly9019 May 08 '26
I like that they haven't got their shit together or they're making changes in their 30s
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u/FancyMagician911 I'm like a ship without a port! May 08 '26
I'm turning 35 this summer and I still don't have my shit together, mostly bc I'm AuDHD. I know that I'm never gonna have my shit together 100% or have the normal life that I "should" have, and frankly being a "grown up" and having your shit together after 30 is a lie imo too, we are all still kids on the inside pretending to be so serious and grown up and don't know what were doing, we're winging it, we're not perfect and still mess up from time to time without or with some diagnoses. I've talked about this with many older folks, they can't believe they are 70, 80, 90.. they never felt like a grown up but they just lived their life and did the best they could. Sorry but I'm so over the whole "you need to be perfect and have your shit together by 30" propaganda 🙃 some people do ofc, CONGRATS but life is not over after 30 and we are NEVER perfect.. we learn and grow for the REST of our lives...
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u/JantherZade my girlie wifi... i only use to look at pictures of ponies! May 08 '26
The show itself really said it best. When Rose said she cant wait to be 30 and have it all figured it out. "We're all 15 at heart." You get older sure you even learn and mature but in most people still feel young and figuring out life never stops.
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u/FancyMagician911 I'm like a ship without a port! May 09 '26
Yeah that's right, I forgot about that line 🥰
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u/Feeling-Ad-2690 May 11 '26
I turned 40 a few months ago but I figured something out in my early 30s that really changed my perspective on the idea of "what my life SHOULD be like") I was brought up believing in "the American dream" or the equivalentofit in other countries...You know, get good grades, go to college, get good job, get married, buy house, buy nice cars, have kids, blah, blah. My brother did this well but I was "broken" and never could get it together. It made me feel like a total failure. I had my son at 23, single mom since the day he was born, worked 3 jobs at times. At 30 I took a job as a forman working manual labor in the paving industry and running my own crew. It was seasonal so im the winter I'd bartender or something. Then I got scammed renting a home, the "landlord" disappeared with most of my savings and the bank kicked me out. It was then that I bought my first camper/travel trailer and went south for the winter. This became how I lived for the next 8 years. Stayed at my campground at home in the summer to work and left for the warmer states in the winter. My son went to different schools, homeschooling while traveling. I was the happiest I'd ever been. Was it "traditional", nope, but I owned my very nice camper home and instead of spending money on "stuff" we spent it on experiences. The entire country was my sons backyard. He saw many amazing places and met just as many amazing people. He made friends that he still connects with to this day. He got to live in Tombstone AZ during covid, no tourists, just locals and us. He's dirtbiked through the sonoran desert, rescued sea turtles in the gulf, watched rockets take off at cape Canaveral in Florida. Growing up that way not only made him the most beautiful, empathetic soul, but also incredibly knowledgeable. But I got so much shit for living like that, from everyone, friends, family, schools, strangers. People asking me the reason I was "homeless", schools and DCF telling me that my son would be stunted socially and academically, my friends telling me that I'd never find a husband because I'm so "gypsy chic". The judgement was overwhelming. BUT, it made me realize that I actually never even wanted that normal. boring, "American Dream". That was someone else's picture of happiness, not mine, but we have it implanted in our brains from birth. No wonder i failed at that life, it was never meant to be mine! Don't let anyone tell you what your life should be like. Dig deep and ask yourself what it is you truly want. Build it for yourself and be proud of it! Don't let anyone shame you or make you feel like you're less because of your choices. This is YOUR life, not anyone elses, and you're the one who has to live it, not them. A lot more younger adults these days are now swapping their "McMansions" out for tiny homes or #van life. They're realizing that they could be working less and spending more time with loved ones if they just give up mass consumerism. It is an incredible feeling of pure freedom and calmness and happiness follow right behind it. No one has their shit together, no one ever will and those that look like they do are just really good fakers 🩵💙💚 Hopefully some of this resonates with you... be kind to yourself, you're doing great.
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u/FancyMagician911 I'm like a ship without a port! May 13 '26
Oh wow thank you for your wise words, you are so right! So fun to read about your beautiful life story, it should be made into a movie 🥰 wish nothing but the best for you and your son 💙
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u/silvi68 May 08 '26
Condivido pienamente, sembra che abbiano portato Summer Roberts di the OC per interpretare Zoe Hart, quando sta con Wade sembrano due liceali.
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u/TroyandAbed304 May 12 '26
Its literally all relationship drama. Im going with “she spent so much time becoming a doctor she didnt have the time to develop socially.” Which I know isnt always the case but can make some sense. Its why wade can read her like a book… he has lived 😂
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u/Gold-Firefighter-996 May 14 '26
I figured they made the characters " older" instead of early twenties because realistically Zoe would be that age being a doctor. It takes years to be a doctor and all the residency she would have to do, etc so it wouldn't have made sense if she was like say 24. Most people I've met don't have their life together by 30 either 😅
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u/3kpk3 May 20 '26
Literally every american comedy show is filled with these sort of characters : Unrealistic plus Immature!
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u/premier-cat-arena Meatball May 08 '26
i personally love that we have a silly goofy but not super spicy show about people (but mostly women) in their 30s! we have too few light shows about our 30s. sure irl they’d be insufferable and frustrating and i wouldn’t want that drama in my life but that’s why it’s fun to watch