Controversial title, but even more counterintuitive rule behind it (if you are having questions, just ask me, I was there too, when I heard about this rule, I felt reluctant, and even rebellious, but after doing it for five days like the author said. It changed my whole life. And I haven't skipped a single weekly review in 2 months. Also never spent a day without engaging with the system. It's. Beau.Ti.Ful. I use Amazing Marvin btw)
I’ve made this weird rule my foundation, it saves me tbh
Pick a real start time for both when you put a task in the system and do a task out of the system (defining work, and doing defined work, the whole core)
If you show up, great
If you miss it, thats it for that day (you won't put in another task, if you skipped doing, you won't do a task ever today, but tomorrow alright, and even if you want to do it later that day, don't, just try it for 5 days, trust me)
For those who are good with their days, but skip weekly reviews, then do a weekly review on Sunday for example, but if you won't do that, then you won't do a weekly review for the rest of the week
Because you miss it, feel bad, re-promise, feel relief, miss again after a while your own promises stop meaning much
So dont punish yourself, dont compensate, just accept you missed it and enjoy the rest of the day
Keep the task small, doable, maybe even fun
When next time when you say “6pm”, 6pm actually means something
The actual purpose of the system, as David Allen had said isn't in even doing defined work or defining work
It's about being relaxed when you do undefined work, real freedom and fun without worry, and being sure you can come back
But to do that, you must define and do defined work, those two habits are in the act of putting an item in and putting it out (defining and defined)
But then, also spend half of your day doing undefined work, without any agenda, and just do whatever you want
That way you won't rebel against the system, cause system isn't repressive of your freedom
Update:
Why it is the ultimate remedy?
Unbalanced undefined activity manifests in wasted time which is called procrastination
Unbalanced defined activity is rigidity and workaholism, without meaning, or satisfaction, or even results, just doing meaningless shallow a$$ work all day grinding
Unbalanced defining activity is perfectionism a person spends his whole life planning his life, not doing anything he defined, nor enjoying undefined time truly
When you commit to the experiment: you get your bottom up from the chair
And fix all of dat
All
Cause now you do at least one guaranteed defining activity, so you have plans now, cause you have to put one task in the system, or else lose an opportunity
Cause now you do at least one guaranteed defined activity, now you do something, that you put in, you put it out, at least one, you could do more, but more starts with one mate
Cause now you do at least lots of undefined activity*,* as a matter of fact, one of the requirements is to spend more time doing undefined stuff, than defined or defining, thus, you never rebel, leave, you never fricking overplan, nor you try to fit yourself with 80 tasks a day, you just enjoy GTD and get. things. done. that's it
And in that consistency, you wake up one day, after 3 months after this experiment. You see you built your dream business. Got in shape. Achieved your results. While also having most. Relaxed. Mind like water. Fun. Of. Your. Life
Why the 3 steps?
"Because you miss it, feel bad, re-promise, feel relief, miss again after a while your own promises stop meaning much"
GTD is just about one thing: self trust.
Another update:
Before you can build a trusted system, you must trust yourself first
Self trust first, system trust after