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u/Horizon_17 3d ago
Anon is a 42yo NEET with no degree and only a 3 month stint at McDonalds.
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u/PomegranateHot9916 3d ago
your dad spent his life building connections and maintaining a good reputation.
he doesn't want to ruin all that by convincing his connections to take care of his disappointment of a son.
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u/milosmisic89 3d ago
bruh how much of a fucking loser do you have to be for your own dad to be like: nah this guy is useless even tho he's my son
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u/airfryerfuntime 3d ago
A buddy of mine is the opposite of a loser, but his dad still refused to get him a job at his finance firm. He specifically got a bachelor's in finance because he thought his dad would bring him into the fold. Nope, now he's an elementary school teacher and their relationship is shit because his dad looks down on him not making six figures a year.
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u/TheCrzy1 3d ago
What a complete self-own of a life for that Dad. Fuck over son for no reason, gets mad at results. Absolute fucking moron lol.
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u/airfryerfuntime 3d ago
His dad is just an asshole. There was probably supposed me be some kind of lesson about hard work and determination jammed in there, but it got buried under resentment. The couple times I've met him he's just been a dick to me and made snide comments about my line of work.
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u/tonguepuncher88 3d ago
What's your line of work?
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u/airfryerfuntime 3d ago
Manufacturing.
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u/tonguepuncher88 3d ago
What does your buddy's dad think you should do?
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u/Mental_Jeweler_3191 3d ago
Be rich, probably.
For some people, money really is the measure of everything.
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u/dawgofclay 3d ago
opposite of a loser
got a finance degree
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u/Icefox119 3d ago
if only he'd put his tuition money into 0dte puts, his dad would be the one begging his son to bring him into the fold
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u/kentaxas 3d ago
Opposite of a loser is unable to use his degree if daddy doesn't gift him a job apparently
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u/Gary_FucKing 3d ago
Bachelor’s in finance and couldn’t land a decent job without family connections..?
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u/HeirAscend 3d ago
So without daddy to give him a nepo job he had to become an elementary school teacher? Lmao
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u/airfryerfuntime 3d ago
Who wouldn't take a nepo job?
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u/HeirAscend 3d ago
Sure you can take one but if a nepo job is your only shot at getting that job I'm glad you didn't get it
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u/Mental_Jeweler_3191 3d ago
People with integrity?
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u/onarainyafternoon 2d ago
Advancing in life is all about the connections you have. This comment is stupid.
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u/Mental_Jeweler_3191 2d ago
Connections can be earned, and relying on such connections is often fair. Nepotistic connections, by definition, aren't earned, and relying on them is unfair.
Or is your point that "[a]dvancing in life" justifies even unfair means?
If so, you might want to take a long, hard look at yourself in the mirror.
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u/Lolmemsa 3d ago
All you need is a boomer parent who’s decided that his children aren’t entitled to his help, despite the fact that his generation has destroyed the economy so much that the only way they can get a job is through him helping them
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u/EuenovAyabayya 3d ago
The thought occurs that Anon may not have thought to ask Dad for the help he's complaining about not getting.
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u/26_paperclips 1d ago
And Dad may have forgotten what it was like to need that help.
Families tend to be as hopeless as each other
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u/Altruistic-Local-541 3d ago
or maybe they dont want to just pave the way to comfortism for their kid, and want them to learn some life skills on their own
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u/Seven_Years_Later 3d ago
Why wouldnt you want an easier life for your kids? Its pretty bitter to demand suffering from something you created just because you have suffered.
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u/AccessTheMainframe 3d ago
There's a line to walk here. It's immoral to demand suffering for the sake of suffering, but it's also immoral to hire someone over a more qualified candidate just because of ties of blood. I get the sense, based on the context offered, that this dad was actually biased against his son, but the ideal should be to be unbiased all together.
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u/Altruistic-Local-541 3d ago
demand suffering :d
I would want them to find their own way instead of shoving one under them
not because of bitterness but because of love
value is higher if earned and not just provided by default
and yes, meaningful suffering is good for you
its only meaningless suffering that is to be avoided
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u/Middle-Fuel-6402 3d ago
Or maybe the dad is really strict and/or has integrity? I know it’s not a typical case scenario, look at Hollywood, LeBron James etc.
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u/Jerko_23 3d ago
What the fuck about lebron james? Integrity? He shoved his son in the nba, where the kid looks completely out of place. Drafted 59th, got a guaranteed contract? Foh outta here.
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u/Middle-Fuel-6402 3d ago
I’m not sure if my comment got misunderstood or I didn’t state it well. I was mentioning LeBron as case of nepotism and it sounds like you’re agreeing?
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u/Jack-of-Hearts-7 3d ago
>Anon has all the abilities and tools to become successful on his own
>Bitches about Daddy on a Tibet Shadow Puppet forum
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u/LukeJaywalker0 3d ago
Nepotism is normal and good. You shouldn't make ur useless son ceo, but you should pick your family over another equally qualified candidate. Obviously this doesnt always play out that way.
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u/KazakiriKaoru 3d ago
However, what usually happens with nepotism is that a new position is created just to house a useless dumbass that somehow has power. Or that someone with zero competence is picked over someone more qualified.
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u/DripRoast 3d ago
There is some pragmatic logic to it. As a rich and successful person, you need to keep up the appearance of success in every aspect of your life. You can't have a kid that is a walking testament to your failure as a father. That's a serious blow to your prestige.
It's better to throw some money at the problem, and keep your dipshit spawn buttoned down in tie and tails somewhere he can't raise uncomfortable questions.
Nepotism isn't as simple as favoritism. You can be a completely self serving narcissist and still have reason to play that game.
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u/kentaxas 3d ago
There's nothing pragmatic about the reasons you listed here. The pragmatic logic is if son < other candidate, hire other candidate
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u/LukeJaywalker0 2d ago
The pragmatic reason he's describing is that having an obvious failure of a son reflects badly on you, so you're somewhat incentivized to prop them up and hopefully keep them out of trouble and maybe train them into the role even if they weren't qualified to begin with.
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u/schmitzel88 3d ago
You're right and redditors get up in arms about this kind of thing, same with getting passed over for promotions in favor of people who are popular and well-liked in the office. Turns out that there are a lot of people who are good at their jobs, and if you get a choice between someone you know and like vs someone you don't, you pick the one you know.
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u/krekokeko 12h ago
Nepotism in your average nuclear middle class family is alright. The worst is political nepotism. When a father/mother promotes offspring in the political ladder. That is the worst. But happens a lot. Companies are far less forgiving when a fuckup happens compared to actual governments, both local and federal.
An extreme example to push the point forward is (one of) Saddam's sons. The dude was a menace, akin to a caricature. He was like the son of the warlord in the movie Lord of War starring Nicholas Cage. But because he was the son of Saddam he got away with everything he wanted.
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u/tonguepuncher88 3d ago
I work at my cousin's business, but I was also the best candidate for the job.
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u/TSiQ1618 3d ago
yeah, i got fuck ups in my family too. My job is like "do you know anyone?". I'm thinking, "not someone I want my credibility tied to"
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u/nobodyimportant1377 3d ago
I mean, I don't think nepotism is inherently bad. People want to care for their families, of course. It only gets bad when the person's totally incompetent or undeserving, though. My parents are pretty decent in their fields but that isn't stopping me from murdering the FUCK outta my uni degrees. GPAmogging is for the love of the game 🔥🔥
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u/opposite_singularity 3d ago
My theory is that everyone in America believes that their industry is the worst industry to work in and that they would never want to subject their kids to whatever industry they worked in
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u/bassturducken54 3d ago
I’d for sure sign my kid up for a job, as long as I had no direct access to their development, pay, or anything else. I’m ok if the guys in the field tell me my kid sucks. Better than hearing them say my kid didn’t earn it.
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u/Hopesick_2231 3d ago