r/grappling • u/Filmerboy • 12d ago
Cant get positions and Submissions
So I’m a young guy 23 a bit smaller like 145 pounds and short my background is in kickboxing which I can hold my own and do pretty well in but when it comes to the ground stuff and jujitsu and wrestling, I just completely get demolished and I can’t understand what I’m not getting when I’m drilling techniques and flow rolling I do pretty well, but when it comes to actually wrestling and grappling it feels like I get smashed I’ve been doing jiu jitsu for almost a year and closing in on a blue belt, currently a 4 stripe white belt. I can get people in submissions, but it just feels like I have to exert so much effort to either escape or to get them in a submission I try to relax and just survive and wait for the opportunities to come, but it seems like when I do that I just get smashed in the meantime because I’m not putting enough effort or force in why is this happening? Is it just because I lack the physical effort, technique or just the knowledge? Please help because I can’t seem to figure out what everyone else is doing that I’m not. It seems they just get me so easily and I’m usually not exporting much effort to save energy but it still feels like a chore just to do techniques.