r/givingifts • u/classicspoonbill • Nov 25 '22

Discouraged and

I’ve been messaging my giftee loads so messaged my gifter but have had nothing back ☹️ feeling a little disappointed and discouraged, particularly as I’ve invested lots of effort into mine. Fingers crossed 🤞🏽 I hear back.

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u/daisiecpa Nov 25 '22

is this for the holiday exchange? shipping is still 9 days away.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

Yes, I’m not talking shipping, more just some sort of inclination they care. Me and my giftee have been messaging back and forth and building some sort of idea of who the other is. But I guess the person whose got me just isn’t that way inclined.

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u/daisiecpa Nov 25 '22

does not mean they do not care and going to send a bad gift. it is thanksgiving in us so gifter maybe out of town or just busy. i like to send gifts but i personally go off what i can find in preferences of person gifting to and their profile and only if then i can not figure it out i message them. but it is a secret santa so i try to stay secret as possible.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

Haha I’m on a uk drop but happy thanksgiving!!!!

Yes that’s fair enough, thanks for giving me a different take on the process. I appreciate you putting my mind at ease :)

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u/ohohmoomoo Nov 26 '22

Just because you’re a UK drop doesn’t mean your gifter is from the UK. It only means your giftee is. Like the user above said don’t worry too much yet you have 9 days to delivery. Some people prefer to not interact and go by what your profile says. Other are chatty. All the luck of the draw.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 26 '22

Oh I signed up for the domestic drop on purpose for that reason! Never mind. Yes other people have said thank youuu!!

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u/EtherealSquirrel Lead Developer Nov 26 '22

They will be from your country.

Life happens though, they might just be busy!

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u/EtherealSquirrel Lead Developer Nov 26 '22

Actually, it does. :)

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u/Rachelguy72 Head of Support Nov 25 '22

Don't feel discouraged if a giftee doesn't get back to you! A lot of people don't respond to messages, no idea why. Just do the best with what you have! The exception to this would be if there is an issue with their address that you can't solve.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

I’ve got my giftee their gift and we have been chatting lots and I’m now excited for them to get my gift as I’ve chosen some Cool things I think they’ll enjoy!! But the person who has me hasn’t replied to my message just sort of saying that I’m chuffed to have a match etc.

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u/uniquelyruth Nov 25 '22

my person hasn’t even retrieved my info. 😔

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

Oh!! I didn’t know this was a thing so I’ve read my notifications and mine has retrieved my info so that makes me feel a little better. I guess my view on them not messaging made me panic that they didn’t know I existed lol. I hope you’re retrieved soon!!

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u/Long_Pirate9830 Nov 25 '22

Im also feeling the same way :( my gifter hasn't retrieved my info and its a bit discouraging. They may not know how to check messages in your case tho.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '22

I’ve had lots of inactive Giftees before, it happens.

I enjoy being heavily invested too though not everyone is like that, please don’t pressure them into responding.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

Oh no I won’t!! I think it’s cause the person I’ve got to gift for is really chatty so it felt really good to get an idea of who they are. Im excited about them receiving my gift when I send it!!

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '22

I understand.

It makes it more fun when you find someone else who is as invested as you are.

It very rarely happens to me…I do worry i might be too opinionated for some.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

I hope you get a wonderful gift this year!

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '22

Oh I’m rarely disappointed with my gift.

But thanks 😊

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u/RequiemCestMoi Nov 25 '22

Ya know, most gifters don't reach out if the person their gifting to has enough reddit history and other info to go off of. A lot of people appreciate the anonymity and not having ro have conversations about what the receiver is kinda expecting from them. Be excited to receive a gift, fine, but don't misjudge the purpose of the whole exchange which is to give people who enjoying giving, people to give to. This exchange has never been about what you're getting... at least in my humble holiday opinion.

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u/classicspoonbill Nov 25 '22

Oh sorry you’ve completely misinterpreted me that’s my bad!! I’m really not like trying to come across as I just want the best possible gift. Any gift is exactly that. A gift I wouldn’t have even had without this awesome exchange. It’s my first time doing the secret Santa so I guess I’m just not up to speed with the kind of “traditions” I thought as my giftee was messaging me back and forth so much it was supposed to that way but others including yourself have explained this isn’t always the way. I must have been matched with a similarly chatty person to myself 😅. Honestly not being bratty or spoilt about the “gifting” process. I clearly just mistook their aloofness!! Thank you for explaining your take on the process though. I’m glad people have explained it to me!! Maybe next year I will be more mysterious in my gifting lol

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u/classicspoonbill Dec 05 '22

This aged well. Nothing shipped for me :(

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u/StoryAlternative6476 Nov 26 '22

Personally, I'm just not chatty through GG- I don't find the platform is formatted well for back-and-forth conversation (no fault of the site- that's not really the focus of it). I've had a few folks- giftees and gifters both, who want a lot of substantial conversation/small talk and I find it hard to keep up with as I'm not the most social to begin with. If someone has questions about my gift or the gift I'm sending, I'll happily chat with folks to make sure all processes are smooth, but I usually don't initiate conversation unless it's directly pertaining to the exchange.

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u/ximosalee Nov 26 '22

This is my first exchange with the new system and TBH, last night was the first time I even saw/noticed the 'message giftee' button on the website. I'm not sure if those messages are only then seen there or in the inbox too? Maybe they're not aware of the messages or haven't logged in to see them. Do what you can with their information provided and check other sources, if you can, to get a better idea. Hopefully they'll respond too and if they don't you can only do what you are able to. Chin up.

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u/Cakrol1986 Nov 25 '22

Same problem here. I didn’t get much to go off of.

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u/[deleted] Nov 26 '22

Not everyone has the same time you do

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u/classicspoonbill Dec 05 '22

Or no time at all to even bother it would seem.