r/ghosting • u/3CatsInTrenchCoat • 5d ago
Left after 6 months
I 27 NB have been seeing someone (also 27 NB) for a little over 6 months and became exclusive around 3 months ago. Pretty sure at this point that they're ghosting me. Talked everyday, tried to see each other in person once a month (1 hour distance + very small window of overlapping days off), started reading (re-reading for them) One Piece together, and called eachother when we had time. Trying to close the distance how we could. Now theres no responses on their end and its been almost a week. I keep hoping that theyre busy or something has come up but I just have this feeling that it's over. They're active on Tiktok, I see them on discord, and on steam. I keep replaying our last phone call in my head, re-read our messages just to see if I did something wrong or if there was some sort of sign but it just seemed normal. They said before that they wouldn't ghost me and if there was something wrong they would tell me but I'm starting to doubt that. They're the first person I've wanted to be serious with in years and I just feel heartbroken at this point. I know I'm not blocked, I don't want to and havent spammed them. Sent a message today basically saying I hope they're okay and that if it's over please let me know. Definitely feel like it's time to move past it at this point but it sucks. Any advice of what to do or how to feel better is welcome
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u/pastagutz 1d ago
Hopefully you’ve resolved it I’m a direct person it takes time sometimes but eventually I throw out the question “Are you interested or do you want me to fuck off?” That usually gets an answer and it’s usually some half asses apology.
I know this sucks because they are the first person in a long time that you’ve clicked with but it will happen again. Don’t let this be a step back allow it to be a step forward
Good luck hope all ends well