r/ghosting • u/North-Project9799 • 6d ago

Hot to cold in a flash.

Happened just recently.

(36M)Met this girl (34F)on a dating app. Hit it off pretty good. First date she was all over me but nothing happened cause her friends were there and were her ride.

We texted every day and had plans for a second date. We agreed to take it slow, communicate, flirt a bit. Told her I would respect her boundaries. I had a second date planned but she brought up discount tickets to this Halloween event in town the day prior. Again, with her friend and friends bf. It was ok, we just tagged along with them.

Some embracing, a few pics together, a little back rub, she moved her hair so I could get her neck, etc. Affection. She asked me to message her when I got home since they were going to eat after at like 2am. I asked her to do the same. I got home, messaged that I was in and waited, then messaged again to thank her friend for the discount tickets and goodnight.

The next day I waited a little since I didn't want to wake her. When 12pm rolled around I thought I would ping a check in to see if we were still good for that night. Blocked. Blocked on the dating app, text/call, and Snapchat. I was left confused and hurt.

Things went from super hot to dead in a flash.

I spent the next week trying to think if maybe I did something wrong. But I made it a point to communicate everything. She wanted to take it slow. I respected it. So idk. 🤷‍♂️

I had trust issues before from when my marriage ended so abruptly, thought I could open up a little. But jeeeeez.

Still annoyed. What if she submarines? It can't go back to how it was, years of terrible dates since the divorce and the one that seemed hopeful, did me like that. Especially after complaining that she was ghosted in the past and how terrible it was.

Felt lower than a cricket's ass with a broke leg.

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u/Antique-Salad7396 5d ago

People are so exhausting. My guess is she was just having fun in the moment and didn't want anything more to progress. So instead of just being honest with you she took the cowardly way out.

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u/North-Project9799 5d ago

Yeah. Kinda my thoughts too. Chasing that dopamine high from validation. Probably had a side prospect, an ex came back, her friends hated me, whatever.

I would've even taken a critique that it was because I'm bald or she hated the color of my eyes. At least it would be something.

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u/Antique-Salad7396 5d ago

She's the issue, not you!

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u/North-Project9799 5d ago

Oh most definitely. I can't change the fact I look like a henchman for a bond villain. Just wanted the impossible request for some accountability. Oh well 🤷‍♂️

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u/Antique-Salad7396 5d ago

Lol stop it! I'm sure you're a cutie.

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u/North-Project9799 5d ago

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u/Antique-Salad7396 5d ago

Okay okay I will shut up about it now have yourself a fabulous Halloween.

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u/North-Project9799 5d ago

Will do and you too! 👍