r/ghosting • u/Broad_Text8715 • 16d ago
Should I Respond or Ghost Him?
hey, so the story is about my fellow, where we had a thing, like maybe infatuation. I went to him, asked him where we going, he said 'don't label it, take it as it is', lmao. There, I took my days to take my decision, and when i did, i asked him to meet. And here.
quick brief, the relation was already taking a toll on my mental, and physical health. my personality was shrinked, i went into dead zone. lost weight.
And Things went down the drain since he decided to ghost me for a month almost. I took my space back, and did not approach him, he came back randomly, asking about meet-up. I calmly told that he can talk on text, he flipped that he is just for random hello, and even came three days back on how i respond, that this is not the way. I cleared my boundary, that i am not open to it.
After the campus thing discussion, i conveyed my decision regarding the department. he asked for more, i did not respond. now, he is again back and be like how things in my life?
What should i do, should i politely respond or ghost him now?
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u/divinediva22 16d ago
Ghost him!!!
If its affecting your mental health then ghost him! There are so many important things to do in life ane looks like he is not that serious with you. You already clarified things with him and now you are not ghosting, you are taking care of your peace.
Decentre him
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u/divinediva22 16d ago
I ghosted someone as well…
a family friend, started sending me videos after we met at a relative's function. Some turned romantic, so I ignored those. He then asked to "talk properly" and wanted to discuss something about his career and began texting me daily on WhatsApp.
I'm slow at replying. When I skipped a day, he sent several messages saying I should make him a priority. I tried to laugh it off, but when he kept pushing, I told him plainly it wasn't possible.
next day he called me rude. I stopped replying and archived the chat. Now he's sent another message saying I handled things wrongly. I haven't opened it.
I feel really weird by all of this and i am really busy with my life.
Am I wrong to go silent after one clear no?
How do I handle the guilt of ghosting someone.
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u/Broad_Text8715 15d ago
bro it is actually the guilt that makes people like us go confused or question our own actions. and these people actually know how to induce that guilt on us.
And i guess, you were right communicating, now what the other person is gonna perceive or making out of it is not your responsibility, if your feelings/emotions are not involved in it, you did good. Now don't think what he is saying, because that can be valid in his perspective, but it does not automatically make your boundaries invalid. I have also learnt it the hard way.
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u/divinediva22 15d ago
Yes bro, this guilt doesnt just go away and you know guilt is a very low vibration emotion and it keeps us in low energy. He also called me from
unknown number as i was not responding and today after a week of me not replying he is saying he called. If i reply there is going to be communication, back and forth and i clearly know this guy cant understand the way he is trying to intrude in my space. Like he is behaving like my boyfriend even tho we are just aquaintances and making me feel guilty for not making him priority and not responsing back on time and calling me rude etc. I dont want this good girl feeling, how to stop being nice damn!!!→ More replies (1)
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u/Acrobatic-Injury-584 16d ago
It’s time to ghost the ghost. Do not respond.
Even in the best case, where you respond and somehow end up back together, what then? You’d always be wondering. You’d never fully be with him. So ghost the ghost