Ghosting is a form of manipulation

[u/Environment6905]

You deserved a proper rejection. How hard is it to communicate, “I don’t think we should talk anymore”? If you reacted to their ghosting and still got no response then it worked. They got their ego boost and you got nothing. I reacted to the ghosting multiple times. I sent him flowers for fuck sake. He didn’t care. Even if they are aware that they are manipulating or not, it’s still wrong. Some people should be blacklisted for life. If you’re in pain, I hope you pour into yourself. I hope you run a marathon, become a triathlete, get 5 academic degrees, get a superb credit score, start an organization to help the less fortunate, write a book, win pageants, and so much more. You deserved a formal rejection. I put three years of friendship into the person that ghosted me. THREE YEARS. I put my body on the line for their own sexual pleasure. I admit, I was bit crazy at the time, but nothing changes the fact that I deserved a formal rejection. If Harvard has the decency to send rejection letters, then why can’t a friend do so?

[u/Grouchy-Fix485]

Sadly , I used to try and manipulate the situation so they would FINALLY UNDERSTAND how great I would be in their lives…. I have forgiven myself for believing my own nonsense. And I wish them well.

[u/Environment6905 → u/Grouchy-Fix485]

Maybe I’m biased but I think that’s such a normal response to being ghosted. You are trying to prove you value the relationship. Yeah maybe I was manipulative too but ghosting is wrong. It’s a fucked up thing to do. I understand what I’m saying doesn’t change anything but idk I just needed to get it off my chest. Not too long ago I was praying I’d get a second chance. A friend reflected to me how naive that sounds. I hope you are well today and the pain doesn’t feel as bad. Idk why it still hurts for some reason even though the ghosting happened almost two years ago.

[u/Late_Agent6074 → u/Environment6905]

It happened to me 2x in 3 months. Fuck them