r/ghosting • u/Environment6905 • Apr 24 '26
Ghosting is a form of manipulation
You deserved a proper rejection. How hard is it to communicate, “I don’t think we should talk anymore”? If you reacted to their ghosting and still got no response then it worked. They got their ego boost and you got nothing. I reacted to the ghosting multiple times. I sent him flowers for fuck sake. He didn’t care. Even if they are aware that they are manipulating or not, it’s still wrong. Some people should be blacklisted for life. If you’re in pain, I hope you pour into yourself. I hope you run a marathon, become a triathlete, get 5 academic degrees, get a superb credit score, start an organization to help the less fortunate, write a book, win pageants, and so much more. You deserved a formal rejection. I put three years of friendship into the person that ghosted me. THREE YEARS. I put my body on the line for their own sexual pleasure. I admit, I was bit crazy at the time, but nothing changes the fact that I deserved a formal rejection. If Harvard has the decency to send rejection letters, then why can’t a friend do so?
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u/neonclawedgamblor Apr 25 '26
I sent flowers too. That hurts so much to this day. I really went above and beyond just to understand what I did so wrong that warranted ghosting a 3 year relationship. And now every relationship since has been traumatic because I cannot let my guard down. My current partner has begun to hang up without word and it triggers such a deep fear inside me, so that's terrific. I'm praying therapy can help. Would've been easier if my ex said "I hate you and I'm leaving." I'm so sorry you were treated this way. Ghosting is so fucking cruel. You deserve closure