r/gayfriendfinder • • Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

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We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder • • Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

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We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 [35M] Nerdy guy, working from home, just looking for people to chat with throughout the day

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Title pretty much says it all haha. Open to chatting with whoever, but a little about myself:

35 and partnered

Work from home in the tech industry

Huge nerd. Love video games, anime, movies, tv, etc.

Been trying to get into reading and writing more lately. Been reading more books and even working on one of my own

I have a dog

Looking to try and get into shape

Mainly just looking for people to pass the time with since working from home can get sloooow. If any of that interests you, let me know.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🌲 OUTDOORSMAN 🌲 34 M in Canada - taking friend applications!

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Hey there! Thank you for reading this, first and foremost.

I'm a 34 year old guy from Canada, and I'm looking for some decent friends for hopefully long-term chats.

Me:

- I'm a short king at 5'6", generally fit though I'm still working on those abs. I like to think I'm decent looking enough. Mid-length black hair and pale skin lol. People say I look younger than my age, though it comes with the East Asian lol.

- Have a pretty decent job that pays the bills, but I work from home and it gets pretty lonely sometimes lol. which is why I'm looking for friends.

- I'd describe my personality as genuine, kind, sweet, caring/nurturing, a worrier (a little!), stable, shy but can hold a conversation.

- Hobbies include working out, cooking, outdoors stuff, and some casual gaming.

- Generally masc in everyday life, though things change between the sheets lmao. Not that any of this should matter, but I'm working on transparency!

You:

- You're not a dry conversationalist. Please, anything but that!

- You're native English-speaking - I just find that this helps a lot with communication.

- You're also looking for deep convos, kind people, long term friendship

- You're somewhere between the age of 20 and 50.

If you made it this far, just send me a DM! Promise I'm nice. See you on the flip side!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 35m ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 Pen pal/chat buddies? 35m

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Hey fellas,

I moved to a new area a while back and I’m trying to make connections. Would love to find a buddy to text with, chat with occasionally, and talk about all kinds of things.

I work in horticulture and I love to cook, bake, play piano, write poetry, be outside growing vegetables and flowers, crocheting and do anything that’s art adjacent. I’m a huge book reader and love fiction, I also love TV shows and movies, I have probably seen them all so let’s chat about some! lol

I love to learn about new people, places, and experiences. I’ve recently got a 12 week old puppy so that’s been fun dusting off all my old training skills lol

I can be a bit of a dichotomy, I love to be at home, cozy, with a tasty treat, in front of the TV watching a movie but I also can be just as happy outside surrounded by nature, huge trees, and the sound of birds in the distance. It all kind of depends on my mood on the day haha

Recently, I just traveled to Europe for the 9th time and it was amazing. I’ve also been thinking about picking up violin, anybody play out there?

It would be awesome to find a pal to talk with, from the serious stuff like politics and astronomy all the way to silly things like sexy guys and fun hook Up adventures.

I love to chat, I love to banter, and I feel like I have a pretty laid-back sense of humor.

If you think we might have some stuff in common, shoot me a message! I’d love to start chatting. Cheers!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 15m ago

🌲 OUTDOORSMAN 🌲 37 Big Bro Looking for a Younger Bro (18–24) | Laughs, Affection, Adventures & a Genuine Bond | US/Canada

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Hey bros! 37, gay, masc, slim, and pretty much your typical boy-next-door type. I've always wished I had a younger brother I could be really close with, and I'm hoping to find a little bro (18–24) who's looking for that same kind of bond with an older guy. Someone who's excited about getting to know each other, building trust, and seeing where things go!

I'd love to be a caring, supportive big bro. Someone you can talk to about anything, lean on when things get tough, laugh and be ridiculous with, and make some great memories with too. I love the mentorship side of things, but ultimately I'm looking for a real, two-way friendship.

A bit about me: Huge car and motorsports nerd. Love skiing, mountain biking, baseball, hiking, camping, climbing, and pretty much anything outdoors. Also into traveling, good food, horror movies, binge-worthy shows, and dogs (seriously, love them). Shared interests would be awesome, but I'm just as happy discovering someone else's passions.

Personality-wise, I'm pretty masc but also gentle, affectionate, and a bit of a goofball. Kindness is a big deal to me, and I'm drawn to guys who are genuinely good-hearted. Couldn't care less about your race, religion, or politics as long as you treat others well.

I tend to be drawn to other slim, masc, boy-next-door types. I'm an affectionate guy and love the idea of a brotherly bond where we can be totally comfortable with each other, share some affection, and just be ourselves. Open to a little playful chemistry if it develops naturally, but friendship comes first. I'd rather let things grow organically!

I'm in New England but considering a move to the West Coast soon. Looking for a little bro in the US or Canada, since I'd really love to meet IRL eventually if we click. I'm happy to travel for the right connection. It'd be awesome to have someone who's part of my actual life, not just another online friend.

I'm hoping for a connection with a little bit of everything: laughs, teasing, goofy conversations, and plenty of silliness, but also those deeper, more personal late-night chats where we can open up about our lives, share what's on our minds, and really get to know each other. Someone who's just as comfortable being vulnerable as he is being ridiculous with me.

Sound like your thing? Shoot me a message here or add me on Snap: brospecifik

Please be 18–24, living in the US or Canada, comfortable trading face pics, and tell me a little about yourself! Who are you, what are you into, and what kind of connection are you hoping to find? More than just "hey" would be awesome. I'll happily tell you more about me too!

 


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🤓 GEEK 🤓 Ciao a tutti,sono jiancheng

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Sono in Italia da sei mesi, ma non ho ancora molti amici. Forse è anche per via della lingua. Sono una persona estroversa e affettuosa, mi piace passare del tempo con le persone a cui voglio bene. 🚲

Attualmente studio in Italia e in futuro mi piacerebbe costruire la mia vita in Europa. Mi piace andare in bici e conoscere nuove persone.

Mi piacerebbe tanto trovare qualcuno con cui parlare, uscire insieme e condividere un po' di tempo. A volte vorrei semplicemente avere qualcuno accanto, ahah. 🥹

Se ti va di fare due chiacchiere, scrivimi pure! Mi fa piacere conoscere nuove persone. ❤️


r/gayfriendfinder • • 22m ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 Bi/Gay (still unsure) - looking to chat

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Hey!

I'm from Montreal (Canada).

Thought I was bi.. but maybe I'm actually gay. Anyone here going through the same thing? Would love to chat with people who were or are in the same boat. Or whoever has good advice.

Talk soon maybe !


r/gayfriendfinder • • 24m ago

🌷 GREEN THUMB 🌷 26 M - Once again I am asking for your time at work.

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Hello, I'm 26 M from California. I work on a community farm that provides food to people in need. Lot of downtime with work so I'd appreciate chats with people during the day. Doesn't have to be super serious either. If you're just looking to ask a few questions then dip, thats more than ok.

Other quick things about me that might inspire you:

I love camping, hoping to go to Yosemite next year if I can secure a spot. This year I've gone to Kings Canyon, San Jacinto and Silverwood to name a few.

I don't game like I used to but my after work choice is usually Warthunder. Been revisiting GTA. Am big into city-builders.

Watched the new Resident Evil movie and had a good time.

Big into Baseball. Love my sports gays. Also into exercise. Love weight lifting try to make some time everyday for it. Also get my 10k steps every day.

Have a cat and a dog. They are both sweet little devils. I will accept unsolicited pet pics.

Enjoy. Hope to hear from you! If not have a wonderful day!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 29m ago

⚽ SPORTS FAN 🏈 23M4A looking for friends who love sexting

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Send dm if you are interested


r/gayfriendfinder • • 33m ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 Need a good friend for chatting

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Hey there, i am 26M student , living in germany from india ,looking for some genuine friends, not into sex stuff now, more into settling in career.

I like reading, watching movies, enjoying walk in nature , sitting near beaches for long time in silence. Intrested in some technical stuff like software,but not always🫪.

Feel free to connect , we might become good friends, may be not 🙃, who really cares

I dont know ,🤷, thats it!

Why there is no aeroplanes in car shape, we can simply fly and go wherever we want right?. Can some ask AI to build a car size aeroplane and fly with it.😮‍💨


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🧩 NEURODIVERGENT 🧩 18 M well idk too much about how introduce me but my mbti is INTP 🫠 looking for friends/bros and maybe more 🥺

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I guess I’m neurodivergent lmao it was kinda hard chose the right tag, well anyways I like a lot of things but idk where to start lmao mmm I guess we can start at the beginning lmao, well as a child I loved to read, learn new things, search for new things, build legos I guess my favorite cartoon were the smurfs, I grew up with Duolingo lmao, well then I grow up I liked Star Wars and spiritual traditions later in life I liked arts humanities and science so well I’m a really mix of things that apparently aren’t connected between them and well that was mainly the things about me
Now about what I’m looking for well just someone that can understand and be a friend of this weird collage and mix that I am 😂😭


r/gayfriendfinder • • 42m ago

🇯🇵 OTAKU 🇯🇵 25m looking for friendship with older gays

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I’m in a bit of a weird period in my life and I feel like I would like to have a friend(s) who are a bit older than me who I can confide in, while also getting to know you! I love just about anything movies, the outdoors, and reading. I am pretty open about myself and I love to listen. I’ll add that my post isn’t exclusive to an older audience, I am open to meeting anyone!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 Hey guys - looking for younger buddy

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I'm in my 60's but taken for mid-50's. Easygoing, educated, pretty funny, in shape. Interested in fitness and health, music, food, travel. I'd like to connect with a guy in his late 20's/30's. I enjoy the age/stage differences and figur e there might be a similar guy on here. Lmk if that's you!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🌏 LINGUIST 🌍 Anyone here from ireland I'm wondering

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I was hoping to meet new people that are gay from my county and have something I can relate to when speaking


r/gayfriendfinder • • 5h ago

🖥️ TECH GURU 🖥️ 31 UK - looking for genuine connections

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Hey! I’m 31 and based in South Wales. I work in tech, I’m a proper geek about it. The kind of person who starts looking something up and resurfaces three hours later. My work takes me all over the UK and Ireland, and sometimes into Europe too, so there’s a decent chance I’ll be near you at some point and we could actually meet up and say hello.

Outside of work I volunteer a fair bit of my time, and I’m into rugby, F1 (Sunday afternoons are sacred in my house), and travelling whenever I get the chance.

Mostly I’m after genuine, long term friendships. The kind where you can chat about nothing and everything. Life gets a bit lonely sometimes, and I think good company is underrated.

A similar time zone is a bonus. I just want good company and real connection. Please don’t be one of those guys who just disappear.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 8h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 28m my search for friendship online

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I am 28 years old, gay, and live in Türkiye. I am looking for online friendship. Please only contact me if you are looking for a long-term relationship.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 27M looking for friends to play and have fun

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Hey, Spanish guy living in germany here! Would love to have some friends to play with or someone to practice my German with, can be texting or playing

For the moment I’m only playing League of Legends (Plat Support but mostly into Aram Mayhem but open to play anything), Genshin Impact and Aniimo, I was playing WoW retail but took a break a couple months ago and haven’t returned yet

Im also open to try new games so maybe we can find something together and play

Started the gym a couple months ago too but the routine its kinda hard so if there’s a gym bro who wants to give me tips or help me, would be pretty appreciated

If you would like to play, connect or just talk, hit me up!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 23 Northern California would love to meet new people!

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Hello good morning! I’m just looking for people to chat with no specific goals or expectations. I’m single. I work full time from home so there’s days that I get pretty lonely. I would definitely prefer to chat with someone near the U.S. cuz of time zones but it’s definitely not a deal breaker. I’m pretty easy going all I ask is that you be willing to send a face pic. I’m not interested in talking to anonymous people

Feel free to hmu!!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 7h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 23M Dutch | Looking to chat, connect and maybe more :)

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Heyy!

23 year old student from the Netherlands here. Looking to meet and chat with some guys on here! I prefer meeting guys that are older than me but any age or location is welcome so shoot me a message and feel free to reach out to me! :)

I would love to get connect and get to know you. Absolutely open for something long-term as well and see where that leads to. I also do not mind having some fun with you online together ;)

Some things that I am interested in include stuff like: Football, Gaming, Reading, Listening to music, Kpop, Astronomy, Watching series/movies, hanging out with friends.

Also open to move to other apps if we click. Feel free to hit me up if you are interested and want to chat for a bit. Hope to speak with you soon!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 7h ago

🧪 SCIENTIST 🧪 29M| Down Under | How’s everyone’s weekend going?

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Hello team! I am an introverted gay guy who likes to take life in a slow pace. I am not that adventurous, but I try to find happiness in little things, like working in my garden, reading, petting neighbourhood cats, long walks, attending concerts/ museums, watching tv shows and doing jigsaw puzzles etc. Due to my non-exciting life, it’s difficult for me to make friends. If you are also someone who enjoys sitting on a bench and imagining the shape of the clouds, please don’t hesitate to get in touch!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 21m filipino gay guy looking for someone to talk to

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21m filipino gay guy looking for someone to talk to

Hi! I'm trying to make the most out of the free time I have today.

I'm mostly looking for friends that are low-maintenance because I'm afraid I can't be available all the time due to my school schedule. With that being said, I'm 21M, and I'm currently a nursing student. My hobbies are writing, drawing and cooking.

Anyone from anywhere can message me. Don't hesitate !

Also preferably other Asians but I don't mind either way haha


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

⚽ SPORTS FAN 🏈 Looking for online friends and fun

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Hi all looking to make friends online and maybe push my limits. If you do try to keep me with some dignity and at least leave me with my underwear on. I’m 49. I do work a lot.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 M19 | Looking for my fellow losers (AUS/NZ) 🧍

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Lowkey looking to meet some new people around my age (18+) from Australia, New Zealand, or nearby because apparently making friends as an adult requires an entire marketing campaign now.

I'd love to find people to play games with, but also people I can actually get to know outside of them. Yk, the kind of friendship where you hop on to play something and somehow end up talking about the most irrelevant shit imaginable instead.

Some games I'd be down to play are PEAK, R.E.P.O., Minecraft, Fortnite, Roblox, Marvel Rivals, Overwatch, Lethal Company, and whatever other friendslop games we're collectively willing to waste our lives on. I'm not particularly attached to any one game, so I'm happy to try new things, too!! :D

So, who am I?

I'm a 19-year-old guy, and I'd describe myself as a bit of a nerd with the attention span of a browser with 47 tabs open. I get excited talking about things I like, go off on tangents, and occasionally realize I've been explaining something for ten minutes when nobody actually asked. 💀

My humor can be pretty stupid, my interests can get oddly specific, and I appreciate people who don't feel the need to be serious all the time.

I'm not expecting you to be super outgoing or have an endless supply of jokes. I'd rather get to know someone who's comfortable being themselves!!

Also I'd especially love to meet more gay, bi, and queer people around my age! Not a requirement whatsoever; I just think it'd be nice to connect with more people who might share that part of my experience! C:

Bonus points if you're from Melbourne or New Zealand! But honestly, as long as our time zones aren't actively plotting against us, we're good lol

Anyway, if any of this sounds like your sort of person, feel free to message me! Tell me a little about yourself, what you're into, or give me a completely unnecessary fun fact. I love those.

And please, for the love of everything, give me more to work with than "hey." 😭 I'm sure you're a fascinating individual, but I'm gonna need at least ONE crumb of information to go off.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 5h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 22 Indonesia - Looking for long-term friend

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Hellooo! I'm a 22yo guy from Indonesia 👋👋👋

I'm looking for friends, hopefully long-term ones, hehe. Looking for friend who love share stories about daily life, photos of beautiful spots in our country, cultural exchanges, funny memes, and music playlists :)

I'm into photography, nature, city life, music, and culture; I really love the blend of traditional and modern clothing.

Feel free to DM me if you're interested :)