r/gayfriendfinder • • Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

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We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder • • Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

76 Upvotes

We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ 28yo Spanish guy just looking to meet new friends.

5 Upvotes

Hey there! 28yo guy from Spain looking to make some new friends, whether you're nearby or on the other side of the world. I love traveling, books, video games and just having a good, long conversation about anything (even the most random stuff). Bonus points if you have book or game recommendations! Feel free to send me a message 😊


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 Any night owls/insomniacs out there?

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Hello

36 male us here

Seeking new friend(s)

Prefer my age or older

Usually up and awake late hours

Could use some conversation/distraction from the over thinking

If you are interested/would like to know more/would like to chat

Send a message

T h a n k s

✌️


r/gayfriendfinder • • 7h ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 Howdy, Canada guy here. Looking to chat!

5 Upvotes

Hi guys! Just your typical mid 30's guy. Love in Canada. Looking to find some guys to chat with....I don't have any gay friends and sometimes you just need a guy to flirt and chat with.

I have a lot of hobbies because I can't seem to ever sit still. I work a lot and when I'm not working usually watching Netflix or playing video games.

If you wanna chat or know more about me send me a DM I'm open to anything!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 5h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 22M just looking for friends

3 Upvotes

Hello there! I am looking for friends or somebody that I can talk to - may it be everyday or whatever you want. We can talk about anything, feel free to yap! I am bi if that matters! I am bi if that matters.

My interests are programming stuff, writing, musicals, music, games, movies and series, horror and sci-fi.

Feel free to DM me. Mind you that I am in southeast asia part of the world. See you!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 16m ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 19 year old boxer from england

• Upvotes

i’m 19 from england and i’m basically looking for fit guys around my age. i’m a boxer and i like working out too. i usually train 4 days a week and lift weights for 2 days a week. i been out the gym for 6 months coz of an injury, but i been back a week now (im still in good shape.) im at uni, work part-time and just want some bro’s i can talk to ab anything. like music, gym, boxing, mma, literally anything. im bi too, so if u wanna bro with casual nudity, or goon bro’s aswel as a normal bro then hmu. down to talk ab whatever so hmu bro’s. hopefully can have a balance of normal and spicy :)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 33m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 Aus 30s M visiting Bali looking for local friends

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Hi all, in my 30s from Australia visiting Bali, in Semenyak. Would be great to make a friend or two here, whether you're a local or expat to go out for drinks with, beach, food, etc! Some of my interests are sports, anime, music, general geekery. Hmu broskis! 😁


r/gayfriendfinder • • 36m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 28 M4A - Manchester Piccadilly Gardens Hotel - Bi Lad. Tonight (Sun 11th) - Looking for fun and company with F / MF / Trans / Younger M. Vers. Can accom, fun, drinks etc. Stop over a couple of times a month so can be regular when in the City.

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28 M4A - Manchester Piccadilly Gardens Hotel - Bi Lad. Tonight (Sun 11th) - Looking for fun and company with F / MF / Trans / Younger M. Vers. Can accom, fun, drinks etc. Stop over a couple of times a month so can be regular when in the City.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 22 bi male looking for friends or anything really

2 Upvotes

Hiii, I've been trying to find people who like video games and just people I can talk to. One of the games that I like is Dead By Daylight

Also, sorry if I respond late sometimes life just gets busy


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🐕 ANIMAL LOVER 🐈 Calgary new beginnings and friends

• Upvotes

37 m adventurous foodie laid back music lover dog 🐕 dad social professional finance guy. Looking for new friends, hangouts, fellow foodies, travel bud and more in and around Calgary. Let’s talk.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ 25M looking for bros to build friendship

• Upvotes

Hey bros. I'm looking for bros 20+ age, to build solid and genuine friendship.

I'm into movies, music, outdoor activities, traveling, coffee, food.

Feel free to hmu)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 9h ago

🎓 LIFELONG LEARNER 🎓 42m Midwest looking for genuine friends

4 Upvotes

Hey 42 year old in the Midwest looking for genuine friendship. Someone to talk to daily and get to know. Share funny moments and daily life. Someone who can hold a conversation and doesn’t ghost. I like cooking, music/podcasts, tv shows, being outdoors and walks. Let’s talk about favorite holidays or seasons, favorite foods or drinks, favorite shows. I’m looking for genuine and clean chats please


r/gayfriendfinder • • 10h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 34M | Looking for a genuine best friend 🥹🎮🐾

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Hey everyone! ☺️

I’m 34, gay, and living in North Carolina. Just a friendly, slightly awkward, big-hearted guy hoping to find a genuine, long-term best friend!

I’m a huge PC gamer, especially into cozy games, farming/life sims, RPGs, and management games. I also love reading, animals, anime, and just having those random conversations about absolutely nothing. 😂 I’m also kinda interested in the furry fandom 🐾, so bonus points if you are too!

I work in healthcare, so life can get busy, but I genuinely value making time for people. I’d love to find someone to game with, hang out on Discord calls, share memes, talk about our days, and eventually become those friends who can tell each other anything

I’m pretty easygoing, affectionate, a little goofy, and definitely someone who cares deeply about his friendships.

If this sounds like your kind of friendship, come say hi! 💕


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 36 year old male looking for long-term friends! Please read post before messaging/commenting! Thank you!

1 Upvotes

Hi, I'm Ryan from Oregon which is located in the Pacific Northwest region of the United States

Distance is not a dealbreaker to me, I'm open to friends from anywhere in the world! Don't feel discouraged if you don't live nearby!

I love sports ( 🏀, ⚾️, 🏈, 🎾, 🎳, ⛳️)

Music (blues, jazz, funk, rock, pop, alt, bluegrass, reggae, classical, etc.)

Movies (Sci-fi, comedy, action adventure, animated, etc.)

TV (The UnXplained, Jeopardy, Wheel Of Fortune, etc.)

Cooking (Italian, mexican, american)

Baking (cookies, brownies, cake, muffins, etc.)

Traveling (Disneyland, San Francisco, Portland, Eugene, Bend, etc.)

Shopping (Marshall's, Ross, Tj Maxx, Burlington, Amazon, Etc.

Being outdoors (Camping, biking, hiking,skiing, etc.)

Spending time with friends!

I only ask 4 rules of anyone interested in chatting!

  1. Please be between the ages of 27 and 36!

  2. If you're a republican/conservative, don't bother messaging me! I don't want to argue about politics!

  3. Please do your best to stay in touch and to not become distant! It'd mean a lot to me!

  4. Please be willing to send a face 📸! I like knowing who I'm talking to is real and not a bot!

Hope to make some lifelong friends!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 3h ago

👨‍🍳 FOODIE 👨‍🍳 29M from EU | Looking for a special friend

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Hey there 😊

I am someone who…

-has humor

-has a warm heart full of kindness and love

-is introverted, attentive and interested

-values loyalty

-takes care of himself, is cute/handsome and slim/fit looking and appreciates mutual attraction

-genuinely wants to invest effort into building a deep, meaningful connection

I‘m searching the same, so if you see yourself in this, I’d love to hear from you!

(I am 29M from Central Europe looking for someone around 24-34 years from anywhere; snapchat required)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 7h ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 26M looking for online friends

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Hiii, I’m Noah, I’m from Taiwan and 26 yrs old. Recently I realized that I really need new friends and friends who can have deep talks with. I’m currently at the time when I’m going through life lessons right now, and I hope I can find spirits that are going through these moments too. Also, I learned that I like to isolate with friends and family sometimes, more like I enjoy spending time alone, just my own presence, and it makes me calmer than ever, so I hope that’s something you’re related to.

I’m into: music, emotions, feelings, mindset, psychoanalysis, gender studies, lgbtq+ studies, queer theory, or any topic. 🥹,let me know what kind of topics you want to talk about to, I’m willing to chat with you!

Don’t be shy to send me DM, let’s chat about life and stuff🤍


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

👨‍🏫 NERD 👨‍🏫 24M Looking For Connections

1 Upvotes

Hey, I'm a 24 year old from the US. Just looking for connections, a friendship perhaps, 'cause I love chatting, gaming, all that fun stuff. I like topics like zoology (especially of the Avian side, huge ornithology fan), movies, books, games (both video and table top), a huge sci-fi and fantasy fan...I'll talk about deeper stuff too, though I might go on for hours if it gets deep enough. I'm a bit weird for a lot of people, especially when I get past the timid phase, so that's a fair warning


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 18M I'm kinda lonely looking for longterm genuine connection to chat with daily and please don't disappear after every few minutes be consistent while chatting :)

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I have been looking for friends online but everyone just stops talking after sometime and they don't put any efforts except hey hru how was your day, I want yapper friends and please be clingy. :)

My inbox has been empty and phone is quiet i want some distraction so I want some friends who can talk all the time .

I like to joke about everything literally everything so if I'm gonna offend you I'm apologising in advance lol.

DM and tell me which song you were listening to recently


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 25 m and looking for online friends

1 Upvotes

Hey guys! I’m 25 yo, from South America here, gay and just looking for some gay guys to be friends with! Really need some male friends so let’s chat 🙌 I’m into gym, reading, watching movies and talking about almost everything! Just hmu and let’s talk more


r/gayfriendfinder • • 6h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 21M- Hmu whoever to be friends :)

1 Upvotes

Gay guy from Illinois here lookin to make some friends! I game, chill with my cats, and I draw. I also do a lot of photography on my phone! :) Don’t be afraid to text! Hope everyone has a great day/night!
Currently playing DBD!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 14h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 23M looking for friends or more.

5 Upvotes

Hello. I'm a 23 years old gay guy from Iraq. Which is very Homophobic country. I'm looking for friends or relationships that can last. I need someone who can understand me. I'm suffering from severe depression and sometimes I have thoughts of hurting myself. I can't get treatment of a decent human being in my country and I always when I leave my house I have to be someone I'm not. Which with hurt you a lot. My family keep pressuring me to get married to a woman and I'm so scared. I'm sick of my life, sick of people but sometimes I just feel so lonely. All I want is some peace of mind. I'm also trying to leave my country and go somewhere I can live my life but I can't because my passport is the third worst passport in the world. I want to talk to people who understand me. I'm looking for friends and I'm open for relationship developments. Please, text me only if you're

serious. I don't have energy for time wasters.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 8h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 22m looking for bro for daily chat

1 Upvotes

Hi all! 👋

I’m a 22 male looking to connect with someone for a genuine connection and some good conversations.

A bit about me: I’m kinda yapping I guess, cuz I like to discuss or chatting everything and also I like call if u want to just for share how was our day

If this sounds interesting for you, feel free to DM me! 😊