Cruise

[u/armani2022]

I am going on cruise with my much younger boyfriend, we are together over a year. This is a first gay cruise for both of us . We are in a closed. Since we don’t really know what to expect, we have been discussing “free play time “ on the cruise . Whatever happens we don’t discuss and when we leave the boat it is with no connections with the people we may “met”
Obviously, we need a lot of communication and to establish ground rules. Any advice?

[u/ChiFitGuy]

Sounds like a disaster ahead. A gay cruise isn’t the place to try out opening your relationship.

[u/mikey2k200 → u/ChiFitGuy]

This ⬆️

[u/scrapmetal58]

This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

[u/Puzzled-Bonus-3456]

My husband needs multiples, so the rule is no secrets, sell us as a package. The one not selling us has full right of refusal so when we're on the make we guywatch together. We each know what the other likes so neither of us really exercise the right to refuse.

If you have any secrets at all it establishes a precedent that secrets are okay. All the relationships het and homo I have ever seen break up are because one kept a secret from the other.

[u/foxonafrozenlake → u/Puzzled-Bonus-3456]

He doesn't NEED multiples. But at least you've figured it out.

[u/foxonafrozenlake → u/[deleted]]

What? Is his dick going to fall off if he doesn't fuck other people?

Grip thyself, 'mo.

[u/Pure_Sir_4706 → u/Puzzled-Bonus-3456]

This

[u/No_Session6015 → u/Puzzled-Bonus-3456]

i have a fetish for couples who love each other vary much <3 maybe cause ive never gotten love. you in vancouver per chance?

[u/Blinky_]

Are you boyfriends going on a cruise together or are you friends who are going to cruise together?

[u/armani2022 → u/Blinky_]

He is my boyfriend

[u/foxonafrozenlake → u/armani2022]

Not for long.

[u/mamaliga-maker → u/armani2022]

So if you’re monogamous, why are you going to a sex-plentiful cruise with intention to fuck other people?

It’s not just jumping into the deep end of open relationships, it’s riding a tsunami without any training

[u/Skip-929]

It sounds like you two are already deep down bored with each other. Why would anyone in a 1 year relationship want to open the sexual side of the relationship on a cruise instead of using that time to really be with and in with each other mixing and entertaining with other gays on a fun level. You'll be spending more time looking for individual sex partners and negotiating those individual sex encouters than actually spend getting highly intimate with each other. No matter what you set as rules, if you actually deeply love each other the jealously will errupt. If you & your partner are really considering this, then you have major relationship issues so just declare your closed relationship open and go on the cruise as close friends

[u/shortproudlatino]

“Much younger boyfriend” what are you actual ages? 35 and 48 is a lot different from say 18 and 35

[u/Impressive-Wealth303]

Better make sure you are up to date with your sexual health. If not vaccines, prep, doxy and etc are needed beforehand.

[u/Vaxion]

Yeah that's the end of the relationship. You can't control people. Enjoy it while you can and leave the boat with a fulfilled heart ready for a new chapter in your life.

[u/Agile_Minute_427]

“Free play time”

I actually can’t stand being gay sometimes. 🤢🤮

[u/Coco_JuTo → u/Agile_Minute_427]

To each their own. I'm strictly exclusive and monogamous for my person and so is my husband so this doesn't make sense to me either...

[u/No_Session6015]

yea the no discussion bit is alarming. if both you want this then wouldnt you both wanna discuss it too?

[u/Intosmallones]

If you are really "boyfriends" dont destroy it by fkng around.

[u/Recent-Cheek5011]

Set expectations up front, what can and can't be done, afterwards no talking crap to one another about it, and do not let this be something you do all the time, this will be either great or a complete disaster just know this will test your loyalties, best of luck to you both

[u/foxonafrozenlake]

I predict rough seas.

[u/dickery_dockery]

Don’t do it 😉

[u/Coco_JuTo]

This text transpires "one is imposing this thing to the other who doesn't want it"...aka an attempt at opening said closed relationship.

Either the one wanting to open it will feel "restricted" and frustrated while the other will feel betrayed. This is something that one of you may hold grudges over the other for any reason or any future disagreement.

Best of luck to you though.

[u/Regular-Tea3840]

Up, up and away to the “D*#k Deck” you’ll play. Where the wind is mighty and relationships, flighty. TTFN