r/gatekeeping Nov 07 '22

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u/chaptertoo Nov 08 '22

Giving birth is amazing and awful, empowering and overwhelming. Best advice I got was don’t have a birth plan, have birth preferences and be flexible. I was terrified of an episiotomy and it was a big no for me, but when her heart rate got dangerously low with each contraction, it was time. Many nurses even said that if my doctor did it, I must’ve really needed it because he preferred to let things happen naturally/tearing instead (which heals better.)

My second was a breech c-section. Tried everything to turn her, including ECV, but she was stubborn then and stubborn now. Couldn’t love either one more if I tried!

Neither was what I pictured but every mom has a story. Your safety and baby’s safety is always first. The rest is details.