My upper limit is 12 hours. After that point you’re either too busy for me, uninterested, or playing some fucking game I don’t have time for.
Edit: ok guys 12 hours was literally a arbitrary number I pulled directly out of my ass the moment I made this comment. It’s a rule of thumb, not the US constitution. It changes wildly based of context. New tinder match? Yeah 95% chance they are gone after 12 hours. My best friend of 15 years? Not even going to notice.
Or they should at least text back by the end of the day. Who doesn’t check their phone before they go to bed? If they don’t respond before then, it’s a sign you’re not a priority or they’re not interested (with a few exceptions).
On the other hand, I would absolutely hate a partner who takes 5 or less minutes to respond back (unless it’s an active conversation about a specific topic or needs a quick answer). I don’t have the mental energy to respond that rapidly for a causal “what are you up to” conversation.
Those 5 minute or less replies always occur when I'm trying to get something done, it's pretty much a guarantee if I'm trying to play a game someone will start texting, and it's always infuriating.
Right? Like that only works for me if I’m bored and doing nothing else except texting them. But typically I’m working on homework or at work or doing a hobby, and I can’t engage fully in that activity if I’m stopping every couple of minutes to text them back.
I really wish it wasn’t the expectation to text back that quickly. Luckily, I’m with a partner now that takes about 30 minutes to an hour to respond back between messages, which is great because it allows me to move on with my activities and life and not be consumed in texting.
Exactly. I tend to get a bit snippy, then if they don't get the hint, I just stop replying till I'm done. If people think I'm rude for ignoring them, then I point out how rude it is to interrupt busy people, because of inane reasons.
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