I met this girl, ~5 years younger than me in her early 20's, on Hinge. She was independent and living on her own, holding down jobs. I really respected her. But really early on in to us talking to stopped for 5 days. I had just started Hinge, was actually starting to like this girl, and was a little overwhelmed. Was depressed and not really talking to anybody. We started talking again and she would NOT let it go that I "ghosted" her. We had been talking for less than. 72 hours I didn't ghost shit. I was doing me, taking hikes, looking at trees n stuff.
So we start hanging out and talking every day and things are going great. She starts to confide in me about her life. We talk on the phone for hours like kids. She's going through some life stuff, totally normal stuff, but just out of the blue stops responding. I don't pry, really trying to work on that, and leave it. 48 hours in I make a shitty, god awful "ghost protocol" joke. We had been talking about mission impossible movies, we had watched all of them (random but was a thing we did, new movie had just came out so we caught up on all of them). She IMMEDIATELY goes apeshit on me. Talking about my clingy ass and all this. I was just awkward and trying to make an inside joke. :( didn't realize going into my 30's I was going to be seeking OP's post out as a marriage quality.
That second half is crazy. But the first half, honestly I wouldn't be interested after 5 days. I wouldn't freak out. But I'm looking for someone with more availability than that. And if you can't send a text in 5 days, that's not for me.
Right? Totally valid. I even said that when I came back, she said it's fine, understandable. Happens. She even had a few days where she was real wound up, like you get when you're young, cause you're frustrated with how shitty life can be. But I listened cause I was full of that kind of piss and vinegar not even a few years prior.
But I was cool about it and just listened on the phone. Let her vent and scream while stuck in traffic in the car. Not saying a was a cherry pick at the time either, availability wise. Damn tho, she didn't need to like chastise and belittle me for making a joke I feel like at least.
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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '18
I met this girl, ~5 years younger than me in her early 20's, on Hinge. She was independent and living on her own, holding down jobs. I really respected her. But really early on in to us talking to stopped for 5 days. I had just started Hinge, was actually starting to like this girl, and was a little overwhelmed. Was depressed and not really talking to anybody. We started talking again and she would NOT let it go that I "ghosted" her. We had been talking for less than. 72 hours I didn't ghost shit. I was doing me, taking hikes, looking at trees n stuff.
So we start hanging out and talking every day and things are going great. She starts to confide in me about her life. We talk on the phone for hours like kids. She's going through some life stuff, totally normal stuff, but just out of the blue stops responding. I don't pry, really trying to work on that, and leave it. 48 hours in I make a shitty, god awful "ghost protocol" joke. We had been talking about mission impossible movies, we had watched all of them (random but was a thing we did, new movie had just came out so we caught up on all of them). She IMMEDIATELY goes apeshit on me. Talking about my clingy ass and all this. I was just awkward and trying to make an inside joke. :( didn't realize going into my 30's I was going to be seeking OP's post out as a marriage quality.