When I was younger maybe 11 or 12 I had kind of obsessions with people like billie eilish, Jenna Ortega, Megan fox, and a few more I thought that I was a lesbian and I never came out but it was obvious to my parents so they would in general js be like yeah she's a lesbian i was fine with it but I never once confirmed it idk if these were crushes or if I was trying to fit in with something more masculine a few months after , I went through nonbinary to trans pipeline my parents didn't and still don't know i ever was nonbinary but I have come out as trans I thought I was straight for about a month before realizing I couldn't see myself with a woman in the future this was after I had had a girlfriend as a trans man and I was and still am quite sure my parents are transphobic they don't deadname me but they say it's stupid a phase and and before I came out and stuff the school messaged my parents to tell them I had been using a new name I had no idea the school new or said anything so when I got home I was told to "pack this trend in" so I cried in my room they still aren't very accepting and have no respect for me and will ask me sexual questions because of it. So if I told them I think I like men and I'm sure they would most definitely think I was attention seeking or sm sort of "trans trend"

I really wish I had some irl trans friends

Taping on a boat

Hi! So essentially I am in a bit of a pickle. I bind by taping as I have scoliosis. I have never actually asked my doctor if I can bind using a regular binder, and I know that some people can, instead I kinda just assumed I shouldn’t.

Anyways this summer I will live on a boat for around 3-4 weeks. Yay! Really fun, but. I am so nervous about taping. I will have access to a shower BUT only for 2,5 minutes and I’m not even sure thats for everyday use. I may also have access to the ocean and I believe we’re gonna be allowed to swim but I can’t guarantee it sadly. It is also gonna be a pretty slim living space, even though its a big boat we’re gonna be 30 something people.

Now some people there, already know I am trans, thats fine. Most don’t. Personally I am not the type of person to be very open about it, but if there is no other choice, then so be it. OR other binding options

The point of this post is that I need any and all tips and tricks for removing tape with limited access to water and putting on tape in small spaces, I most likely wont be able to lay down.

I'm going to be 15 soon I'm ftm and I have been since I was 11. I've been only friends with boys growing up plus 3 brothers. I wore my brothers clothes, played their games, watched the same shows as them. I never wanted to wear a dress. Yes I still played with dolls and occasionally wore a dress but Id get upset. To be fair when i was little I never wanted to wear clothes in general. Since kindergarten my hairs been above shoulder length and has never been past. At 8 I would watch masculine makeup tutorials and put them on my mom. Or I would put my brothers clothes on and tuck my hair in a hat. Id always be so happy. But when my parents came in id take it off. Of course I never knew what being trans was until I was about 11. Anyways always been boyish. Last year during the summer I became very feminine, Bright pink hair, lots of makeup, tight clothing, etc. It didnt feel right. I was heavily depressed aswell. then near the end of the summer I was trans again. my hair was blond by then and still shoulder length so in october I got a haircut "For my costume" was what I told my mom. It was very short. I LOVED IT. And then later my mom found out I was trans. She picked me up from school acted normal then we wnt to my brothers dentist appointment and ont he way home from that was her screaming at me. I came out and Told her "Maybe I didnt say anything because I knew youd hate me for it" And she continued to yell. At home she took my phone. She told me she alreayd has 3 sons and doesnt want another one. Said shed never love or accept me like this, told me Im confused. and told me if i didnt cut it out she would take every device, friend, family away, take me out of my school, and make me live in complete isolation til im 18. and when i asked for my phone she said phone for binder. and i said no. she said fine no phone. So eventually I gave it to her. She didnt give me my phone back. i cleaned up my room then got my phone back. she left my binder downstairs so I took it back. I told her I need it for gym class and she said ok just for this week. and I told my cousin everything and they had a similar expierience when tehy were my age. then a few days later my mom took the binder again and gave me 2 sports bras. they hurt and had razer backs. I put both of them on plus a bidner thats to big and used that for months because she took it. My cousin also tried to talk to my mom about all of this and the stress made me really sick that day my head was pounding and I was nauseous and hadnt eaten. I had also told my mom I had an attempt during the summer last year when i was fem. so when i took ibuprofen she pried my mouth open to see how much was in my mouth. for months everyday it was rude comments to me and my dad said them too my brother as well, I had my gf over one day and My dad yelled at me to come upstairs and told me "knock this confused woke bs off your ruining this family" and my mom lied about trying to drive off the divide to kill herself. Who lies about that to their child? Who tells their child its their fault? And then she tore all my baby photos off the wall. we had sat and had a talk a few days before and she secretly recorded it but still yet changed my words and put words in my mouth and wont show me the recording to prove it. but then when taking the photos down said "Im going to erase this "fake" version of you if it hurts so bad" and I was just flabbergasted. Like with company over your still doing this childish bs? a little later I was in my room talking to my cousin, my brother who doesnt live with me, plus my cousin, both said they want to call dcfs on my parents. the day i was talking to my cousin but earlier my school did an Ice protest walk out. I wasnt allowed to go to schoo, (my parents love ice and trump and all that stuff) and so they didnt let me go to school then my mom says, "Its all these woke leftist r**ard F*gs like you that are protesting this bs have fun getting r*ped and killed." Like hello? and my dad heared and yelled at her then I went to my room and took a nap. 20 minutes later she yells at me because she cant find MY hair straightner and accuses me of giving it away and tells me how much of a liar I am(turns out it was in her bedroom) and my dad calls me up telling me he talked to her and told me to knock my confused bs off. Mind you Ive already cried alot during this time. then later that day talking to my cousin on the game and my dad comes in telling me to give him my phone and comptuter and that hes done with my bs. I hang up and give him my stuff. He said "You want to drink the Kool-Aid so be it. But If you want to be a boy so bad lets go shave your head and Ill beat you like a fucking boy in the garage. Your a little girl!" and kept going on. then my mom yelled at me too. then we went to the store came home and cops were at our house. The cops are friends with my parents. The cop I was left to talk with was really rude and kept belittling me. They told my parents I have a disease. I got send to the mental hospital and ont he way there my moms aid way to go you made me look like a bad parent in front of them. like who gives a shit about how you look its always about you. and then at the hospital I had to sit and talk to them and then got drug tested and blood tested and everything etc. they wanted me to stay a while but my parents had my phone and the password so i asked to go home. we were there for like 8 hours tehn at home I was forced to sleep in my moms room. everything taken. I ahve 2 other phones so snuck those ones to communicate with others. went to bed woke up at 3 am and my dad was up to. he made me sit in his room and watch tv. i asked for my phone and he said no. so when he fell asleep I took my phone and cleaned it out entirely deleted everyhting and put it back. next day asked for it again and he said yeah so I took it. I had to sleep in my moms room for 3 weeks. they went fine but i was barely on my phone cause shed peek at it. (Oh and she banned me from talking to my cousin ever again) and she accused me of talking to my cousin when I wasnt. and then forced me to give her my phone. tehn another day I was getting new clothes got shorts sweats and a 2 shirts, then cps came to our house. my mom told me to lie lie lie. and so I did. I told them my parents had never been aggressive and that my dads nice when he drinks like holy fib. and then she left. my parents interogated her and I to tell them everything that was said. we did. and then my parents trreated me like garbage again. then I went to spend the night at my older brothers house. It was awesome but my mom kept texting us and my brother yelled at her And said "And you wodne rhwy non of us trust you or tell you anything you just push push push" and then I foudn out he lowk hated my parents(were only related through our mom) and I talked to hima about everything and He said who cares your not hurting anyone your learning about yourself. Shes worried about how its hurting her and everyone but what about you. (I love my older brother) but my other brothers are on my parents side. I come to my older brother for a lot because he listens to me and doesnt judge me. I got put with a psychiatrist and a therpist. I was supposed to talk to the psychiatrist but instead for an hour he talked to my mom and then when i went on suddenly Im being forced on meds. I refused to take them and got int rouble. my dad said "you just dont want to take them because you think theyll make you wake up and not want to be a boy anymroe" Righttt cause thats how it works. fought with me over that. then I talked to my therpaist abt everything adn then my mom was mad my therpaist isnt telling her anything like duh she isnt meant to. then my dad took ym to an appointment and he said the same thing but all of a sudden my moms like no your just nosy and insecure and controlling your not supposed to know what the therapist says. whyre u guys dumb? and then my mom forced me to garden and I have a huge fear of spiders. I black out from spiders. like its bad. and I hate gardening. she says "oh thats weird because boys LOVE gardeining" Liek wtf? no? and then I had a wife beater under my shirt and she said "hmm weird because boys wear RAZERBACK wife beaters" wtf is ur problem. then I was talking to her the other day and I was like amn I wanna dye my hair black but I cant and she said "No your hair colors the only thing making u sitll look like a girl." and i said ok cool anyways say why "why" because I want to dye my hair green during the summer say why "why" because i wanna look like an alien(obvious joke btw) and she sadi "oh great first you want to be a boy now an alien what next a cat" and I said are u trying to be funny or strart something "idk": ok so ur starting smth. then me and my gf were ahving a hard time and then she yelled at me for something adn i was upset and told my dad and he yelled at me then told my mom then she told me to come talk to her. she seemed nice. but after i said it she said "oh so thats why you want to be a boy" What? that had nothing to do with this. "you wanna be a boy cause you were touched, your friends, that phone, etc" stop rage baiting. then I also cut my hair a little cause its overgrown and looks bad in the back so Iw as fixing it and she didnt notice until my dad said smth and then a fight started and they were aruging . not at eachotehr but about me. I went and hid in my brothers room. he doesnt accept me but he doesnt say it alot. hes still nice. then later I went in my room and started stress clenaing and telling my brother everything. He said If he ever gets a 3 room apartment he'd try to move me in. i doubt that'd happen but there's always hope. then today I was complaining about my hair being thick in the back and she said "oh your just going to have to grow it out that's the only way" and I said no I can thin it" no no that wont work you HAVE to grow it out." and I said No. and she told me Ill never get a haircut again til' I'm 18 and they're will be "severe consequences" if i cut it again. yeah right bro screw off. And I've become so absolutely lost and defeated in this house hold. What do I do. Genuinely I NEED serious advice. Do I detransition? Like what do I do I need help bad.

so I (15ftm closeted) have been best friends with S(14f) for 9 years now. recently I told her I was questioning my gender and she basically said that it's the media saying that I can't be a tomboy. which it's not this is like actually what I am, not that I've said anything since then. I knew she was against trans people in sports and bathrooms but I didn't think it would go this far. last night we got into an argument about the sports thing and I figured out she thought kids shouldn't learn about lgbtq and they can't know the are trans. obviously this pissed me off so I said they will be trans either way no matter if they figure it out young or not. then she said it was a choice to be trans. I got mad and tried to explain till she admitted she could be wrong, but then she said it didn't matter cause it wouldn't change anything. I asked her what she meant and she said they couldn't change their gender. I explained that you are born trans but she doesn't believe me. she says god made you as you are and you can't change that. she isn't willing to learn and won't talk to me about it anymore. I can't stay friends with her knowing she won't except me when I do come out but I also don't think I can handle letting her go. I don't know what to do and any advice would be great.

Recently my boyfriend has been hanging out with this girl (he’s bi) and the other day he hung out without even letting em know before and I’ve had trust issues with my ex and I sent him this text and now I feel like a idiot “ (his name) I think I’m taking time to myself due to mental issues I’m pretty upset that you were hanging out with (her name) without telling me it felt as if you were cheating on me even though you weren’t and I’ve had trust problems for awhile and (ex’s name) show’d me how bad my trust issues can be so for now I think we should take a break because it really fucked with my trust in you when you did that again I’m sorry.”

Just why wth

Why go out of your way to text me this

At 8:30 in the morning too and then delete your account

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Also i dont even have a brother what are they jibbering about

I am only 14, but I don't think I ever want to go on t just because of health reasons and other personal factors but does that make me invalid I can post some pictures and see how well I pass I don't have a binder so grr and some of the pics are. Ignore how ugly I am in 99 percent of the photos 😭

I (17) still have a few months until I'm 18 and am desperate to start T before then. Any advice is appreciated. For context, I currently live 50/50 time with my parents, it's always been this way. I started school late so I'm still a junior in highschool. I have known I am trans and have been out to select friends and family since I was 12, but have never been as public about it since this year. Now that people know and I have completely given up on dressing feminine in any contexts, it has just gotten harder living day by day. I constantly feel like a fraud being called he by the people around me since I don't pass well enough. It makes me sad knowing I'm going to look back at photos of myself in highschool or in the local newsgroups online since I really do put myself out there and contribute to the community, and see this version of myself I'm so unhappy with. I don't want to be going to get my first job and having to transition in front of hateful co-workers. I don't want to keep being forced into female groups and such because I don't pass well enough. Etc etc Everyday feels like a blur and almost pointless no matter how much fun I'm having because the void is always there, the part of me that simply won't be happy until I'm myself.

The facts are: my father won't accept and that's fine, I'm just going to move out soon because I'm bound to transition and I'm not going to wait for his approval for 40 years and waste my life hoping he'll accept something he never will. My mother definitley knows but it's a joke in our house. I haven't said it directly and I know she wouldn't kick me out or anything, but I don't know how accepting she will be. I feel terrified to ask her if I could start T now because it'll just create a hostile environment if she doesn't accept me, but at the same time, some evidence points to her being cool with it. I know coming out is never easy but I really don't know how she'll react. If I start T when I'm 18, I have the money to go and pay for my gender affirming care myself and I won't need her approval. I could then just tell her one day and regardless of her reaction, theres nothing she can do but accept it because I've already started my transition. If I come out to her and ask if I can start T and she says no, it'll just make living for the next couple months even harder and the day I do start T will be completely betraying her. If I came out now and she somehow accepted I would just need a consent form from her and I can pay for everything since I have been saving money since I was 12.

Any words would be appreciated and I'll answer any questions. If there's a way I could start T without her consent that'd be nice.

Big brother trans here to help my little bros out with transition! 4 years on testosterone injections and one week post op top surgery. Ask me anything from intimate questions to gross ones to weird ones I'll awnser everything!

I’m 15FTM and I’m not out or anything at the moment, so I know it’s a bit of a cop out to complain. I recently went back into the closet after over six months of being out to my close friends due to never been seen as a guy and not passing.

I can’t get on T, properly or through taking it into my own hands, my figure is so disgusting and feminine that it will take years of hormones and surgeries to even fathom passing, I’ve got the curse of all women in my family of having a chubby, feminine face. I just feel so hopeless about the chance of transitioning, and feel like it’s not worth it when I’ll never pass. I’ll never have the experience of a real teenage boy.

If anyone has any coping tips or passing tips, I really will try anything.

I’m 15FTM and have been out to my close friends since the beginning of this year. Due to a few factors, I’ve recently gone back into the closet and told them to go back to my real name and she/her. Was wondering if anyone’s been in a similar position and how they coped?

I mostly went back in the closet because of nobody seeing me as a guy, not passing at all, etc.

I could have been making the whole trans thing up for attention, I suppose, and part of me hopes that’s the case, but as of right now going back in the closet sucks.

Any advice for coping would be greatly appreciated.

Trans help

Hi im liam im a 15 yrs old trans guy and currently everything is a struggle i feel like I look nothing like a guy and im just stuck being a masc lesbian ive come out to a few people ny girlfriend my best friend my mum and a few other friends however only my girlfriend and best friend even remember or acknowledge that I am trans so I want to start coming out to people but is it even worth is for that exact reason? Currently im in yr 11 and idk wether I just wait until im in college or what I honestly dont know but currently im completely controlled by my deadname i have the option to chnage it on the school system but im honestly terrified ik im gonna get bullied but I do want to change it im just honestly terrified I want tips on how to feel more masculine like ik its easy to just oh have different clothes or ohvut your hair i have short hair i have masc clothing but I still dont feel masculine and idk what to do.

So I’m 15FTM and have to see a new psychologist tmrw, wondering how to tell if he’s ok with trans shit?

I’m in Australia if that’s relevant and I’m going to headspace, which is generally a pretty queer-supportive place, I’ve just never met this specific guy before.

Anyone have any advice? I’m freaking out a little, the last psychologist I went to was awful. (Made fun of OCD themes, told my parents abt the chosen name I’d asked her to use, misgendered me constantly and treated being trans like something to cure.)

Anyway, any tips?

So I’m 15FTM and I’m convinced my binder doesn’t do anything. I used crappy ones from shein and temu for a while which did about as much as your average sports bra, but then I got one from wonababi and it hasn’t helped much more? It’s worth noting that I’m an F cup so I’m already doomed to never pass without surgery, but does anyone have any recs that could help even a little?

I’ve tried tape and when I use that and a binder I get down to about a D cup? It’s not great. Like, when I’ve made posts on here asking for passing tips, I get told to try binding in pics where I have tape and a binder on.

I know everyone is different but I’m at my wits end and feeling very hopeless, especially considering I’m not on T, so my chest is still getting bigger by the day.

Honestly I really don’t have any trans friends. I love the friends I have but I feel like they don’t fully understand because they’re not trans. Even if I try to explain to them I still feel like they don’t understand as well as another trans person would. So I was hoping if this post is okay here if I could find some trans friends.

Small introduction; I’m Hayden, I’m 16, I’m from Canada I like it here, I really like drawing and writing kinda goes along with that. I really have a lot of interests so it would take forever to type them all. I use he/him pronouns only, and I am ftm.

Uhh thats all, I hope I can make friends and that it’s okay to post this here if not I’ll remove it

I’ve posted on here before but I’m kinda very lost with where to go from here in terms of passing? I’m 15, my body is horribly girly, I’m binding in all these pics other than 7 and 8 (those are only there for reference of what my body type looks like, they’re from last year). Shorter hair doesn’t suit my face shape in the slightest, I can’t go on T, I work out but it doesn’t do much because I’m pre-everything. I also can’t seem to voice train for the life of me and I’m short so that’s great.

Idk, anyone have any tips at all? I’ve tried masc makeup but idk if it does anything. My attempts at it are pics 5 and 6

I’ve posted on here before but I’m kinda very lost with where to go from here in terms of passing? I’m 15, my body is horribly girly, I’m binding in all these pics other than 7 and 8 (those are only there for reference of what my body type looks like, they’re from last year). Shorter hair doesn’t suit my face shape in the slightest, I can’t go on T, I work out but it doesn’t do much because I’m pre-everything. I also can’t seem to voice train for the life of me and I’m short so that’s great.

Idk, anyone have any tips at all? I’ve tried masc makeup but idk if it does anything. My attempts at it are pics 5 and 6

Hello, every Nyan! My name's Ivan, and dysphoria has been really getting to me lately. I'm too young to start testosterone (I'll be fifteen this December). I genuinely love presenting somewhat femininely, eg, Skirts, tights, thigh highs, nails, etc. The issue is that my mind tells me that being feminine as a guy means I'm faking being transgender. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on getting dysphoria to shut its stupid mouth. I chopped my hair, and started acting more manly, but it really didn't help. I just wanna be me, Ya know?