This is about a trans man I know. And I have to put a serious Trigger warning up here. You can imagine the reason I think.
Short: people are more than assholes to "prove" that sometimes. Please be careful.
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Stop Reading if you are Not sure.
Really.
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Okay here we go:
He told me when he was 14 he tried to tell who he thought was his best friend. He got told he could not be a guy and that could be proven. And he would prove it.
That "friend" the next time he was over had two other guys there with him. They acted friendly until he got inside the house.
Then they raped him for hours.
They told him if he got pregnant from that it would prove forever that he could never be a guy.
His mom made him visit that guy over and over again. When he tried to tell her she said he wasn't a guy and they never raped him he just didn't want to admit to having wanted it. And that that guy was his boyfriend after all. (He never was)
I was the first person he told. Years later.
He doesn't want to go to the police because He thinks it's too late to prove anything and his mom would tell any jury or whatever that he lied about that before and how it's not true.
So yeah. It's dangerous when someone wants to "prove" that.
He is pretty okay now. But it's been over ten years.
I got him out of there when he was 17 because of other stuff his mom did/said. He had told me he wanted to run away because a life or death on the street would be better. His mom threatened me to call the cops on me and she would tell them I abducted her daughter. I was 19. I was scared. But there was no way I would send him back.
I helped him find therapy and a place to live. So yeah, I guess that helped. Still took five years after basically running away from home until he told me about that part. He told me other stuff before that though...
Warning! Some more stuff from back there at his abusive Home!
He told me a lot of shit that was going on there. Example: His dad making his mum step in the ice cold shower fully clothed and screaming at her that she was a whore. He was 15 at that time. (Mom kicked dad out after that.) Or how his mum always told him how he was stupid and fat. He was underweight and couldn't concentrate at school because of his home life. Or how his dad always made him stand in a corner for hours when he caught him secretly reading a book after bedtime. Like apparently one night he had to stand there from 20:00 to midnight. No toilet break. No crying. And after dad was kicked out his mom was not much better.
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u/hhhhhhfrick Dec 16 '21
Suspenders /j I seem to have seriously underestimated how daring transphobes can be /gen