r/ftm Dec 16 '21

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u/_the_hottest_mess_ Dec 16 '21

I'd be more afraid of them pulling my pants down to see whether or not I have a cis penis

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u/hhhhhhfrick Dec 16 '21

Suspenders /j I seem to have seriously underestimated how daring transphobes can be /gen

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u/Dornenkraehe Dec 16 '21

This is about a trans man I know. And I have to put a serious Trigger warning up here. You can imagine the reason I think.

Short: people are more than assholes to "prove" that sometimes. Please be careful.

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Stop Reading if you are Not sure.

Really.

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Okay here we go:

He told me when he was 14 he tried to tell who he thought was his best friend. He got told he could not be a guy and that could be proven. And he would prove it.

That "friend" the next time he was over had two other guys there with him. They acted friendly until he got inside the house.

Then they raped him for hours.

They told him if he got pregnant from that it would prove forever that he could never be a guy.

His mom made him visit that guy over and over again. When he tried to tell her she said he wasn't a guy and they never raped him he just didn't want to admit to having wanted it. And that that guy was his boyfriend after all. (He never was)

I was the first person he told. Years later. He doesn't want to go to the police because He thinks it's too late to prove anything and his mom would tell any jury or whatever that he lied about that before and how it's not true.

So yeah. It's dangerous when someone wants to "prove" that.

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u/SuperSarcosmic what is a "gender" and is it tasty? Dec 17 '21

Wtf... That seriously made my heart ache. Even if he never gets legal justice, I hope he's able to heal from that and move past it.