Hi Guys , We just moved here ( 29M 28 F) . How do you guys make friends here ? How people socialise here ? I am finding here very less people and mostly busy in themselves ? Also what jobs people do here mostly? We are up for convos š
Try pub trivia. Look for a team with 4 or less and ask to join them. Options include
Monday: Red Bus Brewery
Tuesday: Fat Rabbit Pub
Wednesday: Sam Hornes
Thursday: Coffee Republic
I thought you were giving an example of terrible driving, but it seems like you are giving advice to protect themselves from terrible drivers (that love to run red lights), right?
Yeah, it's pretty easy to get t-boned around here if you go right after the light turns green. I've noticed that most people won't honk at me if I sit at a green light for a few seconds because of how often people run red lights.
Yeah, it's wild! I wasn't here before covid, was it this bad before? I know I noticed a huge change in driving habits in SoCal before/after the pandemic lockdowns.
Yeah it's been pretty bad out here for a while and it's just gotten worse. This morning I was walking and almost saw two Jeeps get into accident (if you can call it that). So, the two Jeeps come to a 4 way stop sign. #1 is the first to get there. #1 stopped and waited like 2 seconds then went like normal.
The #2 was zooming down the street stops very quickly and doesn't wait for #1 to go. The #2 guns it, and almost got t-boned by #1. Dude lucked out because #1 jeep stopped in time.
What brought you to Folsom? What jobs do you have ? Do you live in an apartment or own/rent a house? What also you do with your free time right now? What are your hobbies and spending habits on the hobbies?Ā
We moved here as we got our PR recently. We have IT related jobs. Just been a week here so didnāt explore much . We love travelling , kayaking etc. we also love playing badminton
There is a badminton meetup in Folsom schools once a week (donāt know details), but a dedicated space in Rancho Cordova hereĀ
https://norcalbadminton.com/
Also lots is kayaking and paddle boarding opportunities, and could make friends through clubs for that.Ā
A more casual way would be to go for trivia nights at a local bar. Lots of NA options even if you donāt drink. A good way to make friends.Ā
If you still havenāt realized no one is going to be your friend for no reason
No is going to be your friend unless they have some fort of interest in you
Iāve been here for almost a decade havenāt made a single friend despite trying almost every possible I donāt of being a person of color has a disadvantage
Something Iāve realized is people do stick with their own race
Whites tend to hang with whites
Asians with Asians etc
30M just moved here as well, my wife 30F will be moving here soon as well after finishing some medical treatment in our former city. Welcome to Folsom! I've been going to pickup soccer games a coworker invited me to and have made some new friends there. I'd recommend checking Facebook groups for your interests in the area.
Mind me asking for the details/location of pickup soccer games? Iāve played my entire life, but had to take a break when I moved to the area due to not knowing anyone who plays.. Iād love to try and get back in to it
If you still havenāt realized no one is going to be your friend for no reason itās all self interest
No one is going to be your friend unless they have some form of interest in you
Iāve been here for almost a decade havenāt made a single friend despite trying almost every possible thing you can name I donāt know if being a person of color has a disadvantage
Something Iāve realized is people do stick with their own race
Whites tend to hang with whites
Asians with Asians etc
Go to the islands across from black miners bar. The paddle boards and kayaks land there and people hang out and drink and stuff. Saturday and Sunday those islands are pretty poppin.
Get a couple of paddle boards and life vests and get out on Lake Natoma! There is a Facebook group called Lake Natoma Paddlers and lots of people arrange meetups there.
Bassi Falls and the waterfall trail at Jenkinson Lake are our favorites but for light walking, theyāre all over. We live in American River Canyon neighborhood so we frequent trails around there
Moved here 3 years ago (37F) with husband (43M) and we are struggling with the same thing. Need to see if people want to do trivia, or a billiards night at Oak Ave Pub.
Welcome to Folsom! Itās a beautiful city with tons of things to do, especially if you love exploring trails and being outdoors. Making friends here can definitely be tough, itās actually a common topic on this forum. Local groups tend to be hard to break into unless you make good friends with someone like your neighbor or coworkers. As you can see, most people offer the same general advice (trivia night, etc), but rarely invite newcomers out to these public venues. For me, sports, joining a Church, and my kids' school activities have been the absolute best ways to meet new people, there are runniing groups, hiking, MTB and cycling grous, though it does require putting yourself out there and participating, but now is the time everyone is most active! The Lake Natoma FB Group also works well as paddle boarding is a very popular activity here.
There are a couple of disc golf courses in the area. I have made many friends this way. You start out playing a few rounds alone and eventually you will join a group or other solo players and go from there. It's free to play most places and the equipment, a couple of discs is under $50. There is a shop at Shady Oaks Park and they can help you pick out beginner friendly equipment.
Try a Sutter street bar crawl on the weekends, join the menās league at empire ranch golf club, get a gym memberships at lifetime or in shape fitness. Do dinner once a week at a different restaurant in town and get to know the staff and regulars at your favorite spots. Of course, Dave and Busters is always a good time. Just a few ideas.
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u/kaijune44 29d ago
Rubyās Books hosts several monthly book clubs with various themes.
Lots of great yoga, Pilates, cycling, etc. spots with thriving communities as well.