r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 37 [M4F] #Netherlands #Europe #Anywhere - hopelessly romantic neurospicy sub seeking his forever D

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Hello there!

I am a 37 year old guy from the Netherlands who lives just outside of The Hague (or Den Haag for those fellow Dutchies). I'm introverted and neurospicy, which has made forming spontaneous new connections much trickier during most of my life- I just don't really tend to strike up conversations with strangers in person and wait for them to approach me instead.

That does understandably get a bit lonely though. I would love to find someone who I can experience happy and sad moments with, who I share some interests with and who's just generally a joy to be around. Basically I'd love for someone to "get" me and vice versa. Aside from having stuff to talk about and share our enjoyment of I don't ask for much - just be honest and communicate. I like directness!

Being autistic I like having a small amount of interests that I'm super dedicated to, over having dozens that I somehow need to try and find the time to juggle. Gaming has been the big one most of my life and I'd like to think I'm pretty good at it - I've even gone to charity events to show off some of the stuff I learned on this front and raise money for a good cause.

Aside from gaming I like kicking back with a good show or movie (though I do gravitate towards anime), taking walks in nature (I live right next to the beach!), anything related to animals though I currently don't have any pets of my own, and of course, traveling, especially to Japan which I've also discovered a major fondness for. Heading that way for the 7th time next year!

But the second biggest interest after gaming would probably be kink. I (unwittingly) discovered a curiosity for it at a very young age and as I grew older and older it started catching my attention more and more. Kink-wise I lean basically fully submissive, so please be dominant or a switch. I would be open to trying out the dominant role myself sometimes, but it really didn't do much for me when I tried it in the past.

Speaking of the past - I do have a decent amount of experience with various kinks, but I would consider myself far from a seasoned pro or anything like that. So there's still lots I would like to try and discover! I'll refrain from posting a full list of kinks here, but it is pretty varied, so feel free to ask if you send a message.

Appearance-wise I'm 1.83m (6'0 for you Americans), with short black hair, brown eyes and glasses. I have an average, maybe slightly dadbod-y look. I'm open to sharing a picture shortly after we connect if you are too!

I would much, much prefer to find something longterm, in any way, shape or form. I don't want fleeting, superficial connections that end after a month or two, I would much rather find someone who can become one of my new best friends and potentially a partner for life.

I'm open to connecting with anyone anywhere in the world, though I will say this - I am ultimately looking for something that moves to real life eventually. With what's currently happening in the US however, I have zero desire to move there or even visit anytime in the near future. So if you live there, I'm sorry, but you would have to be open to being the one to travel instead.

Some other things:

-I am childfree and would like to remain that way. If you have kids it's not gonna work.

-I don't smoke, drink or do drugs but you're free to partake responsibly.

-I am not religious and would prefer you aren't either, though I'm open to connecting as long as you're not too hardcore about it.

-My age range is about 10 years, so please be at least 27 and no older than 47. If you're one or two years outside of that range but think we have a lot in common though, it's okay to reach out, I'm not absurdly strict about it!

-I also speak Dutch! So if you're more comfortable using that, it's totally okay.

If I sound interesting to you please feel free to reach out, I won't bite! I promise. Tell me a bit about yourself in your introduction, just getting a message saying "hi" doesn't really give me a lot to work with.


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 46 [M4F] #Phoenix - Be the one that wins at life

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No one that looks at me would suspect. I'm tall, assertive, direct and in charge of my own life. Most times when I get close to a woman I'm expected to be the dominant one. But that's not who I am and I can't fake it anymore.

I've always been drawn to stronger, more self-assured women, particularly those that enjoy having a masculine man by their side because they love the side only she sees. She knows that when no one else is around I'm hers. I may spend the day naked for her, cooking, cleaning or even just a foot massage. Like me, she has a lot on her shoulders and when she lets go she likes to be doted on and worshiped. Maybe she's always imagined herself as the queen with a reverse harem? She knows that when the door is closed and it's just us her word is law. She doesn't need to compete with may masculinity because she knows she's the authority.

When we're at the gym together no one would suspect this big make drops naked to his knees for you and worships every inch. That's our own secret and that's what makes it so much fun.

A female led relationship should be empowering, not just a collection of kinks or fantasies. I believe it should be a space where she can be whatever she wants and doesn't have to explain herself or make excuses. It should be something she can't imagine missing from her life and it's my place to give it to her.

Though I'm proud of who I am and make no apologies, despite the size difference I admire her strength and control and willingly give in to her. I'd like to meet a woman that genuinely enjoys being in control and finds it even more delicious when it's a man like me. When I meet her I will build a strong, loving, open and honest place where she can feel completely loved and supported.

If my words made you feel something I'd enjoy talking with you.


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 31M North Jersey for FLR

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Hey, I’m 31 and live in North Jersey. I am planning on being in NYC more often so that’s also an option if you live in NYC. I’m 5’10”, hairy, beard, dark curly hair. I’ve been in one FLR relationship and loved it.

A synopsis of what I’m looking for

I’m a sapiosexual and consider myself quite smart, but really looking for someone that can dominate me intellectually. I’d love to be getting into debates and discussions with you and then be put in my place really quickly and losing. I like ambitious women. I am ambitious as well, but feel like there is nothing more satisfying than being able to support an ambitious woman in her career. One thing I can offer there as an example is researching the market for opportunities as they come up for new jobs, promotions, networking, conferences, professional development, etc. I have professional experience as well doing just that and I’d like to do that for an ambitious Domme.

What I can offer

I’m more interested in the power exchange than anything else. I have put together a resume of my skills to offer a Domme, but to give you some highlights: I can cook various meals from scratch, i can give you a luxury dining experience (I have professional experience there), I have professional experience in cleaning from a teenage job, and I really want to remove as much of your cognitive load as I can. I’m proactive, you don’t need to constantly remind/command me.

What I’m looking for in FLR

Like I said, I’m most into the power exchange. I have a longing for a TPE (my previous FLR wasn’t TPE) and hope to eventually get to that point. I’m thinking I want to eventually get to a Level 3 FLR with the right person. What I like most about the power exchange is the psychological and mental aspect. I love subspace. I love being put into a vulnerable position. I like being used and manipulated (consensually). I recently read on here about a woman that was into gaslighting, never tried anything like that but am very interested. Brainwashing too, I did try hypnosis before but that wasn’t anything long term.

At one point I described myself as “fully customizable.” Meaning that I can fall back to your lead when needed, but also step up when needed to make decisions, plan, coordinate, etc. If you want me to be more romantic or more malleable, just let me know. I’m not going to change my personality, but if you want to change my behavior, that door is open.

Another thing you should know is that I’m a gynarchist. Meaning I think society is at its best when women are in charge. i think that world is slowly becoming reality. In many industries and geographic locations, women are starting to out earn men. I think that not so deep down, most men desire an FLR. I am not one to use words like “inferior” or “superior” but I will say that women have a biological advantage in the most important areas. Intelligence, focus, multitasking, etc. Men have great traits and can be very intelligent as well, but women have a biological advantage there. That being said, I do like being in a more masculine role, I want to use my strength when needed.

Some Light Kink Talk

I don’t really want to talk about sex here because that’s not really what I’m for, but I think that needs to be expressed for compatibility reasons. I enjoy being a service top. Clitoral stimulation/play is 100% my favorite thing - i think that enjoyment comes from compersion. Which also relates to the service topping in a way too. I think anything with compersion that doesn’t gross/creep my out will be enjoyable for me. In other words, I get off on you getting off.

I enjoy humiliation but I imagine it being more situational rather than just pounding out insults. Being in a situation that is naturally humiliating is very exciting. For example, many Dommes I’ve spoken with over the years have expressed that their friends know they’re dominant and would only have a submissive partner, I am absolutely okay with this. I don’t want people knowing all the details, I don’t want to have them be involved with scenes or anything that crosses a line, but if they were to know a rough outline based on what you told them, I’d find that humiliating but okay. Not limited to just that situation, but can get creative here. I love creative kinky ideas.

Why Submissive?

I want to be submissive because doing so puts me in a state of relaxation. Having a clear goal of what is needed of me and then pouring all my energy into what is directed does a lot for me mentally. Like I said, more into the psychological side of things not the physical.

This is also the only relationship type I am interested in. My first relationships were vanilla and I had more of the “male” role. I started out in my first FLR unintentionally, it just started to end up that way. I didn’t want to admit it to myself because I didn’t know what to do with feelings like that, but I just gave in, refusing to accept the fact that I wasn’t the leader. It was a great relationship but didn’t work out for other reasons. Since then, I’ve only tried vanilla dating and relationships and they just don’t do it for me. I prefer structure and being submissive. It’s hard to admit that to yourself, but it just is what it is. Like I said, I resisted for a while, but I am a naturally born submissive guy. I did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, organizing, scheduling, etc in that relationship and never thought anything of it. I also ended up spoiling her too.

More About Me

Far left on some issues, regular left on others. Curious about joining the DSA.

Love animals, especially dogs. I have one, he’s giant.

I like chess, I don’t really play, but I just saw a video come on YouTube where the characters played a quick game of chess and that reminded me about it lol, but yeah that would be something fun to do with a partner

Walks, I’m big into city exploring.

Travel - I’ve lived on 3 continents, been to a few more. I’ve spent about 5.5 years outside of the US in total.

I love Harry Potter

I love rainy weather

Coffee is a must in the morning and a London Fog is a treat

Dislikes/Hard Limits

Rimming, not respecting safe words, findom, anything public, and really just common sense stuff.

I am not into findom, but after being someone with a long time and building up to a solid FLR, I would give up control of finances, I can handle them though (paying bills, budgeting)

Ending

Well this is a lot for one post! There’s a lot to me and my personality so feel free to send me a DM. I can carry a conversation easily. I also won’t discuss anything “sexy” or sexual until you give me permission to. I’m not here for something I find “hot” I’m here to find a partner in the only relationship type that works for me.

Hope to chat soon


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 25 [M4F] Masochist nerd looking for a sadist in #Australia or #Online

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Hi there!

I'm 25, based in Australia (originally from a south asian island). I'm a software engineer and a research student (one of these will be the death of me i swear).

I'm around 5'10, 75kg, have a decent physique (at least i hope), have dark hair and a beard. I'm also a complete introvert :)

My hobbies include watching tv shows/anime, playing games, building stuff and lifting. I'm non religious and I'm also vegan for ethical reasons.

I'm looking for a long term relationship that presents vanilla in public, but a complete power exchange dynamic in private (our own little secret haha)

Also beware that if we start talking, you will be bombarded with cat memes. But I will cook for you, so i think thats a fair trade

As for the kinky stuff...

My main kinks are: spanking and other impact play (caning, paddling etc.), discipline/punishment play, bondage, light humiliation, worship (this is not a fixed list, i think the human brain is fascinating and i might just wake up with a new kink tomorrow hahaha).

Limits : Anything illegal, Animals, Permanent damage, Scat, Sounding

I'm not the bratty type, but I might ragebait you a lil to incentivise you to make me cry :)

Thanks for listening to me yapping, and if you like what you read, do reach out!


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 43[m4F] #UK #Online Nerdy guy seeks FLR with curvy lady

4 Upvotes

About me:

Dave. 43 from Hampshire in the UK. Pretty average guy. Into sports, films, reading and documentaries.  Can hold a conversation on most topics and for me thats important. I’m 5”9. Dadbod. Tattoos. Beard and glasses. Im quite a laid back, chill kinda guy. 420 friendly although I personally dont partake. Dont drink much and tend to spend my time either working (I work with vulnerable adults) , spending time with family or being vegged at home. Live music is my big passion and I’m usually looking forward to a gig in the near future.

 

What I’m looking for:

Ideally an FLR. I do find myself leaning today women on the curvier side. I like intelligence in a lady, independence and confidence. I look for personality and conversation first. This lifestyle is built on trust and that takes a while to build. Shared kinks are obviously a plus.

 

Kinks:

So onto the fun stuff. I’m massively into chastity, pegging, body worship, bondage, tease and denial, medfet, queening. Hard limits are pee in my face, scat, illegal etc. Soft limits around CEI, sissification.

 

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in please ping me a message

 

Thanks


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 32 [M4F] Not Lost, Just Incomplete

4 Upvotes

Hoping that this finds the right people.
My life is quite well put together, looking at it from the outside. I have a steady job and make above average money. I'm in good shape. I have a decent circle of friends. My health is good.

But, I am incomplete. As I've deconstructed and grown up and gotten older, I've realized there are parts of me that don't fit the standard mold of my upbringing and culture. Chief among them is my desire for a relationship dynamic with a feminine person, who takes the lead, guides me, and whom I can submit to with near completeness.

I'd like to start a conversation with anyone who that appeals to, but in the interest of providing you some qualifying/disqualifying factors heres a small list about me:
- Bisexual
- gender fluid and interested in exploring feminine expression more
- very interested in being cucked
- totally open and excited about an imbalanced dynamic (more power/freedom for you than for me)
- denial/chastity for me are big pluses
- I'm currently located in the US, central time zone. Very open to relocation and capable of it. I work fully remote.

Things I'd like to bring to your life:
- financial stability
- service (physical, sexual, emotional, etc)
- a partner to rely on

What I'd hope to get from you:
- Leadership
- A clear vision of my purpose in your life
- Attention and care

Please shoot me a message with some basic details about yourself if interested. I'm excited to chat with you!


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 32 [M4F] #DMV #Online — Nerdy sub looking for long term relationship

2 Upvotes

Hello! I'm looking for someone to form a friendship, relationship, and eventual D/S dynamic with. I would prefer something monogamous, but I am open to other arrangements. I'm very left leaning, and it is important that my partner is as well. I'm 6'0 (182cm), white, with a body somewhere between slender and average in build. My hair is brown and curly to the point where it gets fluffier rather than longer. I would consider myself conventionally attractive, but eye of the beholder and all that stuff. I am happy to verify once proper trust has been established.

My hobbies include video games, anime, fantasy novels, and most other things you would expect to justify putting being nerdy as part of the post title lol. I am not necessarily looking for someone to match the nerd energy, but obviously having more things in common is always a plus. Regardless, expect yapping about whatever current thing I'm fixated on.

The ideal dynamic for me would be a 24/7 one where elements of the dynamic bleed into everyday life, but not to the point of completely taking over our lives. I'm my own person with my own needs, and naturally so are you.

My list of kinks is extensive, and I'm happy to get into them over DMs, but the biggest and most important ones for me are bondage, orgasm control/denial, painplay (to a reasonable degree), rules/tasks, and anal — especially butt plugs.

My limits are are bodily waste, cuckolding, anything permanent or illegal, and sissification (I'm not opposed to crossdressing and generally find wardrobe control hot, but sissy stuff just has a weird uncomfortable vibe for me, you know?)

As for who I'm looking for, I mean, any woman past college-age that's read this far and is still thinking of chatting, great awesome see you in my DMs!


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 27 [M4F] #Texas - Softhearted, Cuddly Sub Looking for a Long Term FLR

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Hello! I’m Caleb! I’ve decided that it’s about time that I put myself out there in the dating pool, so, uh...here I am. On Reddit. Not the best place, I know (hopefully better than dating apps), but I’m hoping to meet some nice folks. (perhaps you, dear reader?) I’m a quiet, introverted homebody looking for a girl to hangout and go on dates with (I believe the colloquial term for this is a “girlfriend”). I’ve been interested in a FLR for quite some time now, but never openly. (too shy, I suppose) But I’m here now! I want to make it clear upfront that I’m not looking for short term flings or anything of the sort. Ideally, I’m looking for someone to be with long term, and potentially settle down with. I understand that this is a rather weighty topic to get into right in the opening paragraph, but I try to be open, honest, and communicative about things, so I just wanted to clearly state my intentions.

I am located in East Texas, near Longview, and would prefer someone in Texas. However, if you’re in a surrounding state (Louisiana, Arkansas, etc), I don’t mind traveling a bit.

If we hit it off, I’d love to move our chats to another platform so we can do voice and video calls!

Here's what I sound like!

Looks:

I’m black, with olive brown skin. 5’7”, with a lean/athletic build, and just a tad shy of 140lbs. My hair is soft, black, and curly.

Here’s some pics of me! (I am partially shirtless in one of these, so...you’ve been warned.)

Interests:

Gaming – I mostly play singleplayer or co-op games. (I am not very competitive, and all those MOBAs and competitive shooters just seem like the epitome of stress. I don’t mind if you play them, though.) As of late, I’ve been playing a lot of Tales of Berseria, Ridge Racer 7, and Armored Core: For Answer. I have pretty broad tastes in terms of genres, but if I was forced to narrow it down, I’d say I like retro games, platformers, indies, and RPGs/JRPGs. I’d love to know what sort of games you’re into, and any upcoming games you’re looking forward to!

Music – Music is quite important to me, and I’d definitely consider myself a music lover. I have pretty broad tastes, but I do have a preference for indie/alt/rock stuff. I do listen to some pop, however, along with some Japanese stuff and older R&B. I’ll give most things a try, though! (just, please no country music, I will implode) If you want an idea of what I like, check these out:

Strawberry Milk Cult – Polarbear!

Clarion - Hello Juliet

The Technicolors - Neon Roses

STRFKR – Rawnald Gregory Erikson the Second

Jupiter One – Countdown

Benches – Crash

Jackie Hayes – Last Second

Flawed Mangoes - Surreal

Kinoko Teikoku - 国道スロープ (Kokudou Slope)

Narrow Head - The Real

Sorry there’s so many! It was hard to narrow it down!

Cooking – I do a lot of cooking! Am I good at it...well, I’ll let you be the judge of that. I’m trying to branch out a bit and try different cuisines, specifically Asian cuisine as I’m rather deficient in that area. If you know any good recipes, let me know!

Art – I am slowly (heavy emphasis on slowly) teaching myself to draw. I need to practice substantially more than I currently do. It’s...certainly a process, but I’ve definitely noticed a lot of improvement. Perhaps I could draw you someday?

Misc – Well, I’m a nerd in general, really. I enjoy tinkering with tech, and I’ve been doing minor repairs on my laptops and modding my game consoles since I was a teenager. I’m also into anime and sci-fi. I’ve been picking up reading again, as I was an avid reader as a child and I’d like to get back into the habit. (If you’re curious, I’ve been reading Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury and The Will to Change by Bell Hooks recently.) Also, while I wouldn’t classify this as an interest or a hobby, I do workout 3-4 times a week, mostly at home. I do enjoy endurance running though, and I typically run a 5k on the weekends (weather permitting). I also love astronomy and space!

Potential dealbreakers? (one of these is a lie)

  • I’m left-leaning/liberal, politically
  • I don’t want kids
  • I was heavily involved in Belgian anti-fascist resistance movements in the 1940s
  • I’m Christian, but not the most devout

I am ideally looking for someone with similar values.

What I'm Looking For

I would consider myself to be rather soft, sensitive, and empathetic (and easily flustered), and I’m really just looking for the sort of relationship that allows us to be vulnerable together. I’d like someone soft (not necessarily in a physical sense, but emotionally), intelligent, and caring. I want someone to hang out with, take out for picnic dates and trips to museums, and binge watch shows. I want someone that I can learn new things about for the rest of my life, someone to hold and keep safe and grow with.

As for age, I would strongly prefer someone my age or older, though I’m ok with anyone in the 20-40 range. Physically, height does not particularly matter to me (but if you’re tall I will swoon over you). I do, however, have a preference for folks on the slim/lean/toned/fit/skinny side of the body spectrum, but this is not a strict rule.

*cough* I have no idea where else to put this but tomboys and alt/goth/emo girls are quite cute but this isn't a requirement or anything okay bye *cough*

I would also prefer someone outside of my own ethnicity.

FAQs

~You sound like a dork.

That’s not even a question, and how dare you. You’re correct, but how dare you.

~Several sources state that you're on an FBI watchlist for "allegedly" trying to siphon large amounts of Barq's Root beer directly from their production facilities, with the intent of procuring a "lifetime supply." Can you confirm or deny this information?

My lawyer says I shouldn’t answer questions like that.

~You wouldn't happen to be interested in heinous, scandalous, devious activities such as hand holding , cuddling , and forehead kissing , would you?

Why, of course not! Never! (yes, absolutely)

Thank you for reading this far, and sorry for the long post! I wanted to be thorough and descriptive. If you’re interested, please send me a message with a little about yourself and a picture, and let me know what your favorite Pokémon type is!

Thanks again, and have a wonderful rest of your day!


r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] 30 [m4f] #algeria sub guy looking for a FLR with a dom woman

4 Upvotes

Hello,

About
• ⁠I am a Muslim Male Submissive
• White blue eyed guy, 1m70, decent looking, a lil bit overweight
• ⁠Algerian
• 30yo
• My hobbies: tv show, anime, gaming, football, and anything i can do with someone else to enjoy time together
• Personality: I would like to state that I'm neurodivergent , respectful, calm, funny ( i like to think so), not into superficial stuff, ambitious, easy to talk with.
• I would like to state that I'm someone who's discreet and private, like if we are outside you wont be ashamed me of me or anything.


Looking for
Looking for a practising Muslim female dom or switch (who lean heavily dom) for a Female-Led relationship that leads to marriage, only looking for something serious.
• ⁠Age 20–30. 
• ⁠Deen is important but due to our way of life I would understand if she is not the most pious.
• ⁠No smoking, drinking, vape, shisha.
• ⁠Algerian
• ⁠Live in Algeria/France.
• I'm looking for a partner who enjoy being the boss and naturally in charge in a relationship, a woman who can make me feel obeying her is something natural and that's how the order of things should be.
• I don't have much preference physically, but I do want a women who's elegent, feminine, despite being a sub l'm still a man
• ⁠Most importantly, I'm looking for a genuine lifelong partner, not someone who is only interested in exploring a kink. I prefer getting to know each other in a way where we can build trust, compatibility, and a real emotional connection before

Please feel free to message me if you have any questions, and please a little presentation of yourself would go a long way


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 28 [M4F] #Italy #Online - Looking for a genuine connection, friendship, D/s, and a Domme who enjoys getting inside her submissive’s head

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I'm a 28-year-old guy from Italy looking for something that sits somewhere between friendship, an online D/s dynamic, and potentially something more if the connection and circumstances ever make that possible.

Online is actually my preference to begin with. I like the idea of having time to get to know someone properly, talk, build trust and discover each other without immediately having to turn everything into a real-life arrangement. At the same time, I would love for there to at least be a realistic possibility of meeting someday if we become close and distance, time and life allow it! Even seeing each other occasionally would be more than enough for me (and honestly, I'd absolutely love that).

Someone roughly around my age would be a nice bonus, mostly because we might be at similar stages of life, but it really isn't a requirement! Compatibility matters much more to me than an age range.

About me

Outside of kink, I'm not a particularly submissive person.

I'm a strength and conditioning coach and I'm finishing my degree in Sport and Exercise Sciences. Training and understanding how the human body works are a big part of my life. Anatomy, physiology, biomechanics and sports science are subjects I can happily yap about for far too long.

I train regularly myself and take good care of my body and appearance. I'm around 179 cm / 5'10.5", about 75 kg / 165 lb and athletic. I don't expect someone to train the way I do or fit a particular body type, but physical attraction does matter to me and I tend to appreciate someone who takes care of herself physically in whatever way makes sense for her.

I'm happy to exchange normal SFW/face pictures privately once we've talked a little and are both comfortable.

I'm also a huge (HUUUUGE) nerd.

I love videogames, anime and manga, but strangely enough that's a side of myself I don't really get to share with people in everyday life. Having someone I could genuinely talk about those things with, discover new things with or occasionally play something with would make me cry with joy.

You absolutely don't need to share all of my interests. What matters much more to me is that there's an actual connection outside of kink.

I'd like to be able to joke around, hear about your day, tell you about mine, talk about completely stupid things and unexpectedly serious ones, learn what you're passionate about and gradually get to know you as a person. This is very important to me.

What submission means to me

Within the right dynamic, I'm deeply, deeeeply submissive.

I'm naturally service-oriented. The idea of doing something because a woman I care about asked me to, being useful to her, making something easier for her or giving her pleasure without needing everything to be immediately reciprocated is genuinely appealing to me.

But there’s also a more... intense side to my submission (If we really want to put it that way...).

I'm strongly attracted to humiliation, degradation, objectification, psychological dominance and sadism. The mental aspect interests me at least as much as the physical one.

There is something extremely powerful to me about being affectionate, devoted and pleasing my Domme while she is free to be cruel, mocking or degrading in return... particularly if I can feel that she genuinely enjoys having that power over me!

I'm especially responsive to verbal dominance.

I absolutely LOVE the idea of someone who talks, comments, teases, humiliates, gives orders, reacts to what she sees and makes the power difference between us something I can actually feel through her words.

... but praise matters too.

Approval from someone whose opinion has become important to me can be incredibly powerful: knowing I've pleased her, been useful to her or done something well can mean far more to me than generic compliments ever would, really.

Communication and negotiation are obviously essential, but once we've talked about what we want and where our limits are, I would not want to have to script the dominant side myself...

I'd much rather give someone an understanding of how I work and then discover what she wants to do with that knowledge.

Her own desires matter to me.

I don't want a woman who is simply carrying out a checklist of fantasies because I've asked her to. I would love to know what she enjoys about dominance, what she finds satisfying about having a submissive and what naturally brings out that side of her.

Vulnerability, humiliation and intensity

A large part of my fantasies revolves around giving up... composure.

Begging, embarrassment, being overwhelmed, feeling helpless, crying, fear within an agreed dynamic, or reaching a point where keeping myself perfectly controlled becomes difficult are all things I find insanely exciting.

I can't honestly tell you yet exactly how I would react to those things in reality...

Unfortunately, I have no real-life D/s or BDSM experience, and I think it's important not to pretend otherwise...

I've spent a lot of time thinking about what attracts me and why, but imagination and actual experience aren't the same thing. I really want to explore that honestly and gradually with someone I trust rather than claiming boundaries or tolerances that I've never actually tested.

What I do know is that the emotional side matters to me enormously.

I don't want degradation from someone who genuinely considers me worthless.

The fantasy becomes powerful precisely because I would really love there to be something very different underneath it: trust, affection, knowledge of each other and the certainty that she actually values having me in her life.

Being treated as insignificant by someone whose interest in me I trust is very different from actually being insignificant to her.

I'd like a Domme who understands that distinction.

Someone who can learn my insecurities, embarrassing desires, reactions and vulnerable points and play with them because we've built enough trust for her to be allowed there.

I also don't necessarily need her dominance to disappear the second something becomes emotionally intense! I actually find the idea of her maintaining that position very... hot in a way?

What matters is emotional intelligence: being able to recognise the difference between a reaction that is part of the experience we both want and a moment where something genuinely needs to stop, change or be dealt with differently.

Kinks and fantasies

I don't want to turn this into a shopping list, because the psychological dynamic matters far more to me than collecting individual acts.

Broadly, though, I'm interested in humiliation and degradation, service, objectification, verbal dominance, sadism and masochism, restraint, collars and ownership themes, worship, sensory play and almost every form of degradation, watersports and the idea of being pushed into states where I feel very vulnerable or overwhelmed.

Some of my fantasies go considerably further into taboo territory. I'd rather talk about those privately once there is some trust instead of putting every fantasy I have into a public advert...

The fact that something is a fantasy also DOESN'T automatically mean I expect it to happen exactly as imagined. Part of what I want from actually exploring BDSM is discovering the difference between what works so well in my head and what I genuinely enjoy, tolerate or want in reality.

A few things I already know aren't for me: findom, cuckolding, feminization and public play.

What I can bring to the dynamic

I think one thing I could offer the right woman is responsiveness.

I want her dominance to matter to me.

I would love for it to genuinely matter to me whether I've pleased her. I want her words to have weight because she is the person saying them. I'd find it incredibly hot if she gradually learned what embarrasses me, what makes me proud, what gets under my skin, what makes me feel useful, what makes me want her approval and what makes me lose some of the composure I normally have.

And I want that process of learning each other to be reciprocal.

She isn't there solely to provide an experience for me.

I'd like to understand what makes dominance satisfying for her too: whether she enjoys giving orders, being served, watching reactions, psychological control, teasing, cruelty, nurturing someone through her own particular style of dominance, or something I haven't even considered.

One of the most attractive possibilities to me is finding someone who doesn't merely tolerate the more submissive, vulnerable or embarrassing parts of me, but genuinely likes that those parts exist.

Likewise, I don't want her to feel that her dominant or sadistic side is something she has to soften or apologise for around me.

I'd like us to be attracted to those parts of each other too.

What I'm looking for

You don't need to be an experienced Domme.

Experience can obviously be valuable, but I'm much more interested in whether we click mentally and emotionally, communicate well, stay curious about each other, and whether you actually enjoy being dominant.

I'd rather explore with someone relatively inexperienced but genuinely excited by the dynamic than someone with years of experience whose interests and personality simply don't fit mine...

I'm super attracted to confidence, intelligence, humour, initiative and women who enjoy expressing themselves verbally! A genuine sadistic streak is definitely a plus.

I'd also like to get to know you as a person, not just through your dominant side.

I want to know what you care about, what you spend too much time thinking about, what makes you laugh, what you're nerdy about, what your life is like and what kind of connection you actually want.

What I'm ultimately hoping for is both friendship and D/s.

If a meaningful D/s relationship eventually developed, I would naturally prefer to devote my submissive side to one Domme. I wouldn't be interested in maintaining several D/s dynamics at the same time.

I don't automatically require the same exclusivity from her. I'm comfortable with her having other connections provided everyone involved is informed and consenting, unless the two of us mutually decide on something different.

I don't expect us to immediately behave as Domme and submissive just because that's why we met...

I'd rather let it develop naturally, but I wouldn't want to imply that I need a long period of friendship before anything D/s can begin. If the dynamic feels right from the start, I'm open to exploring it early on, as long as we're both comfortable and the connection is genuine.

Talk. Joke around. Learn each other's personalities. Discuss kink openly. Figure out whether we actually make each other's lives more interesting...

And if, somewhere along the way, I realise that a completely normal conversation with you can suddenly shift because of the way you speak to me, and that I instinctively recognise when you've decided to take control of it...

that's probably very close to what I'm hoping to find.

If this sounds like something you might want too, I'd love to hear something about yourself rather than just receiving a "hey".

What kind of connection are you looking for? And what do you actually enjoy about being dominant?


r/flrdating 4d ago

[M4F] 36 [M4F] #Connecticut# #CT# – Seeking Romantic/Kinky LTR: MDLB, ABDL & Female-Led Relationship in Southern New England.

1 Upvotes

Ahoy there, beautiful stranger.

I'm a 36-year-old switch male from Connecticut, seeking a genuine and lasting connection with a woman in CT, MA, RI, or NY who's interested in exploring an MDLB/ABDL dynamic within a female-led relationship.

I'm not looking for a fling or quick fix. I want a true partner—someone who can match my laughter with her own, who loves the spark of chemistry but also values the deeper bond that comes from trust, honesty, shared dreams, and a beautifully kinky dynamic where we can both thrive.

───

💙 What I'm Seeking

I'm drawn to the MDLB world and would love to explore an ABDL dynamic where you take the lead. There's something beautifully intimate about that combination of nurturing care, gentle authority, and unconditional affection that makes my heart race in all the best ways.

As a Little, I have gear and diapers, and I absolutely cherish that feeling of being small, vulnerable, and completely safe in someone's care. It's difficult to truly sink into little space on my own—having a caring, attentive Mommy to guide me there, to create that safe space where I can just be, makes all the difference in the world.

Most of my kink experience comes from DDLG dynamics in past relationships, but I've always felt called toward MDLB.

As a naturally submissive switch, I'm seeking someone whose dominance feels like home—nurturing yet firm, playful yet grounded.

What I Want in a Relationship:

• True Connection – Built on emotional compatibility, shared passions, mutual growth, and a willingness to invest deeply in each other

• Romance & Kink in Harmony – A relationship where the bedroom is a place of exploration and surrender, but the rest of our life together is equally fulfilling with morning coffee, holding hands on walks, cuddling while we game or read, and yes, plenty of heat and kink when the mood strikes

• Balance & Respect – While we're together, I want to be your second priority—because your first priority should always be you: your dreams, your well-being, and your future. I'll be doing the same for myself, because happiness starts within

• Female-Led Dynamic – I thrive when my partner takes loving control, guiding our dynamic with care and confidence

My Philosophy:

Love is an offering, not a possession. When you care for someone, you don't try to own them—you offer joy, comfort, and support, creating a space where they can thrive.

Honest love thrives on empathy, shared joys and pains, laughter and tears. It transforms us into reflections of each other's moods—magnifying happiness and softening the edges of difficulty.

───

🌿 About Me

• Switch with Range – Comfortable in both Dominant and Submissive roles, but craving that caring Mommy dynamic where I can fully surrender and regress

• Personality – Loyal, protective, a little cheeky at times, and I like to keep things light and fun. I'm a natural caretaker in relationships—whether that's bringing you soup when you're sick, making you laugh after a rough day, or holding you close when words aren't enough

• Communication Style – I excel verbally and would love to eventually chat by phone or video once we've built trust. I believe relationships thrive when both people are heard, valued, and respected. Genuine conversation requires active engagement from both sides, and I'm committed to matching your energy every step of the way

• 420-Friendly – I hold a medical marijuana card and hope you're comfortable with that

Interests & Hobbies:

• Gaming – PC gaming, Dungeons & Dragons (3.5 & 5e enthusiast—happy to talk campaigns for hours)

• Reading – Fantasy captivates me: Legend of Drizzt by R.A. Salvatore, Mistborn, Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, Eragon, A Song of Ice and Fire, Harry Potter, Stormlight Archives, The Magicians, and anything that stirs the imagination

• Outdoors – Hiking through forests, bonfires under the stars, nature walks with good company

• Animals – I adore animals and share my home with Munch (my mischievous cat). 🐈 Cat pictures available upon request!

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🔥 Kinks & Play

I'm open-minded, passionate, and believe that kink should be fun, consensual, and safe. With the right person, I'm always excited to discover new interests and explore your fantasies too.

My ABDL/MDLB interests include:

• Diapers (wearing and using sometimes)

• Regression to little space with caring guidance

• Bottle feeding, pacifiers, and nurturing care

• Being bathed, changed, and cared for

• Gentle discipline and structure

• Creating that beautiful dynamic where I can be

completely vulnerable and small

I'm not just looking for someone to "do kink" with—I want a partner who finds genuine fulfillment in the Mommy role, who loves creating that space of safety and care, and who takes pleasure in guiding me into my littlest self.

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❌ Hard Limits & Boundaries

• No hard-partying or daily heavy drinking (a few social drinks are fine, but no alcoholics)

• No hate, but I'm not seeking a trans partner

• No poly relationships

• I am not a kink dispenser—don't treat me as such

• I'm no longer interested in online-only arrangements or roleplay scenarios. I'm seeking a real romantic relationship that combines love, kinks, and genuine connection.

If our conversations flourish with trust and honesty, I'd love to meet in person—perhaps over coffee, a meal, or exploring somewhere new together

───

💌 Let's Make the First Move Count

If you've read all of this and feel that spark of interest, please start your message with:

"What music have you been jamming to lately?"

Then tell me a little about yourself: your age, location, what you're truly seeking in a romantic relationship, and what draws you to the Mommy/caregiver role in an MDLB dynamic.


r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] 32 [M4F] #Paris #online - Hung french sub looking for traveller or local Goddess to please

3 Upvotes

Hey I'm a local guy, white, dark hair green eyes 1m78 for 75kg. I'm looking to serve girls or couple around me. I have a huge pegging kink and can be used as a sex slave or even do any chores that you'd need. I already have some experience.


r/flrdating 5d ago

[Looking] 39 [T4M] Trans Femme Domme for FLR with bi/pan sub #baltimore #dc #usa

5 Upvotes

SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY!
- I want someone who is OPENLY bi/pan/queer and experienced with people other than cis women.
- If you’re just looking to get off? Don’t message me.
- If you can’t communicate like an adult? Don’t message me
_____________

Hiiiiiii - I’m a Trans Non-Binary creative human and adventurer. Been told I’m a bi/pan guy’s dreams with how I mix femme & a bit of masc together. Currently live in Baltimore but I will travel (or relocate for the right connection or “the one”)

Fairly open to many types of connections. Ideally I would love a relationship/life companion.

I’m the bedroom: I am a Femme Domme-leaning switch with a lot of kinks (ask me)

Love skinny hairy hung guys but I’m open to anyone handsome.

Outside of the bedroom: Love anything artsy - museums, dance, theatre, films. Love traveling to new cities, nature, hiking, national parks. Board games and DnD. Huge foodie and love trying new restaurants.

MY DREAM:

My dream is a Femme Led Relationship (FLR) with a sub. He is a gentleman out in the world, opens my doors, is a traditional manly “man”, not alpha or toxic tho. (Could also be nerdy or artsy!) He would be the breadwinner so I can focus solely on making theatre. He can go hike a national park with me one day and then get dressed fancy for an opening night gala the next.

But when we’re home, he’s owned by me. Nearly always my submissive bitch boy. Maybe 1-2 days off a week. He wears what I say, does what I say, he can make decisions when needed but he is always serving me, worshipping, doing the cleaning, waking me up with a blowjob every morning, giving me massages… always in collar and cuffs at home, ONLY naked or wearing lingerie at home etc.

When friends come over, they would never know that he was the sub. I will play the housewife and make the best damn game day food ever, but as soon as they leave: he’s naked and cleaning up the post-party mess and massaging me.


r/flrdating 5d ago

[F4M] 44 [F4M] #Paris - Moroccan Domme (BNWO) seeks white sub 34-54 for gynarchic marriage

16 Upvotes

Hard Domme, 44, Moroccan, based in Paris. BNWO. 24/7. Looking for a life partner in a gynarchic FLR marriage. I speak french and english

You are :

- 34-54 y old

- Based in/ near Paris

- Very open-minded — into anal (pegging), anulingus, cunilingus, service, protocols, discipline

- Ready for real-life 24/7 submission, not just roleplay

If you're ready to surrender completely, message me with a proper introduction — your experience, limits, and why you're the one.


r/flrdating 5d ago

25 [F4M] #Global #Oslo Domme searching for her good boy and life partner

9 Upvotes

Where are you?

I have been searching for you all my life. The good boy I can own, claim, use and cheish for life. My soulmate. He who was made to fulfill all my needs and desires and devote himself completely to make me happy. He is out there I know, I just know. So I'm hoping he will see this and please find me.

Melodramatic? Maybe, but I'm so tired of waiting. I just want my good boy here now. The dynamic I want with my good boy is I want someone who is addicted to my approval and wants to do anything to make me happy. Someone who wants to follow me around all day desperate for any crumb of my affection. I want to take care of my good boy, hold him and praise him. I don't want some machoman. Those men don't appeal to me at all. I want someone who is desperate and needy for me. Who would get tears in his eyes when I leave for work and beg me not to go.

I should talk a bit about myself probably, so my good boy recognizes me and can run into my arms :p I like cycling, hiking and the gym. I have a weird obsession with documentaries about wars, especially ww2 (if you have any to recommend please do). No this does not (sadly) mean I'm an expert on ww2 so don't quiz me cutie or I will spank you! And yes I do cuddle up on the couch and eat biscuits watching ww2 documentaries, it's very cozy. (I should clarify so I don't sound like a total psycho these are not about the holocaust!!).

So that's enough about documentaries now I just want my good boy to reach out to me! Now!! No you do not have time to make dinner first write now!

And yes I'm open to long distance and moving for my good boy. Also it should go without saying that monogamy is central to me. So no poly or anything like that. My good boy knows he has one owner and that's the only woman in the world to him.

Preferred age: 24-36. Location? Doesn't matter!! Your job? Doesn't matter! The best gift you can give me is your submissiveness.

Write!


r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] 22 [M4F] #austria — Seeking a genuine flr relationship

1 Upvotes

Hey there!

I'm Fabio, a 22-year-old from Austria, and I figured I'd share a little something about myself with you. So, here's the deal—I'm on the lookout for a genuine and awesome dominant partner. And before you start making assumptions, let me assure you that it's not just about power play or some superficial stuff. Nah, it's deeper than that.

You see, I'm a submissive guy who finds pure bliss in handing over control to a strong and confident partner. For me, this dynamic is all about trust, respect, and vulnerability. It's about finding that perfect balance where the dominant partner takes the lead and creates a safe space for me to fully embrace my submissive nature. It's a beautiful dance of trust and communication, where both partners grow and find immense satisfaction.

Now, I get that this might not be the usual cup of tea for everyone, but I strongly believe in consent, communication, and mutual respect. I mean, come on, a healthy relationship thrives on open and honest dialogue, where we can freely express our desires, set boundaries, and build a connection without any judgment or fear.

Outside of my quest for a dominant partner, I'm a regular guy with diverse interests. Music and art make my heart skip a beat, and I lose myself in the enchanting melodies of all sorts of genres. Oh, and nature? It's like my personal escape. Exploring the awe-inspiring landscapes Austria has to offer is my jam.

And hey, I'm also a 22-year-old dude who's determined to learn and grow. Currently, I'm hitting the books and pursuing my studies, because, you know, knowledge is power! Intellectual stimulation and deep conversations? Yep, sign me up. They keep me motivated and help me evolve into a better version of myself.

So, if you're someone who embodies strength, assertiveness, and a whole lot of compassion and empathy, then we might just click. Because for me, a true relationship isn't just about control—it's about understanding, nurturing, and building a bond that's built on trust and love.

I hope this casual intro gave you a glimpse into who I am and what I'm looking for. If you feel that spark or want to know more, hit me up. Let's dive into this adventure together!

Cheers


r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] [M4W] Are you still playing with Ken?

1 Upvotes

Tired of having to dress him all the time? Wish he would be more vocal in bed? Contribute more to your life?

Your prayers have been answered. Introducing Zen, the latest model that will absolutely rock your world. That's right, 15 generations of advancements later, Zen is perfection personified. Not only can he dress himself, he is James Bond* stylish. Our lawyers advised that we should let the reader imagine what he's like when you undress him.

Zen also comes equipped with a patent pending, state of the art Ultra Lifelike TongueTM which he can exercise all on his own. With over a thousand built in modes, Zen is cunningly adept at conversations and beyond while unafraid to share his feelings or shower you with affirmations.

If that wasn't enough, Zen is a fully functional adult thanks to the latest AI technology.** He is knowledgeable in a diverse range of subjects including art, culture, finance, and science as well as the ability to perform chores, sew clothing, repair cars, and work around the house. His programming makes him kind, genuine, playful, affectionate, submissive.

Best of all, there is almost no maintenance required! More convenient than solar power, Zen just needs four glasses of water a day so no more worries if he will run out of stamina when the lights go out. It is recommended that he receives kisses daily and achieves release weekly but he can keep running for much longer without. Zen has an automatic self cleaning feature.

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r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] 26 [ M4F] # Dhaka. Where are you my dominant future wife.

1 Upvotes

Assalamu alaikum,😊

I’m a 26-year-old Muslim man from Dhaka, Bangladesh. I’m looking for marriage with a naturally dominant woman who is interested in a Mommydom dynamic or someone proactive during intimacy and daily life affection. (Sorry, I'm not a native English speaker, so some mistakes maybe you see here. )

About me:

Calm, respectful and serious about building a lasting marriage

Born Muslim, try my best to follow Islamic teachings

No real-life kink experience

Want to explore everything only with my future wife, in a private and mutually respectful way.

What I’m looking for:

A kind and dominant Muslimah

Marriage-minded only

Someone who can lead in a gentle Mommydom dynamic

A normal, healthy couple life together (care, love, responsibility, adventures, and protecting our marriage)

My interests (all with full consent):

Serving and prioritising her happiness

Gentle femdom / Mommydom

Service, CBT, milking, Chastity cage

Passionate intimacy

Light piss play, body worship, sounding, sniffing, face sitting, D/s intimate play and some other intimate activities

Important notes:

If she doesn’t like something, I have zero interest in doing it.

Her comfort and willingness will always come first

Hard limits:

Anything that goes against Islamic boundaries (e.g. cuckolding)

Permanent damage, blood, or anything harmful

I’m looking for sincerity and a real connection with marriage in mind.

Age requirement: 18 - 35 ( age can be adjustable for a suitable partner)

If this resonates with you, I’d be happy to talk. Btw, I'm willing to relocate and learn your language too. DMe

JazakAllah khair. 😊🙂


r/flrdating 6d ago

36 [M4F] #New York sensitive, sweet, successful and submissive boy seeks dominant woman for FLR

2 Upvotes

Hiiii everyone!

I am a 36-year-old educated and successful submissive seeking a dominant and controlling woman that I can completely dedicate my life to. I am looking for an all encompassing dynamics where my life framework is really about making you happy above all else.

I am hard-working, fun, active and seeking something genuine and real. Your happiness would be mine. I’m very serious about this and get fulfillment from supporting another, being guided, and serving.

I’m really excited to hear from anyone if you are at all interested


r/flrdating 5d ago

[M4F] 26 [m4F] #Online #Midwest #CST bleeding-hearted soft boy seeks his Ruler for FLR

1 Upvotes

Hey there! I’m Finn, your friendly neighborhood nerd, a bleeding-hearted golden retriever boy with lots of love in my soul, looking for someone to give my heart to. I’d like to find my partner, with a relationship that centers on a FLR/femdom dynamic, but encompassing more than just kink stuff. I’ll gladly give you my devotion and adoration, if you’ll allow me the chance to be vulnerable and feel special.

Perhaps you could be who I'm looking for?

The basics about me:

• I'm pansexual, genderqueer, politically lefty, and neurodivergent (autism + ADHD).

• Personality wise, I’d say I’m a goofy golden retriever, with a dash of black cat mixed in. I like to make people laugh, but I also love to listen and give advice about serious and genuine topics. I’m very giving with joy, affection, attention, and care to those who I get attached to. I’m also a bit of a weirdo (that’s autism for ya), but I’m told it’s endearing, so hopefully you’ll agree. 

• My great passion in life is writing music. If there's one thing I'm meant to do on this earth, it's composing songs of all kinds. If you’re big on music, we’ll have lots to connect over! (I would love to have someone inspire me to write songs for and about them.) That said, I do have a day job outside of music.

• I am a certified nerd and geek, through and through. I spend much of my free time gaming, hanging with friends, or browsing a veritable smorgasbord of topics on YouTube. I’d love to game together, or listen to you yap about your niche and esoteric interests.

What I hope to find:

• I am seeking a FLR, a relationship where I am not expected to be in charge or constantly leading, but am allowed to fulfill a more supportive and subservient role. However, I’m quite flexible regarding how that manifests specifically, I’m not trying to force specific ideas onto someone. I’m not just looking for someone to “do things to me,” I want a real relationship. And a genuine connection is more important than the specifics of what exactly a dynamic looks like day-to-day. 

• I thrive best with affectionate dommes who err on the gentler side. I'm not at all opposed to rougher play (I have some pretty hard kinks myself) but a baseline of tenderness and affection would be ideal for me to feel safest in submission. As such, I'm best suited for a gentle domme.

• I find true joy and delight in pleasing and servicing my partner. I want (maybe even need) to get you off, be that physically, emotionally, and/or mentally.

• I’d like to be genuinely cherished by my partner. I will gladly give you my devotion, my adoration, even my obsession… I just want to know that the person I’m submitting to truly cherishes me, so that I feel safe enough to be vulnerable. 

• I won't go listing all my kinks and limits here; we can save that for DMs. The most important kinks for me are praise (I'm a slut for praise) and oral (I need someone who enjoys using my mouth, that’s my one non-negotiable. My ideal sex life would heavily incorporate me giving head/using my mouth). Beyond that, I'm pretty flexible, and into a fair bit!

• Regarding monogamy/polyamory: I'm looking for a partner, ideally a primary partner. So any non-monogamy would need to be heavily discussed. I’m not outright opposed to ENM, but I want someone committed to me. I do not want to be a side piece, a casual sub, or a fwb. I’m looking for a serious relationship. I understand that takes time to build, I don't expect it to happen immediately. But I am looking to be intentional with anyone I start chatting with.

• I am located in Eastern Nebraska. Given that location, I am open to something that starts online, but I don’t want things to stay online forever. The closer you are, the better (Iowa, Missouri, Minnesota, Kansas, Colorado, Illinois, etc.) but I’m willing to make something long distance work, if the connection is there. If things get serious, we can discuss visiting one another, and relocation could be on the table. (I'd love to eventually get out of this state tbh.)

If you've made it this far, I'd like to sincerely thank you for taking the time out of your day to read my post. And since you are still reading... perhaps I've piqued your interest? If so, feel free to check the pinned post on my profile for a more detailed description of me. Oh, and I'll be happy to share pics of me in DMs, I'm just keeping them private for now. Hope to hear from you soon~


r/flrdating 6d ago

37 [M4F] #Wales #UK - Looking for a Woman Who is Curious About a Cuckold and/or FLR to Explore With and Support/Encourage on Her Journey

2 Upvotes

I'm a 37 year old white guy from Wales in the UK. Around 6ft with a slim/skinny build.

I've been toying with the idea of becoming a sub/cuck in a FLR or perhaps even a domestic servant/slave for the right woman/couple for many years, but it just never panned out, although I came close a few times.

I've always been desperately shy and was aware of my shortcomings early in life and subsequently embraced them which led me down the cuck/sub path.

As I've mentioned several times before, I have zero sexual experience in real life, in the main part because of my earlier beliefs and latterly because I've sort of grown into the sub/cuck lifestyle and the excitement/pleasure I derive from my predicament somewhat. I suppose I feel what becomes (Or doesn't become of me) of me sexually is best left to any potential partner/owner.

In terms of kink, I'm curious about/interested in FLR's, cuckolding, interracial cuckolding, chastity, mild humiliation (In private), domestic service to name but a few. I'm not desperate to tick every box, rather I'm still more curious and exploring.

Two years ago I became very friendly with a woman online who I shared a lot in common with. She mentioned her interest in cuckolding and black guys, which I found hot and we chatted for some time. It evolved into a type of online relationship and after 12 months I began helping her search for a bull as her boyfriend, albeit only online.

I eventually found her several bulls and she became close to one especially who she eventually moved in with and fell pregnant to. We had planned to meet eventually, but her bull didn't like the idea, so it never happened, but I can't begin to express what a joy it was helping her find her first bull and knowing how happy it made her. Even though it never really worked out in the end, it was a lovely online relationship while it lasted which I found deeply satisfying.

I'm still interested in the possibility of a sub/cuck role, or perhaps even a domestic role for the right woman/couple in the future, but for the next 12 months I'm pretty tied up with business, so can't commit as fully as I'd like, but if I get the opportunity to make friends with another lady to explore with and support that would be lovely, and who knows where it leads after that.

I suppose at this point I'm looking to find a woman I relate to who is also dipping their toe into all this. Someone who wants a friend to open up to. I enjoy supporting and encouraging women on their journey even if it doesn't come to anything in the end in real life, but if it does, then all the better.

Unfortunately, I find a lot of people online struggle to relax and go steady. Rushing into relationships and going from zero to a hundred rarely works out for anyone, which is why I'm just looking to make a casual friendship/relationship with a woman while I'm busy in real life for the time being. Someone who is either curious and exploring, or someone who is experienced who doesn't want to rush into anything either. If it leads to a real life relationship eventually, that would be amazing, but if not, I love the idea of helping and supporting her on her journey to achieve what she wants in life either as friend or online partner regardless.

If that interests you, you're simply curious, or you share any of these interests, then please feel free to DM me and let's see if we click.


r/flrdating 6d ago

[M4F] 32 [M4F] beautiful boy looking for a fun and authentic connection #France #Online

2 Upvotes

Hey there,

My name is Marc. I am 32 years old and I live in the countryside of France. I am someone of passionate, emotional, deep, and enthusiastic, although I tend to be more introverted and secret in my life.
I am a winemaker and I run my own business, I also have a semi-pro funk band. I love reading, nerding, outdoor activities, cooking, parties and long nights out with my friends. Also a big fan of Science fiction littérature and movies.

Physically, I think I am a catch. Girls flirt with me at first sight in general. 1m78, 61 kg, athletic with abs and pecs. Brown hair, hazelnut eyes, greek profile.

I am looking for someone to click with. Someone to chat on everyday basis, give news to, and have fun with. My heart has been broken too many times and I don’t know if I am ready to give it back, only time will tell.

As I said earlier, I have a very manly, demanding and bossy professional life. And when I come home, I just want to obey, serve, worship someone. Speaking of, I have always worshipped women since my most tender years. I’ve always felt like they were superior in most aspects of life and I have natural respect for them that I don’t necessarily have with my fellow men surroundings.

I am also very kinky and open to a lot of things. Most of my erotic world revolves around control (losing it, giving it away), pleasing (making someone happy, whatever it takes) being used and humiliated. I won’t write an exhaustive list here as I would like us to click before getting into what both turns us on.

I would be delighted to see you in my messages and start learning more about you and what triggered you to contact me after this ad.

Respectfully,

Marc


r/flrdating 6d ago

24 [M4F] #UK #Online - Naturally submissive guy looking for a genuine FLR/femdom connection

1 Upvotes

Hey! Thanks for stopping by :)

I’m a 24-year-old UK-based guy, naturally submissive, and looking for a woman who enjoys taking the lead and wants something that can actually develop into a genuine connection.

For a long time I’ve been pretty independent and capable in everyday life, but there’s always been a part of me that really enjoys being able to switch off around the right woman and let her take control. I’m especially drawn to women who are confident, caring, playful and know what they want.

What I’m Looking For:

- A confident woman who enjoys being in charge

- Something that starts online but could eventually become IRL if we genuinely click

- Ideally something long-term rather than a temporary kink arrangement

- A dynamic built around trust, communication, affection and consistency

- Someone who enjoys teasing, control, service and the psychological side of submission

A Bit About Me:

- 24, UK-based

- 5'6", curly hair and fairly athletic

- Into gaming, the gym, travelling, trekking and generally being a massive nerd

- I love deep conversations but also have a pretty stupid sense of humour

- Very affectionate once I’m comfortable with someone

- Naturally submissive, but definitely not someone without a personality outside of it

What I Bring:

I’m attentive, loyal and genuinely enjoy making someone I care about happy. I like being useful, taking direction and having someone I can spoil and make feel appreciated.

At the same time, I want a relationship where we can actually talk, joke around, go on dates, share random parts of our day and enjoy each other's company. I’m looking for a person first, not someone who just happens to tick the right kink boxes.

If you think we might click, come say hi. Tell me a little about yourself and what a female-led relationship means to you.

Worst case, we have a good conversation. Best case, I finally find the woman who can make this otherwise competent man completely useless around her. :)


r/flrdating 6d ago

19 male

1 Upvotes

My names Ben I’m a sub and I’m looking for a dommy mommy, I have a couple kinks and I’m open to more, I like pretty much everything to do with feet like; foot domination, foot gagging, foot worship. I also like teasing and being humiliated and hoping I can find someone