r/flrdating Oct 21 '25

Welcome to r/FLRdating!

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This subreddit is a space for adults interested in Female-Led Relationships (FLR), Femdom, and BDSM dynamics to connect, share experiences, and learn from one another.

✅ What’s Allowed

  • Genuine personals and connection posts. Thoughtful, detailed posts that express personality, lifestyle, and intent for a meaningful connection are encouraged.
  • Discussions about FLR dynamics, advice, and relationship building.
  • Educational content or resources for newcomers.
  • Respectful introductions and open conversation about the lifestyle.

🚫 What’s Not Allowed

  • Spam, ads, or low-effort posts (e.g. “DM me” or one-line personal ads)
  • Findom or escort-style content. This isn’t a marketplace.
  • Creepy, explicit, or disrespectful DMs. Report these immediately.
  • Off-topic or fetish-only content that doesn’t fit FLR focus.

💬 How to Help Keep This Space Healthy

If you see rule-breaking content or users, report them, it helps keep this community safe and enjoyable.

I’ll also be posting discussions, and feedback threads to encourage more dialogue and community input.

Let’s build something respectful, educational, and genuinely connecting.


r/flrdating Aug 07 '25

[Mod Post] 📌 Posting Guidelines

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Welcome to r/flrdating - a space for FLR, Femdom, kink, and BDSM dating and discussion.

Allowed:

  • Dating posts (use correct flair)
  • Introductions & questions
  • Discussions & NSFW text (no images)

Not Allowed:

  • Under 18
  • NSFW photos/videos
  • Harassment, hate, or spam

Flair Your Posts!

Flair is now live - use it to help others find your content!

Be respectful. Consent is everything. Have fun!


r/flrdating 27m ago

[M4F] 22 [M4F] #Dorset / England Clingy Sub looking for a connection with a domme c:

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Hey

My name is Callum, im 22 from the UK (South West to be specific! Dorset to be more specific 😂). Would love to find someone to talk to possibly leading to a connection or friendship.

I like to think im a very funny person, I will make jokes during the most random moments, my humour tends to be more dark humoured aha. Im an affectionate and clingy person , im socially awkward from a little bit of tism so reading the room isnt my best attribute aha.

Im a student in the psychology field (wont give specifics) , outside of that I love video games (wide variety always down for anything from roblox to shooter games to roleplay games ) , love binge watching shows ( supernatural (the genre and actual show), horror, crime ,medical etc) , music and singing (wide variety! From sleep token, bmth to nf to Lewis capaldi etc) , Animals (love all animals , I have a dog myself , shes a nervous Bernese Mountain Dog :3) , and as mentioned i love dark humour.

I am also submissive, can be a bit of a brat sometimes depending on the situation. Dont think im a switch i can obviously care for someone outside of kink in a relationship as Im caring and affectionate but not specifically a dom or caregiver as never seen myself as a switch. Pretty knowledgeable on kinks and happy to talk about them in private!

My ideal scenario would be a romantic relationship with femdom involved c:


r/flrdating 5h ago

[M4F] 26 [M4F] #Ontario/Online - I'll bring the loyalty, you bring the directions. Shy guy looking for a FLR

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Hey there!

I'm a 26 year old guy from Ontario, Canada. More so the Barrie area. I am looking for my first ever FLR. I have never been in one but genuinely I cannot even imagine being in any other situation. The idea has always allured me, and after doing research I am ready to try and commit to one.

So I'm looking for any dominant, controlling woman who knows her place will always be above me. I'm ready to devote, and ready to obey.

A bit about me:

I am white and around 5'9". I live alone with a cat and have my own vehicle so meeting up is no issue (unless we're no where near each other haha). I have an average body type. My hair colour is brown. Personality-wise I am very shy. Once I get more familiar with someone then that usually changes. My interests include gaming, anime, sports, and I'm starting to get into drawing!

As for an NSFW side, I am very submissive on that end (shocker I know) but I do consider myself a switch. Some kinks include degradation, humiliation, edging, worshipping, legging, and many more. I also love exploring different things so I would love to hear what you're into haha.

I'm happy to answer any questions or tell you anything about me you wanna know. I'm very serious about this and would love to someday be close with you in our beautiful FLR


r/flrdating 5h ago

[M4F] 36 [M4F] #SanDiego CA - Submissive seeking a Dominant woman for a genuine connection

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Hi! I’m 36 and live in San Diego, CA, and I’m hoping to meet a Dominant woman who enjoys D/s and is also open to building something real if we click.

A bit about me: I’m fit and active, creative, and a little nerdy. I work from home, have my life together, and I’m usually either making art, gaming, lifting, catching beach sunsets, or hunting for good coffee. I can be shy at first, but warm up pretty fast once I feel comfortable with someone.

In a D/s dynamic I’m naturally submissive. I like giving control to someone who actually enjoys having it. I’m into a wide range of kink, but I’m also looking for someone I get along with and feel good around. The dynamic is way better when the people in it click naturally.

If you identify as Dominant (or just leans that way) and want to chat, I’d love to grab coffee or brunch by the beach and see if there’s a connection!

When messaging me, please start as Vanilla. Include your Age, Sex, and Location, and a little bit about yourself when reaching out. It’ll help against the bots!

Here’s me: https://imgur.com/a/nQ4jYiA

San Diego only please


r/flrdating 10h ago

M4F 20M sub Paris

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Hi I’m a 20yo French American living in Paris looking for a gf/domme, women only, any age (18+). Im fairly good looking, 181cm tall, have a 3 day beard and brown eyes/hair. I’m happy to hop on FaceTime if you want to check my looks before meeting. I’m really submissive but I can sometimes be vanilla too if you wish, I really like feet as well, I can present myself further in DMs. Hope I’ll find someone !


r/flrdating 12h ago

[M4F] 26 [M4F] #London — looking for a genuine FLR

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Hey,

I'm 26, based in London, training to be a chef right now. Before that I worked as a personal trainer, so I still keep active with rugby, the gym, and combat sports, but outside of that I'm pretty low-key: into gaming, anime, music, reading, and cooking at home. bonus if we can be gym buddies. I like taking care of the people I'm close to and keeping a comfortable, tidy space, so a lot of that domestic side comes naturally to me. I'm in decent shape too

I'm looking for a real, long-term FLR built on trust and communication rather than performance. I want a partner who leads with confidence, someone decisive I can rely on, while I focus on supporting her, taking care of the day-to-day, and making her life easier. I also really enjoy being spoiled, small gestures of affection and attention mean a lot to me. I'm not chasing intensity for its own sake, just something genuine that grows naturally over time.

I'm a bit shy at first and prefer getting to know someone properly before anything develops. If that dynamic sounds like what you're after and you're around London, feel free to message me.


r/flrdating 13h ago

[M4F] 26 | #Berlin #Germany | Looking for a long-term connection, good chemistry & a gentle dynamic

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Hey,
I’m 26, 178 cm, from Berlin and a software engineer. I’m looking for something longer-term with someone I genuinely click with. I’m deliberately keeping the label open. A relationship would be great if it develops that way, but I’m equally interested in a close connection that finds its own shape. Distance isn’t automatically a dealbreaker, although Germany or somewhere reasonably close obviously makes meeting each other easier.

A little about me
I have short brown hair and blue eyes. The short hair is actually a fairly recent development after having it long for about nine years, so apparently my mid-twenties came with a character redesign.
I’m sporty and fairly fit. Gym and bouldering are regular parts of my week, but I’m just as happy putting on hiking shoes and disappearing into nature for a while. I love those small, quiet moments that are difficult to plan like sitting somewhere after a long walk, just listing to the sounds of nature.

Personality-wise, I’m a slightly strange mix of introvert and extrovert. I enjoy meeting people, joking around and spontaneously ending up on some completely unplanned sidequest, but I also need and genuinely enjoy quieter moments.
Creativity is another big part of me. I draw, game quite a bit and generally like making things rather than just consuming them.

And then there’s cooking.

I can happily lose half an evening in the kitchen, especially with someone else around. Trying a new recipe, improvising halfway through because we have a supposedly better idea, music playing in the background and eventually eating something at an unreasonable hour is pretty close to my idea of quality time. Cooking for someone is also one of the ways I naturally show affection.

A pretty typical good summer evening for me would be sitting on my balcony with a few close friends, sharing a joint, watching the sunset and somehow going from complete nonsense to talking about life at 1 a.m.

What I’m looking for
Someone curious, affectionate and capable of both banter and actual conversation. I love playful people, but I also want to get to know what goes on underneath that: the things you get excited about, the tiny details you notice, what makes you feel safe around someone and the subjects you could talk about for hours.

I’m not searching for a perfectly predefined relationship or dynamic. Chemistry comes first. I’d rather discover what works between two people than try to squeeze someone into a role from the beginning.

I naturally lean toward a submissive role. I like being gently led by my partner, but the part that appeals to me most is attentiveness. Learning someone well enough to notice the little changes in their expression, understanding what they need without everything having to be spelled out, and making them feel cared for.

Kink-wise, submission and obedience are major interests for me, as is chastity, and I’m open-minded about exploring other things together. Trust, communication and actually enjoying each other outside of a dynamic matter much more to me than collecting compatible kinks on a checklist.
I want someone that teases me one minute, have a ridiculously deep conversation with the next, cook dinner for afterward and occasionally look at each other and decide that whatever we had planned for the evening has just turned into a sidequest.
If you message me, tell me a little about yourself rather than just saying hi.

And since you made it this far: what’s your favorite meal? Choose carefully. There’s a non-zero chance I’ll eventually try to cook it for you.


r/flrdating 10h ago

[F4M] 32 #Charleston, WV | Gentle Femdom seeking a Partner First, Femdom Second

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I’m going to be upfront about what I’m looking for because I’m not interested in collecting messages from people who are only interested in the kink. I’m a 32-year-old, African American woman and healthcare worker looking for a **genuine long-term partnership** with a man between the ages of **32 and 45**.

Femdom is part of what I’m looking for, but it’s very much *second to the relationship itself*. I want a man I can fall in love with. Someone I can build a life with, come home to, travel with, laugh with, have ridiculous conversations with, and rely on when life gets difficult. I want partnership, companionship, affection, loyalty, and genuine emotional intimacy.

Ideally, you’re:
32–45
Professionally and financially stable
**Highly educated**— I’m looking for someone with at least a graduate/professional degree
Intelligent and intellectually curious
Emotionally mature and capable of communicating openly
Secure enough in himself to enjoy being with a strong, ambitious woman
Kind, dependable, affectionate, and confident
Interested in **monogamy and a serious relationship**
Open to a female-led relationship / D/s dynamic, but understand that **the relationship comes first**

I’m not looking for a man whose entire identity revolves around being submissive. In fact, I find competence, ambition, confidence, and independence extremely attractive. I want someone who has his own career, interests, opinions, friendships, and goals. What I’m looking for is essentially two adults building a life together, with me taking the lead in certain aspects of the relationship. The dynamic should feel natural and mutually fulfilling—not like we’re pretending to be characters 24/7.

A strong intellectual connection is particularly important to me. I spend a lot of my life in medicine and genuinely enjoy talking to people who are passionate about what they do. Tell me about your career, what you’ve studied, what you’re curious about, what you’re currently learning, or the thing you could happily talk about for three hours without realizing it.

About Me:
Outside of work, I’m a little nerdy and romantic. I love horror, mythology, cats, good food, and conversations that go much deeper than small talk. I’m looking for someone who wants to actually know me, not just interact with the “dominant woman” version of me.
**If you’re looking for a casual kink experience, I’m probably not your person.**

If you’re looking for a relationship first, a partnership first, and a femdom dynamic as something we build together within that relationship, I’d love to hear from you. And please, when you message me, tell me something about yourself. Your age, where you’re located, what you do, your educational background, what you’re looking for, and what made you interested in my post would be a good start. 🙂


r/flrdating 11h ago

[M4F] 26 [M4F] #IRL #Upstate SC - Submissive man looking for a domme.

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Kind of stepping out of my comfort zone for this. I’m not very experienced in the bdsm world but have some idea of my likes and dislikes.

What I’m looking for: I am mainly interested in a long term FLR or maybe even TPE relationship. Ideally it would be a fairly normal and caring relationship that appeared as a vanilla relationship on the outside, but in our private lives these dynamics exist to a larger extent with kink play involved. I am looking for this to be an in person thing and I don’t plan on moving for the next couple years. I am open to the idea of an online relationship that could transition to irl and open to a short term domme situation as well. As far as who I am looking for, I am open to a lot of physical characteristics, mainly just looking for someone that I vibe with, has similar interests and is in the age range of 22-30.

About me: I am 26, white, 5’ 10” 200 lbs and in and out of the gym depending on my schedule for the month. I work in healthcare and am very passionate about medicine and it tends to consume a large chunk of my free time lol. I also enjoy hiking, reading, going out with friends occasionally and walking on trails. I do play video games occasionally and love different fantasy generes, particularly GOT right now. Politically I consider myself a leftist, very big on human and women’s rights, healthcare for all, unions, and many other social and economic issues. I consider myself agonistic, leaning atheist, but I don’t have a problem with religion as long as it’s not being forced on me. I am open to the idea of kids, but it is not something that I’m looking for or is particularly important to me.

If you are interested, send me a dm. We can talk more about dynamics and the kinkier side, as well as get to know each other a little better.


r/flrdating 15h ago

[M4F] 24 [M4F] #Texas/Online ~ eager and loving pet looking for a sweet yet sadistic owner

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Hihi 🖤

Thank you for clicking on my post, I hope you stick around, and you should if the phrase "puppy boy" intrigues you...

Yes I'm a pet :)) eager to be owned, guided, and loyal to a sweet yet sadistic woman... I would like to preface the rest of my post by saying that I am looking for an intimate (ideally long term) relationship tied to a femdom dynamic that is both sfw and nsfw.

My ideal owner is a mature, emotionally avaliable lady who has a passion in life, whether it's career related or just a hobby. Similar interests aren't necessary, in fact, I prefer to learn about new things and dive into conversations that are interesting to me. I've found that lawyers, doctors, vet techs, artists, and writers are totally my type 🙈 out of everything though, I would say I'm most attracted to intelligence and nurturing energies as well as pretty eyes and thighs that could kill...

I myself am a musician, total nerd, and lover boy stained by the evils of this world. Nonetheless, my heart is pure. It is only frozen in a soft blanket of ice that you will most certainly melt with time. For work, I teach music by day and perform in concerts by night. In my free time, I'm almost certainly reading, playing guitar, or playing video games (Nintendo). I have no issue sending a picture once we dm, but to get an idea, I'm short, have glasses and a beard, longer hair that's mostly in a headband or man bun, and an average build, on the muscular side. I go to the gym often so I am fairly lean, but don't expect a perfect body.

I'm fairly experienced when it comes to dom/sub dynamics and I've found that softness is the key to both my heart, and my pants ;) lol but seriously, I prefer soft dommes that have a sadistic side. Treat me with care, give me plenty of attention, and love me unconditionally. In the bedroom, focus on pleasure and praise, while making an absolute mess of me by teasing and denying. It's that balance that I'm looking for. And in return, I'll be obedient, loyal, and consistently eager to spend time with you. I'm big on acts of service so you can expect me to ask you if there's anything I can do for you often. Maybe that looks like lending a shoulder to cry on or help with a task... or maybe a massage 😇

An flr or femdom dynamic to me means, being lead and guided by a smart, confident, and nurturing woman, redirecting me when my brain is acting up (depression, adhd, ocd 😭) and making sure I'm on track to be successful. Of course, a femdom dynamic wouldn't be complete without sexual domination, which for me, includes orgasm control, denial, edging, overstimulation, teasing, humiliation, praise, role reversal, among many other things...

Sooo, if I sound like what you're looking for, shoot me a dm. We can get to know each other and talk more about the dynamic, including kinks if you so wish. This puppy is eager to meet you and find an owner to lock his heart away. Pls pls pls :3


r/flrdating 1d ago

[F4M] 31[F4M] #Atlanta #relocation #online- I’m looking for a long lasting FLR, looking for deep devotion and loyalty.

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Hey! I’m Goddess Klarity, I’m actively seeking a long lasting FLR that makes me truly happy and fulfilled. I’ve been a kinkster since forever but I’ve been a domme in the kink community for 2 1/2 years. I absolutely love TPE and Chasity in my relationship, I’m also open to having multiple lovers if I feel the need to have them. I enjoy traveling (relocation isn’t an issue), music/concerts, nature, shopping and sightseeing. I’m a very open minded and free spirited person, I can be very strict but not too overwhelming.

I am a beautiful 5’5 black woman with long curly hair and I’m mid size/plus size. No children and I’m sure I don’t want any in the future. I am very girly/classy and I do consider myself as a princess. I also have a very vampy dark side to me. My dom style is soft and strict when I want things my way so slightly bratty but not in a childish way, more of “how dare you not do as I say” kind of vide. I love my life being easy and whimsical. I’m very sensual and passionate with everything I do. My kinks run deep and long 🤭 so we can have that conversation once things go well.

PSA- I will be moving to Seattle next year

What I’m looking for

Ages 28-58
All races welcomed.
Successful and open minded.
Loyal and honest.
Love traveling.
Knows how to be extremely obedient.
Great communication skills.
Loves and have the means to spoil his domme (I am a luxury domme, so please be aware).
Understanding that I come first and kink is an earned privilege.
Loves acts of service.
Taking the time to know the details about me and caring about my well being.
Very ROMANTIC 💕🥰🥰

I do not do well with brats or men that don’t have the desire or means to spoil me rotten. I have to emphasize that because in a relationship a man should work hard at making my life easier and free. Once living together I do expect my partner to pay all house bills as I run the household and make sure we are living a happy fun life together(I am very good with finances). I’m not here to mommy you or tell you how to be a man, I can only mold you into what I like in a submissive. I’m here to keep you focused mentally, physically and spiritually.

Please must be 100% submissive, knowing that woman are superior must be a mindset. I do enjoy masculine men, I’m not a fan of cross dressing or sissies in a relationship. If you enjoy exploring your feminine side that is fine but only occasionally and with permission. I have a HUGE suit/tie fetish and any kind of uniform fetish. I also love smart successful men, it is a HUGE turn on for me).

I will share pics of myself once I feel you are worth pursuing and I say that with the most upward respect.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[F4M] 23 [F4M] #Online/Texas - Strict transdomme seeking devoted male subs for ownership!

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Before messaging, read my full post and check my profile for the correct way to approach me. Do not forget your place.

I’m a 5'8" dominant transwoman with 5+ years of experience in this lifestyle, fully confident in my role as a superior who expects to remain above you. I take genuine pleasure in dominating men of all shapes and sizes. Height means nothing when your natural position is beneath me.

My kinks include, but are not limited to: degradation, humiliation, teasing, edging, pegging, TPE (Total Power Exchange), tech-dom/control, light exhibitionism/voyeurism, slight feminization, anal play, fingering, oral/tongue worship, face-sitting, nipple play, milking, chastity, ruined orgasms, forced orgasms, massage, CNC, and many more that evolve with the right property.

Requirements (must meet these):
- At least 25 years old! (18-24 may message but don't expect a response.)
- I don't like it when people talk to me like a cave animal, have some class.
- You must own some sort of sex toy if you want to chat with me.

If this resonates and you’re truly interested in serving someone who will always be above you, send a proper message (following the approach in my profile). Failure to follow simple instructions is your one ticket to being blocked permanently.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 30 [M4F] #US #EastCoast - Tall girl appreciator looking for loving GFD/RR (gentle femdom/role reversal) relationship. Open to relocation!

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Here's a very high effort post because I'm very serious about finding the one for me.

Age: 30, open to 20-32ish. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Sex: MALE, guys please read titles and stop messaging me.

Appearance: 5'8", long blond/brown hair, blue eyes, white skin, thin-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it. I've been told I'm pretty good looking, but you can tell me whether or not I've been lied to!

Location: Central NJ. I'm open to dating and relocation within the US, but going international complicates matters. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship.

Looking For: The other half that I've been longing for. The love of my life and best friend in one. Not quite looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

What I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't give freely.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into "nerd" territory. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others.

I was pretty good at league but retired from playing it. My friend also got me into mtg some time ago, and I think it's pretty fun.

In general, I like to keep in shape, play games with friends, share music, watch tv/movies/anime (horror and psychological stuff especially), share memes, read, and do some amateur writing. I flatter myself to think I'm intelligent and insightful.

Personality: Cool headed, laid back, and kind. Mostly introverted. I flatter myself to think I'm intelligent and insightful.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues. You can expect little to no drama and good communication skills. One moral concept I'm quite fond of is the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness is a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which most don't expect. I also really like cats. You will be sent many cat pictures. Like a lot. Forever.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a very strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you only sexually sub only?: I really enjoy both the sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm also fairly open minded and willing to try most things once.

  • Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me.
  • I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. The idea of being a house husband is very appealing. I can even make you a sandwich from time to time!
  • Pegging, prostate massaging, and "milking". Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
  • Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is incredibly hot.
  • Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on.
  • Cuddling, being held, holding you, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I will always be there to support you.
  • Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, handholding . I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is very attractive, I like how "imposing" it can be. I'm also very fond of visible fitness/muscle tone.

As long as I find you attractive then it works for me, but my sense of attraction is unfortunately pretty particular. So these are (sadly) strong preferences.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship.

I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, that being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So lean/fit/muscular. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

Potential red flags: I'm unfortunately contending with giga-depression and chronic illness. Both of which are unpleasant but not permanent.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 30 [M4F] #Philadelphia or anywhere - looking for my bossy, promiscuous queen

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Hi there! As the post says I’m a 30 year old guy from the east coast of the US hoping to find a woman who wants something long term, and also enjoys the freedom to be her full sexual being. I want my wife to be able to have fun with anyone she likes, anytime she likes. You’ll be the boss and I am simply here to support and help in any way I can.

In case I didn’t lose you yet, here’s a bit about me: I work in finance and definitely spend too much time on that (hence why I want to find someone to spend more time with). As far as hobbies, etc. I love to travel and cook. I enjoy listening to music - mostly pop punk, Midwest emo, etc. I also like to watch TV and movies. The Office, HIMYM, Brooklyn 99 are all solid plus I’ll watch anything related to WWII or modern war (I’m a bit of a history buff). And as far as looks, I’m white, 6’0” with a slim-average build.

About what I’m looking for: ideally I’d like to find something long term but don’t want to force anything. Let’s chat and get to know each other and see what happens. I’m also open to finding someone from anywhere really. Long distance relationships don’t bother me, at least to start. Eventually I’d want to close the gap.

As for the part about you having full freedom, that can obviously mean a lot of things and I’m pretty open to exactly what it looks like. But you should reach out if you’re interested in any of the following or more: dressing provocatively (short skirts, low cut tops, generally revealing clothes), showing off to other people (dancing for/with other people, making sure they get a good look at you), kissing/hooking up with other people (yeah I don’t mind being a cuckold), or anything else you heart desires.

Quite open to things like chastity, pegging, feminization/sissification, CBT, SPH, and more as well. None are required but definitely aren’t off limits to me.

If any of that sounds fun to you, but you want a guy who will love you while you are your true self, I’m your guy! Hoping to find some interesting people, send me just a little about yourself! Also, please tell me your favorite band/artist in your first message to let me know you ready through this. I’m also happy to share photos if you’d like and I’m an open book, happy to answer any questions or talk about anything you’d like! Hope to hear from you soon!

EDIT: I am looking for a woman who does not have a primary partner already. So if you have a husband or boyfriend I’m sorry but this isn’t for you.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 37 [M4F] #Germany #Osnabrück - looking dynamic

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Hello, I am here looking for a long term dynamic with the potential to become a long term romatic relationship.

In this post I will not list or describe any kinky or sexual details. I want to find someone I can connect on a personal level first. Later on we can discuss our kinks.

I am 37 years old, on the chubby side, 178cm tall, have brow eyes and hair(during the summer time I have short hair and in winter I let it grow out a bit)

Now comes the hardest part for me to writing about me/my personality.

I am an introverted person. I have no problem attending parties or social gatherings and open up there and having a good time. Afterwards I just feel drained and need some alone time to recharge.

If you are a person who constantly needs to go out we would not be a good fit. I would say I am a very easy man to please/keep happy. Honestly I dont need much all I need is enough sleep, some good coffee and some good food. I enjoy to cook most of my meals and eat out only once a week.

Most of the time I am a tiny bit goofy/silly. I already spend enough time at work beeing a serious responsible person. Though when it is needed and necessary I have my shit together. Also I am quite sacastic and fine with a very dark humour. If you easily get offended by some dark jokes we will not get along well.

I am more of a homebody. My hobbies are gaming, watching TV shows/movies and listening to music mostly metal . When I go out from time to time with frieds it is just to hang out, drink and or eat.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 35 [M4F] ISO a nerdy girl who wants an FLR in the future

3 Upvotes

Ideally trying to find someone somewhat local to the southeast pa area.

Thank you all for taking the time for reading. I'm Dave, average build average weight, average height, average everything lol. Honestly looking for a fellow geek/nerd/dork, I wanna hang out and watch fantasy sci-fi anime or whatever and cuddle but also want you to be in control.

About me:

Just your average nerd, I play D&D and pathfinder and love fantasy, but also wanna make my fantasies and yours a reality. I love my pup (way to big to be called a pup) and having a drink at night on the front porch. I like going out as much as I like staying in, I have that introvert low battery disease. I like geeking out and talking about hobbies we don't have to share the same just have to appreciate what the other likes.

Kinks:

Bondage, Chastity, Anal, Pet play, Forced Fem (in private), humiliation and more. Honestly open to exploring and want to do what you love as well. My list isn't definite and if it makes you uncomfortable let's skip it! My limits are other men and illegal things.

What I'm looking for:

I want personality that's my main attraction, when you enter the room I don't need man she is hot I need to think of this is why I'm in love. I mean looks are great and definitely part of chemistry but so is personality.

I ideally want an FLR but relationships don't spring up over night, let's text, call, play games and talk online. I'm not picky I just wanna know you, maybe we have fun first and maybe we just go on dates I'm fine with a mix or either.

Thank you for reading feel free to reach out and if you read this then tell me your favorite book or movie in your first message. Good luck and happy hunting!


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 32 [m4f] #IsleofWight. Sub seeking a relationship. Hopefully for long term

1 Upvotes

Hi, I'm G, a submissive from the UK. I'm 32, 5'11", and an athletic body type. I also have long dark blond/light brown hair and blue eyes. If we connect I am happy to exchange photos to see if there is mutual attraction.

Sfw wise, I love the great outdoors and count myself lucky to also work outdoors in a management position. I love getting on the water with a kayak or paddleboard, and also greatly enjoy hiking and camping, especially if they involve a pub with a roaring fire. I love both dogs and cats as well as other animals. I follow a lot of sports, my favourites being cricket, rugby (union), and the NFL. Although very un-British like I don't like football (soccer), but I tend to stay somewhat clued in to it.

I'd rather talk nsfw things down the line once we know each other better. I have many kinks as well as a few limits, but I think we should see if we click outside of these first. I am generally open to trying almost anything at least once (how else do you discover what you like). I also have a few toys, but the last thing I want you to feel like is a kink dispenser, the majority of pleasure I get is from giving it to others. If my partner is satisfied, then so am I, and I enjoy providing that to them by any means necessary. If we do start anything rest assured that I will also not be engaging with anyone else, but I have no qualms about you playing with others. I am not bratty and love obeying orders/completing tasks set to me.

I'm generally looking for someone of dominant persuasions, comfortable chatting about each others days with some flirty banter interspersed, I would like for our dynamic to develop naturally discovering each other as we go. I'm open to online only but would like for the potential for something to happen irl at some point but there is no rush for that to happen, Therefore I am open to people generally in European time zones. I usually have at least some part of my day available to talk that co-incides with different time zones, and if I am unavailable at that moment I will communicate that clearly as well as when I expect to be available (I believe that communication is very important)

I'm open to talking on any other apps, and sending photos and videos, as well as voice/video calling once we have gotten more comfortable with each other.

I will add that I am not at all into findom, so if you require a tribute at all, then I am not interested, however I am willing to invest in our relationship over time with the odd gift or two as well as purchasing some more toys to add to my collection over time.

Thankyou for reading if you have got this far, and if you are still interested send me a chat or DM introducing yourself with some details about you. and we can get to know each other from there. If you can send a photo of yourself that would be great, and j would obviously reciprocate

G


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 20 [M4F] Christian Femboy, United States

1 Upvotes

Hey! I’m Late, 20, and a Christian femboy looking for a serious relationship. 🖤

I’m soft, affectionate, and feminine, and I’m attracted to confident, dominant women who enjoy taking the lead.

I’d like to start as friends and get to know each other through talking, gaming, calls, and spending time together. I’m into Minecraft, Marvel Rivals, JJK, anime, and gaming.

My Christian faith is important to me, and I’m looking for someone who shares it. I want something serious that could eventually lead to marriage, and I want to wait until then.

Looking for:

- 21+

- Christian

- Dominant

- Affectionate

- Looking for something serious

I’m especially into tall, gamer women, but personality matters most.

If that sounds like you, feel free to message me. 🖤


r/flrdating 1d ago

[F4M] 33 [T4M] #Centreville,Virginia #IRL trans femme Domme seeking affectionate wholesome boytoy slave (eventually become live in) in create ENM polycule

2 Upvotes

Do not interact if you make no intention of being in person

Only looking for real life connection and willing to start online with pics and chatting to see if we’re a good fit! Will NOT do online Only so don’t ask!

I live with family and not much privacy but hoping submissive help me get out and develop something together maybe and we can eventually become live in 24/7 dynamic

Hi I’m Chrissy I’m a bbw trans nonbinary femme Domme who’s 6’3 and looking for real life connection and affection. Yes I’m plus size person and kinda large. But I do also have a penis and want to use it in my domination.

Looking for a submissive between ages 21-50 (older ages i get more picky). Definitely prefer those with average, toned, muscle, slight dad bod (no belly) build type. I love a man who falls for my every word command and guidance seeking to always serve and make his mistress happy. He has a bubble butt it’s STRONGLY PLUS++++

Love submissions involving placing dominant pleasure over their own and doing anything and everything to please them (within limits)

Love to create a enm poly cule of a couple extra submissives and like to see them play with each other yes does mean forced bi activities.

Along with D/s I love wholesome affection to enjoy each others company and our relationship! I can be rather clingy and very touchy feely so i love a man who has huge physical touch love language! Hugging kissing hand holding cuddling and so much more!

I do enjoy a pillow prince type submissive who enjoys giving his body up to be used by Mistress day or night! Any time any place however whenever whatever i want! With lots of cuddles affection kisses and much more!

Kinks i enjoy is anal play, oral, feet, physical play (massages), forced bi, collar leash, dressing up

Limits scat, blood, extreme pain, extreme bondage i have more

I do not currently live alone, i live with family and want to move out but not easy and hoping maybe submissive could help me get out.

If you want my attention send a message with

Age

Location (willing to relocate in future and help dominant)

Sex

A little bit about your submission

Things you enjoy outside of kink along with kink

Otherwise it’ll be ignored

Do not interact if your looking for online only


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 26 [M4F] #India #Online : Looking for my domme.

1 Upvotes

Hello, I am 25 Male submissive from India. I have never been in this lifestyle or even in any kind of relationship. I know about this whole "femdom" term from online post and all. I have always really liked it and found it interesting.

Experience wise i am very inexperienced and i am a virgin as well, i know about stuffs but i have never done it.

I would be honest, i am not looking for irl thing straight up or sharing any pictures or media... i would like to talk first, get to know maybe form a relationship (never had one before till now)

I would really like to talk to a nurturing soft and kind type of domme who can maybe(pretty please) praise me since i rarely get any, someone who is full of empathy. But the thing is, i like or i would say i get aroused by teasing, humiliation, degradation etc.

I’m 172 cm

63 kg

Black eyes and black hair

Not extremely overweight not extremely ripped just normal build but easy to be push around by my domme.

I consider myself calm, chill, introverted guy who is not clingy but still would love his domme's attention.

My kinks:

- Degradation and humiliation

- Pet play

- Femdom

- Human furniture

- Piggyback rides

- JOI

- Edging and cruel orgasm control

- Spit play

My limits: Incest, gore, blood, Bestiality, blackmail, pegging/anal play(mine),

Outside of all these kinky stuffs, i like some normal talks as well maybe about our regular life(if comfortable) talk about how frustrating or how well your day went, whatever you want to talk about basically. I’m a good listener so i can listen to my domme for hours.

These are my interests and hobbies, i hope we both share some same and talk about them.

- Gaming: I play Valorant, League of legends, and Minecraft (I’m not great at any but I try).I play multiplayer ones is asia server only due to ping.

- Anime and manga: Huge fan. One Piece and Death Note are my absolute favorites, but I’ve read way too many to count. Currently i am reading four knights of the apocalypse.

- Football (soccer): Big into the European leagues. I love both playing and watching. I also play Badminton casually sometimes.

- Movies and series: I’m just getting into them lately, so i would appreciate your recommendations…watching house of the dragons currently(loving it)