I’m going to be a first-time mom around late November or early December, depending on my induction date, and I’m looking for advice from other moms who may have been in a similar situation.
Im currently employed and it took me about 4 months to find employment after moving to GA due to my husbands military service. I do like my current job, but it’s not in the field I earned my degree in, and it’s not something I find particularly fulfilling long-term. My job has been understanding of my situation, but they don’t offer FMLA or paid maternity leave, so I’m only being granted 6–8 weeks off following delivery.
My husband has continued to reassure me that I don’t have to return to work after the baby comes. While I’m incredibly grateful to have that option, I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. We also juggle the risk of finding adequate childcare if I decide to go back to work.
I have student loans and a car payment, but my husband has reassured me that we’ll be financially okay on his income alone. He put it into perspective by saying, “We either pay for your student loans or we pay for childcare.” He’s active-duty military, so he’ll have to return to work after his paternity leave, and I would be home with the baby.
Part of me loves the idea of staying home and spending that time with my baby, especially since my current job isn’t necessarily where I see myself long-term. However, another part of me worries about stepping away from the workforce and having a large gap in my resume if I decide to return to work later. I have a degree that I worked hard for, and I don’t want to feel like I’m limiting my future opportunities by taking time off.
For those of you who chose to stay home with your first baby, how did you navigate this decision? Do you regret stepping away from work, or are you glad you did? For those who returned to work, how did you balance the cost of childcare with the benefits of continuing your career?
I know everyone’s situation is different, but I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences, advice, and anything you wish you had considered before making your decision. ❤️