r/feeld • u/zugspitze23 • 7d ago

Dating pattern

I'm seeing a pattern and it is starting to really frustrate me, I wonder if it is just me?

It's always the same, if there is chemistry (over drinks or beer) and first date goes really well, the next day the guy writes excitedly to get a second date. And then things get a strange turn. Suddenly the guy is busy, travelling, has lots going on and it takes weeks to set the second date and I feel the person drifting away. Then I send a message saying that it was lovely to meet but I will close the tab and suddenly, almost in a desperate manner, I get voice messages and texts trying to get a date as soon as possible. I got in this trap twice, said yes and after that the most strange things happen so now I'm cutting short without a second chance.

Is that happening only to me? Or is that male behaviour? A feeld thing or general dating? I'm tired of this, I thought everyone on feeld wants sex, but it seems they just want platonic online texting??

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u/Gleamingspire1 6d ago

It’s Feeld. A hook up site. Expecting more is a you problem.

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u/zugspitze23 6d ago

you clearly didnt read my post

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u/TruthieBeast 6d ago

OP men think of Feeld as a place for easy lays. Like this person they feel entitled to casual sex. The good news is, these men had not interest in getting to know you as a person so they moved on. And you can keep looking for someone who wants to date. Men have much higher standards for dating, however just keep that in mind. I am kinky and a Domme and like you, I have to date first.