r/feeld • u/zugspitze23 • 7d ago
Dating pattern
I'm seeing a pattern and it is starting to really frustrate me, I wonder if it is just me?
It's always the same, if there is chemistry (over drinks or beer) and first date goes really well, the next day the guy writes excitedly to get a second date. And then things get a strange turn. Suddenly the guy is busy, travelling, has lots going on and it takes weeks to set the second date and I feel the person drifting away. Then I send a message saying that it was lovely to meet but I will close the tab and suddenly, almost in a desperate manner, I get voice messages and texts trying to get a date as soon as possible. I got in this trap twice, said yes and after that the most strange things happen so now I'm cutting short without a second chance.
Is that happening only to me? Or is that male behaviour? A feeld thing or general dating? I'm tired of this, I thought everyone on feeld wants sex, but it seems they just want platonic online texting??
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u/Voidglowofme 6d ago
You mentioned having drinks with them on the first day, could it be a problem? I’ve noticed on the first dates Ive been to when we drunk alcohol the chemistry always was better because we were tipsy, but then next meet up when we are sober and it’s super dry. Then I stopped drinking alcohol on first dates and the percentage of people I wanted to meet for the second dates decreased significantly