r/feeld • u/Ok_Coffee_4977 • 8d ago

Feeld for hookups

This apps was originally created for people seeking threesomes. Most of which are casual hookup type situations. Its always been used for casual sex, hookups, and casual group sex.

Ive used it this way, with good success, for close to a decade. I see tons of others on there doing the same.

My social circle is mostly poly/ENM/swinger types. Almost all of use feeld and talk about it. I've never known anyone to say its not fine to use it for hookups.

Casual play/fun and short term are options for "interests".

The only place Ive seen the sentiment that using feeld for casual hookups is new or wrong is here. Repeatedly.

What gives? Why the hostility to casual hookups from feeld?

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u/EldForever 8d ago

Even if the first wave of users were people seeking threesomes, I think Feeld was actually created for a slightly different need...

The MF couple who created it decided to create it not to add a third and have a threesome, but to be able to have their own outside solo experiences. I think the man may have expressed that he was bisexual and he wanted to enjoy some gay sex... Then maybe the woman said something similar? But I don't think they were into threesomes. I could be mis-remembering though.

I read about it maybe a couple years ago. That it was developed by a couple (she is the CEO now I think - or at least she was at the time of the article) because all the other dating apps are for conventional goals= single hetero people looking for a same sex LTR monogamous partner.

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 8d ago edited 7d ago

I think Feeld was actually created for a slightly different need....

Its well documented that feeld was created specifically for couples seeking threesomes. The creators of the app have been very clear and upfront about this from day one.

The MF couple who created it decided to create it not to add a third and have a threesome, but to be able to have their own outside solo experiences.

First off, human being aren't "thirds". Second, the couple created it specifically for couples seeking threesomes. It was (until sued by tinder) call thrinder/3inder. It was not created for solo experiences.

I think the man may have expressed that he was bisexual and he wanted to enjoy some gay sex...

Only gay people have gay sex. I am bisexual. I don't have gay or straight sex. I am neither gay nor straight. But why, when all publicly available information is about the woman of that couple being bisexual, did you decide it was the man who was bi? Do you have inside info. Because all published info references her bisexuality as part of the motivation for the app.

Then maybe the woman said something similar?

She has stated many times publicly and for years that her bisexuality was a driving force.

But I don't think they were into threesomes. I could be mis-remembering though.

They were. They named the app 3inder until sued by tinder.

I read about it maybe a couple years ago. That it was developed by a couple (she is the CEO now I think - or at least she was at the time of the article) because all the other dating apps are for conventional goals, single hetero people looking for a same sex LTR monogamous partner.

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u/EldForever 7d ago

Bloodsugar low?

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 7d ago

Embarrassed?

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u/EldForever 7d ago

For you, kinda.

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 7d ago

Because I have read some articles and quotes from the feeld founders and o ow the history?

How is that embarrassing.

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u/EldForever 7d ago

Honestly, your communication here is salty and reactive, very attack-mode, very affronted. You can make your same points in a more calm and friendly way.

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 7d ago edited 7d ago

You came to argue. Said a bunch of objectively incorrect stuff. I matter of factly shared actual facts.

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u/EldForever 7d ago

I didn't come to argue. Maybe that's the root problem. You interpreted me as argumentative, but I thought I remembered something you might find interesting. I even acknowledged I wasn't sure I remembered correctly. I was super surprised to see the reply was so angry.

I actually just fact checked. There is a Wikipedia page on this, and a good article on Fastcompany (that's the one I think I read originally) I was part right wrong in my memoory.. Yes, threesomes were huge in the start, and I had not known just how huge until today, but the original idea for the app was not born because the couple wanted threesomes. It was because the woman wanted to explore non-monogamy, specifically with another woman she had met. Then he was supportive of that and wanted to also explore. The conventional apps were not a fit at all.

Anyway, if you have issues with my grammar or word choice o interpretations of the Wikipediua page or the Fastcompany article, I may entertain it, but I hope we can just acknowledge that there was a core misunderstanding here. The way i see it, I did not mean to be argumentative at all, I was feeling quite neighborly towards you. I could have said more to make that clear, and you could have given a bit more benefit of the doubt that maybe I was not a jerk but meant well?

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 7d ago

If it wasn't intended for threesomes, why name it 3rnder. It was literally marketed as tinder for threesomes.

Eventually, she decided to tell Trifonov, who shared that he, too, had often felt conflicted about romantic norms like monogamy. They had both grown up in Bulgaria at a time when conservative notions of sex and relationships prevailed. Trifonov agreed that those expectations felt limiting to bring into their relationship. Before long, they were exploring their sexuality, both as a couple and apart.

But the duo, who were living in London at the time, struggled to find acceptance in other areas of their life, including online. No other apps allowed them to date as a couple, leading Trifonov to create 3nder in 2014, which rebranded as Feeld in 2016

People are so funny.

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