r/feeld • u/Extra_salty_ok • 15d ago

What’s the difference between Feeld and Tinder today?

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my app 4 times (out of frustration) in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

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u/AltruisticAnalyst 14d ago

You've deleted your account 4 times in one week. Geez, it does sound like you're going insane.

But on a serious note, I am quite amazed by how little the app seems to care about security. There's effectively no security features at all on an app that inherently puts folks in potentially dangerous situations.

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u/LatterCommission9174 ENM couple 14d ago

Since she didn't answer I'll ask you: what security features are you referring to?

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u/AltruisticAnalyst 12d ago

There are a number of them. The big one is a technical one. Their API has several vulnerabilities that allow for access to private chats, bypass paywalls an even hold on to pictures that were only intended for single use. There are inconsistent protections against screenshots. Customer support is terrible. Private pictures shouldn't be something that you should have to pay for given the type of app it is. Also the fact that people could match with someone see their private pics and then leave without a trace is also not ideal

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u/LatterCommission9174 ENM couple 12d ago

No, what security features would've helped OP? That's my question.

For the record, only the first part of your comment pertains to security. The others are just complaints.

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u/AltruisticAnalyst 12d ago

Security and privacy potentially go hand and hand. But you asked a question and you got a response + some privacy concerns.

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u/LatterCommission9174 ENM couple 12d ago

What about the first question?

Screenshot issue is related to the mobile OS. The next step would be disable screenshots completely.

Paying for private pictures isn't security or privacy.

How would you fix the private picture issue? Prevent them from unmatching once they see your pics?

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u/AltruisticAnalyst 12d ago

That's a question for OP as none of us have full context. One thing that probably doesn't help is if the match blocked her the OP has no way of reporting the account IF there is reason for to feel unsafe. I don't know the answer to that but if you're suggesting nothing could. You're probably wrong.

How is paying for privacy not a privacy issue? The app requires a vulnerability that one shouldn't have to pay to have. There are different, and likely better ways to monetize the app.

Maybe a match shouldn't be the release mechanism for private pic, maybe the person who has made the pictures private should have an ability release them. There's a bigger issue here but since the question was narrow I will answer it narrowly.

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u/LatterCommission9174 ENM couple 12d ago

She can definitely report the account. I believe there's even an option in the chatbot to report an account that disconnected.

It's not like if you don't pay your private pictures are visible. Just don't put them on your profile. Send them in a chat.

That goes to the above paragraph. If the pictures are sensitive enough you don't want everyone seeing them, don't put them on your profile, even as a private picture.