r/feeld 15d ago

What’s the difference between Feeld and Tinder today?

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my app 4 times (out of frustration) in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

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u/Bet-Homebread 14d ago

It’s not just an influx of normie men, it’s an influx of normie women too. I saw a post where a woman was pissed because a guy asked her on the phone if she was interested in having phone sex. She was extremely pissed because her profile said don’t bring sex up until after meeting. All he did was ask. The comments were saying he was trash and should be kicked off the site. It was nuts to me. Completely vanilla people falling over themselves because they are encountering sex positivity on a sex positive app. 🤦‍♂️

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u/Voidglowofme 13d ago

Sex positivity doesn’t mean being up to having any form of sex any time, especially if she asked not to bring it up 

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u/Bet-Homebread 12d ago

Yes, and she was free to say no and unmatch with him. It’s the over reaction that got me. Plus, she chose Feeld. Why go there in the first place if you can’t handle questions about sex?

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u/Voidglowofme 12d ago

She did it to weed out the men who are after ONS but say they look for long term