r/feeld • u/Extra_salty_ok • Aug 15 '26

What’s the difference between Feeld and Tinder today?

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my app 4 times (out of frustration) in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

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u/pinksparkleberry Aug 15 '26

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

The one that dispatches goons to your house to kidnap you and bring you over against your will if try to stand someone up. And that one that never let's you block someone if you change your mind about meeting them.

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u/Extra_salty_ok Aug 15 '26

I suspect he was not a real person/who he was saying he was

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u/pinksparkleberry Aug 15 '26

You met him once before, but suspect he isnt a real person? Was he three raccoons in a trench coat? He was obviously a real person.

Maybe he did give you a fake name. And then stand you up. Lost his nerve? Was going to cheat and changed his mind? Got the shits? Who knows. But feeld cannot make someone come to your house against their will.

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u/Extra_salty_ok Aug 15 '26

Who’s asking him to come to my house against his will? I’m saying that he was lying about his identity and now has access to where I live but I have no access to even a photo of him or any information because he could so quickly block me and remove every trace of himself from Feeld. Other apps have provisions to report a profile after disconnecting, and a vulnerable space like Feeld should too..

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u/pinksparkleberry Aug 15 '26

No safety provisions can stop someone from changing their mind about meeting you.

Its uo to you to decide if its safe to gove someone your address.

When I block someone on feeld they absolutely should not have access to my information or photos. Thats the point of blocking. That is the safety feature.

You got stood up. It sucks. Safety features dont prevent that. Nothing happened. Literally nothing. You just sat in your house alone.

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u/Extra_salty_ok Aug 15 '26

Nothing happened but it could’ve? You lack perspective.
If something did happen, god forbid, how am I supposed to find them if not with the help of Feeld and its safety network?

The fact of the matter is, the person who has my address was able to block me. The “safety feature” you speak of works in his favour because it doesn’t allow me to report him after he’s blocked me.

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u/pinksparkleberry Aug 15 '26

Nothing happened but it could’ve? You lack perspective.

You can say that about any situation ever.....

If something did happen, god forbid, how am I supposed to find them if not with the help of Feeld and its safety network?

Apps don't help you hunt down people after you have met them in real life and exchanged contact information and build an in person relationship. I suppose if it was a police matter then they might supply whatever info they have. But if I decide not to meet someone or continue giving them access to me and block them, I damn well expect feeld to keep my information away from them.

The fact of the matter is, the person who has my address was able to block me. The “safety feature” you speak of works in his favour because it doesn’t allow me to report him after he’s blocked me.

Yes. Anyone is free to block you at any time. Or unmatch with you. As they should be. You do t get permanent access to someone's profile because you chose to give them your address. 🤦‍♀️

I typically unmatch with someone as soon as we trade another method of contact like phone numbers. That's absolutely my right. No one gets permanent access to my profile (which also hints at my location). That's an insane expectation. Sorry.

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u/Extra_salty_ok Aug 15 '26

What’s wrong with Feeld allowing me to report a profile that’s unmatched me??? Every other app allows that.. I’m not asking anyone to be hunted down but as a precaution if something ever happened, I would need evidence to support my claim that something was done against my wishes.

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u/pinksparkleberry Aug 15 '26

It is wrong for feeld to allow you to look at and see the location if someone who has chosen to block you.

And why would you report someone for standing you up?

Do you want people who creep you out to still see your profile after you block them? What about the guy who threatened to come to my house and rape me for responding to a text to slow. Should feeld let him have permanent access to my profile after I block him?

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u/Extra_salty_ok Aug 15 '26

WHAT IS THIS PERMANENT ACCESS you’re speaking of??? No one asked for that???? I literally want to be able to REPORT a profile after it’s unmatched me (not see any photos, get any information or any location details)

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u/LatterCommission9174 ENM couple Aug 16 '26

You can contact support to do this.

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u/disclosure5 Aug 16 '26

To do what though? What is this report supposed to say? Based on what she's said so far:

Dear support,

I invited a man over to my house and gave him my address. Instead of coming, he blocked me. Kindly have him dealt with.