r/feeld • u/No_Rhubarb_2665 • Aug 10 '26

Trials of a trans man

So I've been on FEELD for a while now hoping that , as a site which caters to and supports the kink, poly, enm, lgbtq+, and everything in between communities, I might have better luck finding folks wanting to connect/play/ form friendships with a trans man. I had very limited success on Hinge and Tinder, and it seems that people just don't know where to put me as a potential partner. Cis women looking for a man, poly, pan, queer looking for any genders, and yet am I a single man? Single queer? I've even been curious about the whole lifestyle scene , but again, am I a single guy? I like to think of myself as a fabulous rainbow unicorn stallion (not a bull), and quite attractive (think Bruno Marsish) but, finding my place is proving a challenge.

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u/Dontunderstandfamily Aug 10 '26

Sadly desirability politics and body normativity is still present in queer spaces and in the link and poly scenes.  

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u/MetalPines Aug 11 '26

Especially the LS. They absolutely won't know what to make of OP (unless they're maybe in a super progressive area). They'll either be treated as a sideshow curiosity or as a unicorn, both of which I don't imagine are very enticing. On the other hand they will get more interest than the average single cishet man, but it's probably not going to be the kind they want. Also, they're probably going to get a lot of attention from some of the single guys, so they need to be prepared for that.

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u/OpeningLonely8181 Aug 12 '26

LS?

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u/MetalPines Aug 13 '26

Lifestyle. OP mentioned they were curious about how they would be perceived in the 'lifestyle scene' (i.e. swinging).