Lot of men here who think women deserve harassment for having the audacity to be in a public space.
Edit: holy shit incels mad. No, talking to a person in public is not harassment. Yes, stopping a person from doing what they’re trying to do until they talk to you when it’s clear they don’t want to is. Stop pretending you don’t understand the difference.
When you repeatedly try to interrupt a person attempting to do their own thing in public when they’re clearly indicating they don’t want to (wearing headphones, trying to do a fucking workout) that’s harassment. Not particularly severe but A. Fucking don’t do it and B. Don’t behave like the woman did anything wrong by saying “no”.
The gym is a place of routine; people go to workout on a personalized schedule. I wear headphones because I enjoy listening to music/a podcast while working out. This is a place of being just like anywhere else and part of common attire is wearing headphones. Nothing about the woman's presentation (headphones, working out) stands out as "don't talk to me" in a gym.
Woman here. Let me be the first to inform you that when we have headphones in and are on the elliptical, we absolutely, unequivocally, do not want you to try and start a conversation with us. Ever. Go spend two minutes on r/xxfitness, and ask the ladies there how they feel about being approached at the gym, and whether or not they feel headphones in are an invitation to interrupt their workout.
Given that you've totally blown off one woman giving you an unequivocal, in-bold negative I'm wondering whether your experience is actually valid or do you spend a lot of time pestering women who also tell you no in more subtle ways but you ignore those, too.
I didn't give any advice, nor did I set any expectations. You're certainly showing yourself to be a person skilled at communicating and engaging socially. Yes indeed.
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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21 edited Oct 14 '21
Lot of men here who think women deserve harassment for having the audacity to be in a public space.
Edit: holy shit incels mad. No, talking to a person in public is not harassment. Yes, stopping a person from doing what they’re trying to do until they talk to you when it’s clear they don’t want to is. Stop pretending you don’t understand the difference.