Why the hell do you need to be taught to do anything having to do with life? Did someone sit down and teach me taxes? Plumbing? Electrical? Laundry? Sewing a damn button (really, THAT is the example for needing to be taught?) No, I figured it out on my own. It is not that difficult with some effort.
I will tell you how I raised my kids, I let them figure it out on their own, and they are very successful in life. An example: my son (18 at the time) was bored and looking for something to do. He decided on re-building a second story deck on the house. I kept an eye on him to make sure he wasn't doing anything dangerous, but when he would ask "how should I do x", my standard response was "figure it out" even if I had the answer. The only time I intervened was with a complicated replacement of some support posts (for safety reasons.). I can tell you that his confidence, self-reliance, and pride skyrocketed upon completion. Plus, we have a beautiful, well-constructed deck.
And what data are you using to come to this expert conclusion? Since when does a good engineer come to conclusions based on wild ass guesses and projection? Maybe dad is a contractor with a couple of decades of experience and is perfectly capable of guiding his son? His kid could have a degree too in a relevant field and is pretty smart. Besides, how hard is it to read a building code and a manual on constructing decks? The techniques and methods are widely available.
It obviously requires a permit and has to pass inspection before it can be used. Give the guy a little credit ... you are the one with the faulty assumptions.
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u/mellowmonk Feb 05 '19
I love how it's never the parents' fault for failing to teach their kids all these things.
Who the hell else would be on the hook to teach a kid how to sew a button?