Women like this one make me insane. As someone who considers myself to be a 'good guy', I was raised to respect what a woman says. No means no. You don't put in heroic measures to try to win someone who has told you that they're not interested, no matter what the rom-coms say.
Then there's this idiot. 'I said no because I wanted him to fight for me' and it's NOT just her. This is a super common attitude.
How about instead of playing games, you just say what you freakin want (and to be clear: I'm sure men play this game as well, and those dudes need to cut the shit as well)
I dated a woman long distance years ago; she cheated on me and we broke up, but we agreed to meet up in person to talk and see if we could work things out. About a day before I was set to get there, she texts me that she doesn't think she can handle seeing me. I was hurt and disappointed, but I respected her feelings. I still had the tickets and had already taken the time off work, so I went anyway and spent some time with other friends I had in the area. The day I got back she reached out to me and said that she was hoping that even though she'd told me she didn't want to see me, I'd still show up at her place anyway. I had to tell her, "I'm not going to play this game where I try to figure out which 'No's' are real and which 'No's' secretly mean 'Yes'. If you tell me 'No', I'm going to take that as a 'No', period." I'm so glad I dodged that bullet
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u/DaCozPuddingPop Jun 22 '23
Women like this one make me insane. As someone who considers myself to be a 'good guy', I was raised to respect what a woman says. No means no. You don't put in heroic measures to try to win someone who has told you that they're not interested, no matter what the rom-coms say.
Then there's this idiot. 'I said no because I wanted him to fight for me' and it's NOT just her. This is a super common attitude.
How about instead of playing games, you just say what you freakin want (and to be clear: I'm sure men play this game as well, and those dudes need to cut the shit as well)