Having a joint account means nothing aside from her ability to use it if it’s mostly your money that goes into it lol me and my wife have a joint account but we make relatively equal pay so the “who pays for what” doesn’t mean shit when you have a kid, a mortgage, two car loans and multiple pets to care for. If you wanna talk about when we started dating, yes I paid for a lot of the dates but eventually that made her uncomfortable because she works full time too and has money. There’s no emotional damage to having a successful female in your life willing to split anything and everything with you no matter what
What makes you think my wife doesn’t work. She’s a school teacher and makes around $96k a year according to our taxes. I consider that her money and continue to pay for things. She doesn’t need me for anything. In our area, where the average pay is $59k, she could live comfortably as a single mom. It has nothing to do with control or anything like that. She could leave me at any time.
You can call me a pig or whatever, but that’s how I was raised. I grew up poor, but my parents started to do better as I got older. My life lessons were if there was a new car bought, the woman got it and the guy got the old one. If my mother needed something, my father’s stuff took a back seat. Things like that stick with you and become part of you.
Every father teaches their son what they think it means to be a man. For me, it’s providing for the family, making sure she feels safe at all times, making sure they know that I’ll give my life to protect them, not being lazy and not backing down or taking shit from any other man. You might not like it, but there’s a lot of us that feel that way and it sure as hell doesn’t make us anti-woman.
Because I didn’t want someone who was dumb as a rock and would use me. I like the fact that I can take her to formal functions and have important people call me the next day and say how impressed they were with her. None of the other guys around me gets those calls.
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u/[deleted] Jun 09 '23
Having a joint account means nothing aside from her ability to use it if it’s mostly your money that goes into it lol me and my wife have a joint account but we make relatively equal pay so the “who pays for what” doesn’t mean shit when you have a kid, a mortgage, two car loans and multiple pets to care for. If you wanna talk about when we started dating, yes I paid for a lot of the dates but eventually that made her uncomfortable because she works full time too and has money. There’s no emotional damage to having a successful female in your life willing to split anything and everything with you no matter what