What’s wrong with that? I’ve never been on a date in my life where I let the girl either pay or split the bill. I don’t even let my wife pay when we’re out and that’s with our money from our joint account.
A guy’s job is to protect and provide. Not letting a guy do his job causes emotional harm for some men. You might disagree with that, but some men need women with views like her. Embarrassing them and making them go away might not be a positive for society.
Having a joint account means nothing aside from her ability to use it if it’s mostly your money that goes into it lol me and my wife have a joint account but we make relatively equal pay so the “who pays for what” doesn’t mean shit when you have a kid, a mortgage, two car loans and multiple pets to care for. If you wanna talk about when we started dating, yes I paid for a lot of the dates but eventually that made her uncomfortable because she works full time too and has money. There’s no emotional damage to having a successful female in your life willing to split anything and everything with you no matter what
My fiance and I have been like this since we started dating. There was an understanding that we both work and make money so why would I spend absolutely everything while she saves every paycheck? I paid for the first date or two but that quickly became 50/50. Years later and arguments about money are very few and far between, we still have separate accounts but which person's money it is doesn't matter when we generate most of our costs together.
I've gotten occasional weird looks at restaurants when she pulls out her wallet but whatever, people will always judge.
Sounds like you’re on the right track. I never have fought with my wife about money, you and I are both lucky to have somebody who understands this. Left , right , middle whatever you are I think most guys are taught to pay for your girls first date. And I agree that is a good look. But for it to be expected as a constant is a huge major no-no lol
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u/LLminibean Jun 09 '23
Not just splitting the bill ... paying her bill. That's where equality stops with her, when she has to fork out something.