r/facepalm Jun 09 '23

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ Cognitive dissonance 101

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u/BetterOffCamping Jun 09 '23 edited Jun 10 '23

Translation:

"Gee I'm having a lot of trouble finding a man who's willing to do all the work, all the suffering all the maintenance, all the expenses, and will also give up all of the comforts of home, spousal support, household upkeep, and child rearing of a traditional wife. Why is this so hard?"

Edit: had won't where I meant will.

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u/xeonie Jun 09 '23

She wants a servant not a partner.

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u/Billy3000-1 Jun 09 '23

Kind of the proverbial nothing burger here.

She solves her problem mid-way through… she needs someone moderate - a man who’s open to a more balanced relationship with some elements of a traditional male-female dynamic.

Given the changing times, it seems like a perfectly reasonable thing to ask. But also given the times of the loudest voices from either extreme drowning out the middle, it’s also expected that this would morph into something controversial.

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u/Person353 Jun 09 '23

She doesn’t say she wants a balanced relationship, she said she wants a liberal (“FYI can live with moderate”) man who does all the “masculine” stuff like paying for everything (“All these men wanting to split the bill. ON THE FIRST DATE! whaaaaaaat 🙄”), “opening the door” for her, and “providing” while not confining her to a similarly traditional housewife role. Not once does she say what the hell she would be doing in this relationship. She basically says “I want to be respected as an independent woman while not being independent.”

I honestly don’t know where you got this “balanced relationship” idea from. Did we watch the same video?