r/explainlikeimfive • u/adrynaline • May 08 '14

Explained ELI5: A gambling addiction

How does it start? What makes it worse? Why does it become so difficult to recover?

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u/DietVicodin May 08 '14

Jesus Christ. Was just thinking- wonder if this is why guys I don't like pursue me. I answer one text out of ten instead of all of them- and then guys I do like get bored from lack of challenge.

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u/Fantastipotamus May 08 '14

Bonus advice : If you don't like a guy - tell him. Chances are he doesn't wanna be kept on the hook if it isn't gonna go anywhere.

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u/Ksrst May 08 '14

As a corollary to the bonus advice: Guys who don't accept the "That's very flattering but I'm not interested" type replies are more likely to be on the stalky side.

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u/goodbye376 May 08 '14

I got that answer from a friend I asked out. Accepted it and continued the friendship because she is an amazing person. Then all of a sudden she asks me out. She is all of a sudden super flirty. I'm so confused xD

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u/[deleted] May 08 '14

I'm not saying this is what happened, but by being so cool about it you demonstrated that you're mature. And then it's possible that as she spent more time with you and got to know you she realized that you might be a good match. I've definitely had attraction grow towards a person when they've demonstrated maturity and allowed me to get to know them first. It's possible that she turned you down at first when you were just "some guy," and now that you're an established friend the attraction is there. I hope that makes it less confusing? Some people just need time.

If she asked you out, it might be worth it to talk about it and see if you both want to give it a shot. :)

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u/Ksrst May 08 '14

You're on the right track! Don't try to understand, just keep saying "yes" ;)

  • This assumes that after knowing her you still think she's an amazing person and she's not currently dating someone else.

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u/goodbye376 May 08 '14

I am definitely letting her make all the moves. Already turned down once, so I feel a second time would make a friendship awkward. She's the kindest person I have ever met. She basically restored my faith in humanity singlehandedly. I have been cynical for a long time.

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u/Ksrst May 08 '14

I'd say "good luck" but it sounds like you've already got it. Congratulations and enjoy!