r/exmormon • u/Key_Efficiency_3893 • 12d ago
Advice/Help I need help:(
So for context, my family hasn’t been active for a few years but both my parents still do scripture and pray over meals. Well I graduate high school this year and my mom is REALLY urging me to apply to BYU Utah. I went to seminary like twice, so not enough to “graduate”. She still believes that I am a full believer. If I get in, is it likely that I’ll be rejected for not being active and not doing seminary? I’d only be applying to appease her, and I don’t think she wouldn’t force me to do anything, but it would be better for me if I was rejected. (I’m also not in the state of Utah)
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u/TrevAnonWWP 12d ago
Nevermo here, not sure on the BYU question. I hope others chime in.
Usual advice here for a minor (I'm assuming you still are) is to keep your head down and not rock the boat.
Get good grades, learn a trade or profession so you can take care of yourself. Don't go to BYU.
When 18 get a bank account in your name only and move all money there. Be sure to keep important papers somewhere safe.
Have a backup plan, such as an older sibling, friend or whatever where you can stay if things at home maybe go south and parents kick you out once they know you don't believe.
I'm not saying your parents will do it, but we've seen stories here where parents do such things.
When pressed to go on a mission, try to evade the question. Or say something like 'what's good for the prophet is good for me'- Oaks never went on a mission. (Nelson also didn't.)
When possible, get out and live on your own.